How can I stay calm in difficult situations?
My ninth grade Health teacher, Debbie Smith, was one helluva gal. An avid pot user and Obama fan, she taught us all about condoms, angel dust, and the perils of cannabis capitalism.One winter afternoon, I’m sitting next to this kid Jack in her class. And Jack had some serious problems. Problems in school, behavioral problems, and oodles of noodles of problems at home. But we won’t go into all that.Then this kid sitting behind us, Ryan, nudges me. “Hey, what’d you get for question seven?”“I think it’s micropenis?” I said. “I’m not sure though.”Ryan clearly wanted a second opinion. “Hey, Jack?”Jack didn���t answer. So Ryan tapped him on the shoulder.Jack whirled around, screamed “DON’T FUCKING TOUCH ME RYAN” and slapped Ryan full across the face.You could hear a condom drop.What you need to understand is that in American high schools, “bullying” is considered a huge deal. Like, me taking someone’s hat off their head would mean a good three weeks of detention. Hitting people-touching people at all-is a big No-No. And it looked like Jack was going to be in a huge, huge, HUGE amount of trouble, judging by the red handprint across Ryan’s face that refused to disapear.We all watched Ms. Smith, absolutely certain that she was going to scream, cry, or give Jack a good punch in the nose. And if it had been any other teacher, they would have probably sent him to the principal’s office, suspended him, filed an HIB report, and had a meeting with his social worker, who’s kind of a godawful bitch.Instead, she took a sip of her iced coffee and surveyed us.“Don’t hit people, Jack,” Ms. Smith said.“Okay,” Jack said.Some prick in the front looked disappointed. “That’s it? That’s IT?”“If there’s one thing I’ve learned in ten years of teaching,” Ms. Smith said. “It’s that not everything has to be a big deal. It’s only a calamity if you make it a calamity.”Debbie Smith the Wise.
What should I do to feel happy despite difficult circumstances?
The answer to this one depends on two things: who you are, and the nature of your difficult circumstances.If your difficulties are major you may not be able to feel happy at all. You may just have to outlast them. There’s a German proverb that says, “On the best of days, on the worst of days, the sun also sets.”If your problems are only relative, you can do it by playing games with yourself. A little bit of astute self-deception can make things seem more reasonable than they are.I spent my working life in a succession of jobs so menial that it would have been possible to train a monkey to do them. They were dull and boring. So I played games with them—set targets and made it a point of achievement to accomplish more than I was paid to do. Heck, on a good day I might even have outperformed the monkey.If one area of your life is difficult, try to find another area where you feel freer. Try to fit some good bits in with the bad.Since you haven’t explained your circumstances, it’s not really possible to give you a workable answer. Sorry.
How do we live happy in any situation?
It's really hard to be happy in all situation. It's impossible at least for me. But I can handle it accordingly. Look, I am giving you an example. A newly married couple , very happy with their new life, went on a drive met with an accident and the lady lost her husband. At that time she was pregnant………what does she do? Reality is, she can't be happy. She will suffer definitely, but as a human being she has some responsibility towards her and her closest ones at least. she must have to move on. that's it.Even sometimes I feel so bad due to study or some other personal issues.Before someday I was so depressed that I was crying in my room and said my mom I don't want to live! She shocked …….. tried to console me. After 2 days I could realize something . I came out of my room ….talked to some of my friends and saw everyone is worried about some or other. Even I realized that I am so lucky ………there are millions of people who do not know what will be their next shelter. So accept what you are and stay happy with what you have. I don't mean that dont dream to achieve,I am just saying dream big …….follow your dream……but stay in the moment…….stay focussed…….stay simple…….always smile…..there is a saying-live as if you were to die tomorrow…..enjoy. I am sure you would rock the stage of your life.
How can we keep ourselves happy in tough time?
Firstly, choose to be happy. Whatever people may say, happiness can be a choice.When times are difficult, it can become overwhelming for us, but if we remember and believe in this universal truth we can step back, take a deep breath and say, ‘this too will pass.’The universal truth is this one:‘…And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.’ - From The Desiderata by Max EhrmannI try to remember this through the worse times and take a deep breath and try to disassociate myself from what is happening. Mostly, it helps:-)
Does my step daughter hate me?
Everything everyone else said I would have said. I have been a step parent 2x.. this time i have a 14 yr old step daughter along with my 2 girls 16 and 7 from another marriage and the lil girl my husband and i had together will be 2 on my step daughter's bday..lol I know its hard but whenever she talks about her mom.. say something nice like.. ohh how is she.. that's great.. tell her i said hi... dont lay it on thick just do not show any dislike to her mom.. your step daughter will feed off it.. trust me. If she talks about things that she did with ehr mom or likes to do with her mom..say I used to do that with my mom isnt that fun? or i havent dont that in awhile.. you get the idea.. you have to be the roll model.. after awhile she will see that the things she says are not phasing you and your really not that bad.. make a point to ask her if she's called her mom lately? not alot just maybe once a week or so.. if she gets an award or performs in some way.. tell her ohh your mom would be proud.. why dont you call her or make sure you tell her when she calls.... you get the idea.. you have to be a good actor sometimes because there is no doubt that kids can pummel you when they're hurting... And as for the skinny remarks.. i would say something like yeah i looked like that once.. then i had kids.. or she's got good genes.. your lucky she's your mom.. she'll come around.... LIZ
My step-daughter treats me like crap! What should I do?
I have watch her and her two brothers grow for the last 8 years, she is now 15. I have been told that teen girls are the worse, but this is too much. I try to give her everything she wants and she still treats me wrong. Her mother, my wife, doesn't know why she is that way. I always wanted a daughter and was happy to finally have one, but why is she so bad to me. I am trying so hard to be the perfect father to her. Any thoughts?