Why do extroverts try to change introverts to become more like them? I'm always being accused of being too quiet. Do they just not like us?
I’m an extrovert.The only time, I ever say to someone they are too quiet or that they are not sociable enough, or whatever, is because that person is whining. That person is complaining. That person is saying..“Why is life like this? Why no one wants to know me? How come I haven’t got friends?”So you’re complaining about the same thing you do to someone else, who is an extrovert.Exrroverts don’t talk like that. They don’t go off automatically telling you or anyone you’re this and that EXCEPT if that person is behaving in low energy by complaining, moaning or expects people to entertain them.Or the extrovert won’t say a thing because the extrovert doesn’t need you to be entertained because you’re low energy.They’d go and hang around other positive people, other people of high energy who are not complaining, whining, sitting in a corner doing the act for people to feel sorry for them, acting like a victim.And you see these things as “accussation.”That’s victim mentality.How about the person saying it to you, cares, and just is seeing if you’re ok and if you need anything.
Why do extroverts hate introverts?
A primal instinct of fear and distaste in things that differ from oneself, and things one does not understand. Uneducated extroverts don't understand, how one can enjoy being alone with oneself, for they live on the other end of the spectrum. They see it as weird, or fake, because they think everyone is like them (they do make a larger percent of the population).
Why do extroverts hate introverts?
My extrovert friends are constantly insulting me. They call me boring and anti-social when I don't want to socialize with them, and sometimes they tell me I don't have a life. They refuse to respect the fact that I want to stay at home. Sometimes I wish I had an introvert friend who understands me.
Why do extroverts try to change introverts?
Misery loves company
How to change from an introvert to an extrovert?
It sounds like you are going through a difficult time right now. Thank you for reaching out for help! The way that you think dictates the way that you feel. If you think negative thoughts about yourself frequently, you are going to feel negative about yourself frequently. To stop this negative cycle, you have to learn how to control you thoughts. The following website has excellent tips about improving self-esteem: http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/Discove... Sometimes it can help to talk to someone and tell them about what you are going through. Please know that there are people who can and will help you with what you are going through. You may want to consider talking with a counselor at a hotline. There are many hotlines that are 24/7 and will work with you and situations like yours. Some even have email and/or chat if you would prefer. I hope that you will continue to reach out! Sincerely, KO, Counselor
Do most introverts hate change?
Thanks for the A2AThere is so much hype around how we must embrace change and how it's awesome and all. But seriously, change is hard, It takes a lot of introspection, preparation,contemplation,will-power, maintenance(maintaining the change for long periods of time), relapsing and feeling like a failure and starting over again and again. The more significant the change one is trying to bring in their life the more violent,disruptive and intense it is, often negatively impacting one's self confidence while one strives to change. What is most damning is, it's difficult to predict how permanent it is and what the ROI on all your effort is going to be. So, it's safe to say that, to an extent all humans resist change. This might actually be a healthy trait, geared towards self preservation in a more Darwinian context. As for introverts, I don't think they are opposed to change, they tend to become overwhelmed when there is too much external stimulus for change or just too much external noise in general.They tend to handle depth much better than breadth(uni tasking over multitasking). If there are too many conflicting demands for their attention, they get stressed (almost like a stunned mullet) thus appearing inert and obstinate to some. It's self preservation that is misunderstood as an aversion to change.On the other hand, many introverts are life long learners, they are never at peace with the status quo, constantly evolving and refining their beliefs/theories/ knowledge/skills/ideas and hypothesis. In that sense they almost embrace change. The problem is that they (at least some of them)over analyze things and situations. Many introverts at least, the ones I have come across display a "paralysis by analysis" syndrome. Could this be making them look like change haters?
Do extroverts dislike introverts?
Well no, but I'm beginning to, at least a few of you that is.Every other day it's extroverts are idiots , annoying, children of Lucifer, etc.However, what you don't seem to realize is when you say things like this, you come off as sounding like the intolerant ones! Yet on the other hand, you whine and complain when extroverts exclude you.Would YOU want to be around people who do nothing but make you feel as though you’re inferior to them? I sure wouldn't!Anything worth having in life takes perseverance and effort, and relationships are no different. If you want to be friends with an extrovert, or have a romantic relationship with one, you'll have to leave your comfort zone once in awhile..(I.E. home) Not everyday, and you don't have to attend a large social gathering by any means, but you'll have to either accompany them on an outing. Or if you're platonic friends, you'll need to visit them in person once in awhile. Because if you don't, your relationship will slowly wither and die.An extrovert needs to be around people and the outer world in order to recharge, I would almost bet money that the term “cabin fever” was invented by an extrovert. If you are depriving your extrovert partner of this opportunity on a regular basis, I guarantee they slowly will come to resent you for it.Compromise needs to happen in both directions, but it appears some of you think the extrovert needs to change the fundamental nature of what makes them who they are in order to be friends with you. That is selfish, and highly unfair. And before you jump down my throat, it's unfair for an extrovert to attempt to change your nature either. But I don't think there is anything wrong with meeting in the middle. ( You go out to dinner one night, you stay in and watch movies the next)Otherwise if you can't compromise, like the anonymous answer stated, maybe you should stick to dating or befriending other introverts.