My wife is pregnant with another man's child and the father wishes to be a part of the child's life. How do I deal with this?
Let me tell you a story. My best friend's mother and father have been married for more than 30 years. They had 2 beautiful daughters, one of them in her twenties, the other - my friend- in her thirties. Their marriage wasn't always happy. She has always been a strong, determined woman, and he has always been a strict man, wit a lot of dignity, a very strong personnality. Both have been working really hard to provide everything their family need. They lived altogether with the grandmother, chidren in a 2 rooms small house. They had very little. But everytime I went to visit, they welcomed me and anybody else as a queen or king. After 20 years of marriage or so, the mother found herself enamored of a colleague of hers. They had a year long affair or so. And she got pregnant. Her lover did not want the baby and even disappeared from her life, as he was fearful his own marriage would fall apart (that's where this exemple is different from your situation, I'm aware of that...). Her husband knew that couldn't be his own kid. Their marriage was on the verge of falling apart. But he stayed. He dealt with it. This wasn't a weakness. It was his greatest strenght ever. Now that young lady is 12. The husband has always been relating to her as his own child. He loved her with all his heart. And this brought the family back together, stronger as ever. A year and a half ago, the mother was diagnosed with cancer. She suffered a lot. About a month ago, knowing she wouldn't make it, she confessed to her child. The incredibly young lady took this the most mature way possible. She said she doesn't care, cause her dad is her dad, and she loves him. The family was united until the end. I actually just got back from her funeral. Her husband is devastated. Even though they faced challenges, enormous ones, they dealt with them. They chose to stay together and to work this out together. The whole family united and was there with her until her last breath. I saw them today together, standing in front of the coffin, holding each other. It was really powerful. Hate will always divide. Hate will cause you more trouble. You have to know with whom your wife wants to settle down. And whatever the outcome will be, the only advice I can share after telling this story, is that forgiveness is one of the purest, greatest gift we can give ourselves and others. Love has many, many ways, and it is always greater than any, any hate.
Would you choose to save your wife or her unborn child during a surgery?
My fiance and I have actually discussed this, at length.I told him, straight-up, that if there was ever a situation where either I could live or my unborn baby could live, but not both, I would choose myself. If that meant abortion, so be it.I have been struggling with depression for much of my life. I spent so many years thinking I was worthless and useless and that I didn't deserve love or to live. There was a stretch of time in my life where I basically gave up and figured I was going to kill myself soon, why bother trying to do anything?But then my depression started becoming manageable. I woke up one morning and saw the sun rise in Manhattan, and I realized I loved sunrises and I wanted to see tomorrow's sunrise too. My depression wasn't gone, but it also wasn't ruling my existence with an iron fist. For the first time in years, I wanted to live. Forgive my language, but fuck circumstances and fuck depression! My body literally felt lighter. My mind was clearer. I was happier. I was happy.Could I give that up for an unborn fetus? Even my own unborn fetus?Could I really put my fiance in a situation where he would have to raise a child by himself while also grieving for me? Would he look at that child and know it was alive because I was not, and not love it any less for that? I'm sure he could, but should he have to?He agreed with me and my decision. He also said he doesn't know how he could raise our child without me. He said that there will always be another opportunity to have another baby and try again if I'm alive, but only if I'm alive. How could he give that child everything it needs by himself? How could he provide for the child while also giving it the love and attention it needs and deserves? Not to mention he has no idea how to take care of a newborn. We're supposed to figure that out together.Some people might think it's a selfish decision, to choose myself, but I don't think so. It would be one of the first times in my life I did choose myself, really.
What is the worst thing you have seen in a movie?
SPOILERSUPER GRAPHIC M Mature audience onlyThe worst thing I seen in a movie is the entire half of the ending part of “a serbian film”essentially it is a tamed violent pornography until the other half of the movie gets really twisted.Milo the porn star starts off doing normal vanilla things, then eventually gets into a career with a shady mafia business that starts him off with mild violent porn. then escalates to feeding him drugs and demanding to hack the chick to death while he is screwing them with a machette. that is the last of the tame part, it keeps getting worse and worse and worse.in one instance in the original film they introduce to him “new born baby porn” where a guy rapes a newly born baby that Just came out of a pregnant woman, that part was edited out for legal reasons obviously. it Gets even worse when a guy pulls out all the teeth the lady has and then rapes her in the face. In the grand scheme of everything unholy and profane and wicked, in the end, he was raped while druged, AND the most heinous part of the movie is that it is revealed also when he was drugged, he had raped somebody under a blanket while his brother raped a different person, the one under his blanket he was raping was his 10 year old son, and the person under the other blanket, was his wife, being raped by his brother.THEN in the name of all things F—- up, his wife milo and the son commit suicide where they will be making a movie of raping their dead bodies, starting with his dead son
How is the life of an unmarried pregnant woman in India?
This happened to my neighbour’s daughter. So I am going to answer this from a 3rd person’s perspective. Also, a 10 year old’s perspective. Some of this, I witnessed and some was later told to me by my Mom.One night, my mom’s friend who was also our neighbour rushed into our house. She seemed to be in a rush and asked my mom for some money. She requested my mom not to tell about it to my Dad. Now my mom was confused and told her that she doesn't hide anything from Dad. Then her friend left without taking money.Few hours later, when it was almost midnight, she came again. This time, she was crying. She told us that Mr A’s daughter(let's call her S) is pregnant. S was barely 15 then. She said that Mr A has taken out his gun in a fit of rage and is threatening to kill her. This time Mom gave her the money which was supposed to be used for abortion. My Dad was in a fix whether to go to Mr A’s house or not since this was an extremely personal matter. Nevertheless he went and returned in the wee hours of morning.What he narrated to mom in the morning was extremely disturbing.Mr A was a man of limited means. You can imagine this from the fact that he did not have the money for his daughter’s abortion. Mr A’s son in law(S had an elder sister) was pretty well off and often assisted the family financially. They felt like they had found a son in him and started trusting him blindly. They used to leave S with him and the rest of the family used to go for shopping etc. He took advantage of the situation and started molesting S. Initially when she protested, he threatened to stop all financial aids and leave her sister. She complained to her mom and all she got was a slap in return. How could she even dare to say such a thing about him!The result was for all to see. She got an abortion done. But due to Mr A’s rage and very closely placed houses, everyone in the neighbourhood got to know this. Everyone looked at her, yes her with contempt and maybe some pity mixed in. Her sister is still married to that monster of a person. I still cannot fathom how does her sister tolerate him.And yes, this was the first time my mom thought it's important to tell me the difference between harmless and bad touch, and instructed me to tell her right away if I ever am uncomfortable with anyone.
HELP! I've experienced rude and mean nurses during labor and recovery for the births of each of my children.
Both incidents occurred at two different hospitals within the last three years. I am pregnant with my third child and dread having to face mean nurses again. I was not rude, nor did I bug them uneccesarily. However, they made me feel as If I were bothering them if asked more than one question. They hated for me to call them when another ice pack was needed and showed it in their tone and actions (Ice packs are usually given during the first hours after delivery to help take down swelling) They also, at one point, refused to give them to me because THEY felt I no longer needed them even after I explained how much comfort they gave me. They'd take their time bringing pain medication as scheduled and even gave me the run arounds when I called for them, "Um, your nurse is away from the desk right now". Okay, why can't YOU come and help me then? Please, give me advise on how to deal with this the third time around.
In the 1940s were their many teenage pregnancies or bastard children?
bastard children? is that supposed to be an insult? *edit* haha oh. hm. my bad.