Proper way of handling a situation?
Chivalrous. You seem VERY slow to move on her cues here, Buddy. Either she still wants you and is laying out a Welcome mat, or she thinks of you as a 'harmless' friend, or she may conclude that you are possibly not into the ladies, at all. She always wants you around? Do YOU call or text her? Do you invite her out for coffee, a drink, a meal, a music nite, a movie, a walk on the beach, a drive, an hour of stargazing? If she's doing all the running, she may back off real soon. What do you WANT from her?
What is the proper way to handle a situation where your significant other hates you staying friends/in touch with an ex? No kids involved and totally innocent.
It depends on whether or not you’d need your relationship to continue. If you have no feelings for this person you’re with, you’re wasting his or her time. And your own. There’s no future for a couple, if one person just doesn’t care. People can insist it’s not someone’s place to choose the friends for the other person. Common consideration for a person dictates otherwise, in this case. It’s not really working out, if you’re unwilling to [finally] say good-bye to “your” ex, and, stop doing this to your significant other.
How would you handle this co-worker situation?
After lunch today, I needed to wash my hands so I went to the ladies room. On opening the door, I smelled that someone was doing their business. No big deal. As I walked over to the sink, the toilet flushed and a lady I work with walked out of the stall (she was the only one in the ladies room prior to my arrival). As I'm scrubbing away with soap and water, I notice she doesn't reach for any soap and just gingerly wets her fingers under the running water (3 seconds tops), dries her hands and walks out. With flu season right around the corner and a pandemic of H1N1 threatening us, how would you, politely as possible, tell someone 40 years your senior to practice proper hygiene? Should I go to our boss or maybe post a note in the bathroom or something? This is sick. She also brings food to work for everyone and I don't think others know of her bad habits.
What is the correct way to handle this situation?
You are investigating a hit-and-run accident and have identified a suspect vehicle. Describe how you would collect paint to determine whether the suspect vehicle was involved in the accident. Be sure to indicate the tools you would use and the steps you would take to prevent cross contamination.
What is the best way to handle a situation where you find out a partner had been cheating on you and lying?
Now up until this relationship, my rule has been "don't lie don't cheat". For some reason my line in the sand has blurred. But, how I handle things is harsh but effective. I gathered all the physical evidence I could. then I started asking questions about the stuff I ALREADY KNEW THE ANSWERS TO BE. That's very important. also, most if not every phone has a recording program or download one free. Start recording and lay the phone down or have it in a pocket and start talking and asking. Try to be inconspicuous about where you are going. let them talk. Later listen to the answers. analyze them and memorize them (its your life we are talking about). Note the inconsistencies. OK, now comes the hard part... Wait. In a few days do the same thing, but, ask the same questions in a different way. Listen, analyze, memorize. Now even if you take notes, wait again till a good calm day and say I've got some questions that I need to get straightened out because something doesn't feel right. Now I hit first with the real, physical or tangible evidence (text, email, phone, pictures whatever). That throws off their game. Now as they are trying to put together a cover for that, I come at them with: well on this day I asked you (x), and you said (y). But a few days later I asked the same thing (don't say you changed the words around) and you answered (z), why, or what's up? Just leave it at that, not one more word till the next question, the silence will drive them nuts if they are hiding something. cover everything in one sitting, they will either come clean or give a third answer (forgot to say, be taping this too). You will know without a doubt whether they are being deceptive or not (not whether they are cheating, that's up to you to decide. Once you have that information you can decide what you think you should do. I'm learning that unless the cheater shows change immediately, and on the spot, and continues with absolute dedication, they are full of crap and don't deserve you!It's harsh, I know, but its what I do.
What is an ethical way to handle a situation where you know that your ex is spreading lies about the way you treated her to your mutual friends and shared social circle?
Honestly; threaten a defamation suit. It’s within your legal right in this case as long as you can prove a reasonable about of defamation. But in all honesty it shouldn’t have to come to that if she is at least reasonable. Confront in the presence of someone who has told you of one of these lies; call her out in front of them. If she persists, then odds are there will be no reasoning with her. It would be ideal if it’s something you could prove on the spot is a lie, but not vital. If she persists then you’ll likely have to pursue legal action to stop her and you’ll have to begin noting when your friends share what she’s saying and what is said. Get audio recordings if you can, print-outs of text chats also help. This is ethical as it’s meant to protect you from the afore mentioned defamation.BUT!!! Be 100% clear here; the interactions between two people can be interpreted in more than two ways. Your interactions with her while together could be getting reinterpreted now that you’re no longer together; in ways to validate herself and feel like she’s better than you. It’s possible without more information to know if she is outright fabricating lies or is stretching truths into lies. Regardless which though it sounds like you two just need to hash things out together; someone may not have gotten the closure they needed.
What's the best way to handle a situation when you know your boss is wrong?
Bosses are people too and they make mistakes. That said they are presumably in a responsible position and have some history of making good decisions.I would start by questioning your position. Are you sure of your facts and your conclusion.Next I would evaluate whether or not your boss has all of the right information.Consider that different people can look at a set of facts and draw different conclusions. So most of the time it’s not a matter of right or wrong. Rarely in business are things completely cut & dried.Consider your intentions. Is this in the best interest of your team and/or the organization? Understand the difference between wanting to do the right thing and being right.Once you’ve considered all of these factors and still want to move forward than the first step would be to do a 1 on 1 with your boss and ask to share your facts and conclusions. A good boss will want your input. Be open minded and listen to your boss’s rationale. He/She might change your mind.After you have stated your case at that point the boss is the boss and you should respect their decision unless it clearly puts people or the company in danger.If you feel so strongly you feel you need escalate to your boss’s boss you are taking a big political risk. Typically this would only come into play if your boss is breaking the law or company rules. An example would be hiding or fudging numbers on a report, some form of harassment of an employee or some other unethical behavior. I would find a mentor and discuss this before taking any action.