Should you remain friends with ex when mutually breaking up?
I went through something similar. It’s what I understand to be a “conscious uncoupling.” It’s a bit difficult to describe so I drew it out here: Broken up but not broken - In Business and Life but basically….:You both agreed and made the decision that breaking up was the honest answer to where you were at your relationship. It was an intentional and mature decision made by two adults who care and respect each other very much. It still hurts and it will still take time getting used to but I do believe that it’s possible to still be friends after breaking up.If you and your ex were good friends with the same values at the end of the day, it’s still worth having each other in your life. This doesn’t mean texting each other everyday and interacting the way you did when you both were together. It just means leaving the door open, should either party need something or need to talk. Be clear about your boundaries and intentions and even if there is a hope of getting back together, be sure to process it, understand it and talk about it as friends, the same way you would’ve as a couple. If you’re worried that this would hurt her, tell her that. If you’re not sure what being friends after a breakup looks like, talk about it with her.The thing about mutually breaking up with someone is that there is still a foundational level of respect, trust and love for the other party. Though you will slowly fade out of each other’s lives, remember to treat those who were closest to you with the same kind of honesty and gentleness as you would want to receive.Trust me I know, easier said than done, but having your heart intact is way better than ending it in hurt and having it completely broken and how you communicate your feelings and thoughts is so important in not only the breakup but the healing that needs to happen afterwards.
Is it normal for best friends to have sex with each other?
It depends on who you ask.Have I (F) slept with my BFF (M)? Yes. Several times over the past 10 years. Do I think it's healthy for our relationship? No. It's hurting him knowing that I don't want to/can't be in a relationship with him.The sex is amazing. Beyond amazing. But we would never work as a couple.We've tried not to have sex. But we're both really sexual and since we know that the other one wants it, it's hard to resist.I hate myself for hurting his feelings. You might be thinking “so stop doing it then?!” But it doesn't work like that. He knows how I feel about him, he knows why it won't work and yet he wants to continue having sex on and off. Only way to end it is to stop seeing eachother all together. As in terminate our friendship. And I don't want that.So if your question would be: Should I have sex with my BFF?My answer would be: What would you do if anyone of you got romantic feelings for the other one? How would you handle it?I wouldn't recommend it. If it's just a regular friend, an acquaintance..then yeah. Maybe that could work. But a BFF is complicated.
Serious Family Situation.... My husbands aunt, and my uncle married eachother,they are know getting a divorce?
Staying neutral is valid... you don't want to choose sides in the situation and that's fine. What your grandmother is trying to do is manipulate you. You might point out that she is doing EXACTLY to you what your uncle did to your husband's aunt, and that is: hold you hostage. You have no reason to pick sides, as you weren't there to know what was going on. Anyone that can't understand your reasoning in staying neutral is too judgmental to please. While the situation may make clear boundaries to them, I can understand you staying out of it and to be forced to choose a side is not only wrong, but probably immoral. Take your stand against her manipulations and stay out of it. Keep your chins up!
Still in love with my ex..how do we stay apart? here's the drama..?
Listen, first, be real with yourself. My husband & I did the on again & off again thing. However, we never told eachother what was going on with other mates in our lives. It was a respect for one another that we didn't want to hurt. Ask yourself - is he telling you to a) make you jealous or b) get personal validation? Either answer... is that what you really want? Sometimes in relationships, its moreso comfort as opposed to actually being love. Other times, it is meant to be, but it's all about time. Time is needed many times for both parties to grow up and out - into who you will be. The time my husband and I spent apart, I learned a lot about who I was. It's difficult being something to someone, when you don't know who you are to you. Search your heart. If he is who you want...is he ready? Are you ready? If he was ready, would he be telling you about other women? If you were ready, would you need help from other people trying to sort it out? Only you know what's really going on. Be real with yourself. And if you both are ready, commit to that and don't let anything change your mind. If you decide it's not meant to be, commit to that. But, before you talk to him, one way or the other, have a talk to... you.
How to fix my stagnant relationship?
Me and my boyfriend have been together 3 years, we have lived together for almost the whole 3 years. We get along great, we trust each other, love each other dearly. We have great communication, and we don't fight. We argue yes, and push each others buttons from time to time, which is normal. But I feel our relationship is turning into a rut. Nothing exciting, how to spice it up and get out of this rut? Also, I feel like Im always in a pissy mood. And I think it's really starting to bother him that I'm always pissy. I don't know why, how do I get out of this funk. Any advice? Thanks
Is it still considered cheating if you are in the middle of a divorce?
Your marriage to the X..is over. The divorce is only the legal aspect. I will just say...another relations will lead to sex and financial aspects. Just make sure the kids are over the change and not effected by the new guy. Cheating is only a word that applies to married people who are misleading their spouse. Be prepared for a new set of peoples habits and desires. No One Is Perfect! Be ready to know that the grass on the other side of the fence is not always greener! Good Luck
My husband wants to have a threesome but I am afraid it will tear us apart because of my experience in my past?
If you were both excited about it, I would say go for it. He's being selfish in not seeing it from your point of view. I know what he's feeling because I was feeling the same way, but then decided that it just wasn't worth it. Explain to him that you just don't feel comfortable do it right now but that you will be totally open to it at a later date if your feelings change. I would tell him not to push the subject and let you come around in your own time (if at all). It should be something for you BOTH to enjoy sexually and leave it be. Not something that should be forced or uncomfortable for either of you.