What should I do when someone forces me to do something when I don't want to do it right now?
In almost all cases for adults, no one can force you to do something you don’t want to do. At some point, you make the choice to do that thing, perhaps to avoid a conflict or argument.So, your question might really about how to explain to someone you care about that they need to respect your time and wishes. In that case, it’s best to be honest without being critical or angry or insulting. Focus the attention on the fact that you don’t feel heard or respected. Explain how that makes you feel. Ask if you can do it at another time, then choose a time to do it and stick to it.Don’t make promises to do something and then break them, but don’t be bullied into doing something you don’t want to do.
Why is it so annoying when someone tells you to do something you're about to do anyway?
There are lots of answers to this question.However, that fact is that it doesn’t matter what the intention of the other person is.Where it comes from (self-anxiety, benign helpfulness or controlling behaviour) is less important than how you deal with it.You see, what matters is how you feel about it and your ability to nutralise possible feelings of negativity through your own reaction.Let’s talk about a solution instead of just being annoyed. Being defensive is no fun. It helps to have a come back line that establishes that you were one step ahead of them.Here are some examples:“I’m one step ahead of you.”“Great minds think alike.”“We’re on the same page.”“You read my mind.”“Already there.”“Eat my dust.”“Already on it.”“On top of it.”“That’s my next step.”“I’m on it.”If you’re a generous person and the person you’re with is a kind one, you are safe to say:“Good thinking!”“You’re right.”“On my way.”“Yes ma’am/sir!”With my husband, we say to each other:“Good thinking, batman/girl!”*————————-*Yes, I know, ‘girl’ is not ‘woman’ or ‘lady’. However, one syllable sounds better than two to both of us.
When someone tells that you can't do something, do you give up or keep trying?
When I was younger I would always give up on things if I was told I couldn���t do them, or do them well. I wasn’t taught like this, it was just how I reacted.When learning a new skill, some may find it easier, some may find it harder. But one thing is in common. The more you practise the better you will get. It doesn’t matter if you weren’t born with a voice with the tone of an angel. The more you practise, you will find out how to control your voice, project well, and change pitch more and more easily. You may even find a genre of music which suits your voice perfectly.When I first started dancing for a University club performance I was about as useful as a jellyfish on land. But we practised for a year, and ended up finishing our performance at the nightclub venue with smiles all over our faces.It sounds cliche, but practising is the key. Commitment is the issue. As long as you see where you want to be, stick with it.
When someone tells you not to do something you want to do it even more, why?
If it is a question that is demeaning, or degrading, let me tell you this. I am a REBEL especially if I know am right about something.Other then that, the act of being insubordinate is just being a stubborn fool, that doesn’t know why or what or when and fails to find out the reasoning.
Whats the word for when someone does something they said they wouldn't?
hypocrite
What if you had to read someone's diary and read something disturbing. Do you tell?
I'm not exactly in these shoes as it isn't a diary or journal, but very close. I feel a bit dirty and guilty. I read only what I had to and will not read the rest although I have to keep it. The worst part is telling someone else they had better not read any more than they already have as they will be deeply concerned even though no one is in any harm. My question is one of scruples. What if it was something I considered disturbing? Should I tell? I shouldn't even be reading it. Thank goodness I'm not in those shoes, but it is interesting to ponder nevertheless. What would you do?
Is it better to do something for someone else or for yourself?
i stopped communicating with one of my coworkers becuase I didn't enjoy speaking to him and I found out he cheated on his girlfriend( who I didn't know ) with another co worker. now I know his personal life is none of my business, but i just can't look at him the same way. i feel like he only talks to me for one reason. now we only talk business, but i can tell he's trying to make it obvious that we don't speak. i don't have a problem not speaking, but since he does, should he speak up and ask me what the deal is between us, instead of acting out by walking around miserable all day? am I wrong, cuz it feels so right.
What do you do when someone says you should go kill yourself?
cry yourself to sleep everynight and eventually give up on life - or ignore and disregard it , say something hurtful back, sharpen your knife to cut deeper into him, ( say something worse back )
Can you persuade someone to do something while they are sleeping?
Is it possible to go up to someone sleeping, and tell them to do something wen they wake up? like, if i go up to someone sleeping and say "when you wake up, you will have a great desire to clean" or something like that?
What do you do/say when someone says "you are too quiet"?
I don't think you're boring at all Hannah. And you know what I think you should do? Keep drawing energy from just watching and listening to other people. I used to be a very outgoing and extremely extroverted individual full of new ideas that I loved sharing with everyone whom surrounded me. I never picked on the shy ones though. I knew why they were quiet. In fact, I always had great talks and found my shy friends to be far more interesting than all my other loud know it all friends. Yet, as I got older and drifted away from that youthful inspiration, jobs settled in and made life less exciting I suppose. Not to say I don't like what I do. I love it with a passion. But, I'm very quiet and reserved now. Unlike I used to be, the headline act in the crowd. Not anymore. Now it's just the opposite. I'm the guy in the background with a stone face who's constantly being razzed to speak up. I guess I've discovered that wisdom comes from observation and not by the knowledge that you know which in some sense needed to be validated by others. I like being quiet now. I'm at peace with myself and like you said Hannah. It's just who we are. "I know who I am" I melted when I read that. Made me feel good about myself. Thanks Hannah.