Do women have unrealistic expectations of men?
Yes. We always believe that men can improve
Do you think that women have unrealistic expectations of men?
Firstly, as a 20 year old guy, in my experience, it is mainly the bratty, bitchy, and/or spoilt girls who have these ridiculous expectations. Anyway, the main unrealistic expectations in my opinion are... 1. the ripped physique with a MUST HAVE six-pack: Unless the guy has ridiculously good metabolism and spends every day in the gym, getting and maintaining a highly defined body with a six-pack, the budging biceps, and "the V" is extremely hard for most males. Seriously, most elite athletes don't even have the "hunk" body (think about that). Most of these male models that are used by the media only have about 2-4 % body fat, which means that some of them probably starve themselves before modelling. Seriously.....if a guy is willing to put himself through all that work then you better believe he's going to be looking for a female who is worth the work. (granted, not all guys work out 'just for the ladies'). 2. Money and income: This argument made by SOME women, that they are justified to seek out a man who earns the big bucks so they can be provided for, is so incredibly backwards in my opinion... Why, in this day and age, is it still the mans job to pay for and support the female? It's not the 1950's anymore, women can, and should pay for things themselves...(the classic example is the man being expected to pay for a date). 3. Penis Size: I think this is pretty self-explanatory....(again, I realise it's not all females). Incase you think i'm being hypocritical, I swear on my life that these are my only expectations of a woman: 1. Can take a joke 2. Someone who I find attractive (the word attractive is misused in my opinion...attractiveness is subjective, not objective as the media would have you believe...E.g: I may consider a girl unattractive while my friend may consider her attractive..it's not an absolute statement for Christ's sake) 3. Someone who I can actually have a decent conversation with.... That's all folks!
Do women have unrealistic expectations of men and relationships because of exposure to romantic movies and other media portraying the perfect man and relationship?
All of us, and not only women, have unrealistic expectations of relationships.But it is not because of romantic movies, or porn, or literature or whatever. Actually, it is due, in my opinion, to the combination of two things: a) romanticism and b) the increase of living expectations.Until the romantic era people did not expect much from ¨love¨ : they married out of interest - be it self, familiar, political or social interest. Marriages were not expected to last for long. In the Middle Age each person had an average of three life partners, because of death or desease. Love was one thing, marriage another. And, for the nobles, sex still another. Until the end of the XIX century it was accepted that a man had lovers outside marriage because nobody expected marriage to imply love.With the romantic era, the increase of life expectancy, urbanisation - that is when couples started sharing the same bed - things changed, and love, sex and marriage started to become increasingly mixed up.That is why we are in such a mess about all those things today - it is too recent, in evolution terms. We are not equipped to cope with this novelty.But we learn, through trial and error. (I just do not understand why there is more error then trial, but that is just a private joke ;-) )
Are women's expectations of men too high?
I'm a female and I've always thought that too many of my friends are looking for the 'perfect' guy. From the descriptions of their 'soulmate', it doesn't sound like any human being could fit every single criteria. I think it's got a lot to do with romance movies. Are these false criteria for women to adapt? Aren't we all just human? I mean, really, can a person be as perfect as in the short portrayal of the main characters in the film? I'd like to hear all opinions from both sexes.
Are women's expectations of men always going higher?
I was at the store today in the mall. I saw a young couple who looked like they were in love. They were a cute couple, both having a good look about them. They were carefree and evenly matched. I could only wish the best for them...The point is that if you view a relationship as a status symbol like a career that is what you are going to get. If instead you view a relationship as two people coming together because they relate--hence a relationship--then that is what you will get.
Which "unrealistic expectations" are the top relationship killers?
“You must be exactly what I want.”There can be only one answer to this question.One thing you learn fairly quickly from being on an online dating site is the reason why someone is single and likely to remain single unless they get a serious attitude adjustment. Lotsa people have extensive and exhaustive laundry lists of what they want in a life partner. Their lists are extremely narrow, petty, and impractical. It’s not just men objectifying women; women do it to men too. They’re old enough to know better by now.I happed across the profile of a handsome, engaging gentleman, a professor in Liberal Arts. I’m in academia. I can talk shop. But he had a looooong list of particulars and one was: “I’m an ice climber and travel abroad six times a year. You must love ice climbing and be able to join me.”Whoa, what—? Really? Okay, so not only does this guy want a woman who engages in an arcane and expensive activity, but she has to have the time and the money to do it frequently. Um, is her name Daisy Gatsby by chance? Is she a Bond Girl? Can she have a personality too, or is that optional?Well, there goes 99.99999 percent of the female population, including me. Add this criteria to the rest of his must haves (“must look just as beautiful in heels as jeans” = OMG!), and 100 percent of the female population is safely excluded. He’s whittled down his choices to exactly none.This kind of person will never sustain a relationship. He’ll feel cheated if his lover falls shy by one or two points. I know this guy. I’ve dated him. He wants a female clone. A sexy buddy. An “activities partner” (wink-wink). As close as you get to being exactly what he wants—say the 75 percent mark—there’s always going to be something.There’s being selective. Then there’s being ridiculous and delusional. Many people, even highly intelligent ones, don’t know that they’re being ridiculous and delusional. Of course, they don’t consider what they have to offer another individual—only what someone else has to offer them.As for the aforementioned profile writer, I think that this man should wait until robotics is sophisticated enough to tailor-make his ideal woman who will go ice climbing with him six times a year and look just as beautiful in jeans as in heels.When he’s not putting her to use, he can park her in the closet.
Do women ask too much from men in romantic relationships?
I should copy this answer that I post so that I don't have to rewrite it all of the time. Men tend to see women as they are or as the person they present themselves as being. Men don't tend to mind if the woman changes to become more than this over time, just as long as the woman they knew at the the beginning still remains a part of her in some way. So, when the woman changes so completely from the woman she once was, or the man finds out that the woman he thought she was, the woman she presented herself as, was mostly an act, then he becomes frustrated or angered. Women tend to see the man as what he could be or as they wish him to become. So women tend not to see the man as he truly is at the time, but what he might potentially be, and this view of him continues until he either becomes that or not. Since they never accepted the man for his true self but rather for some illusion of him, then they are constantly and continually frustrated and angered when he presents himself as something other than this.
Why do women have so many expectations of men ? (strictly Dating/ Courtship - NOT RAPE OR ASSAULT - Feminists stay away)
A2A: In my experience they don’t. I mean if you’re talking about those long lists women create detailing all the things they want in a boyfriend. Usually they will end up with someone who has only a fraction of them, if any.But if you’re interested in why women appear to have higher standards than men in general, that is, why fewer men pass on their genes? It is because finding success within the context of the male gender paradigm is simply harder than it is within the context of the female gender paradigm.