Why am I so obsessed with getting a boyfriend?
Everyone wants that kind of affection(especially teens!), even I got to the point last year where I really wanted one and was so sad. I made myself miserable over it and realize now that it was kind of foolish. But it is a hard thing to get over, you want someone to care for you and seek you out and want to be with you; one day you WILL find that person. But try to get over it the best way you can, maybe hanging out with friends or doing things that YOU really enjoy, and you may just get a BF out of it. But don't get too obsessive over it; otherwise you'll find a guy who acts like he cares but only wants you for your body or something, and that will only really hurt you... Try and cheer up! Realize that school is MUCH more important right now. School and your future matters way more than a boyfriend, remember that! You need to do good in school, stay healthy, and secure for yourself a good future. Because a boyfriend won't give you those things. You could also start thinking of why exactly you want a BF and then think about the more important things than that..
I feel like i'm obsessed with my boyfriend..?
Sometimes I feel like I obsess over him. Im always thinking about him and sometimes ill daydream about him or imagine what his life was like before me. He seems to have had quite an interesting (exciting yet drama-filled) life and im always wanting to hear about it. When im at his dads im wanting to scan the walls or fridge for old pics of him (his dad has TONS of pics of his kids) from when he was a little or more recently taken ones. Im constantly on his myspace (like loggged into) and looking at his friends statuses (idk why, it just interests me) and profiles and profiles of his old girlfriends (for some reason im just drawn to snooping around their stuff, mainly to see if there is any old stuff on there that involves him). I'll go on his family's myspaces to look around, but mainly to see if they have any old pics of him or to go back and look at said old pics or sometimes comments. I'll imagine him doing things, like how he acts when he is alone or playing videogames or how he acts when he's around family or friends when im not there. I'll imagine him at school in his desk doing work and things like that. I just find it so cute! Im always going to the back of the yearbook room where we keep old yearbooks and look him up in his freshman and sophomore year. (he is a senior this year and im a sophomore. we started dating last year). I searched for him in my 6th grade yearbook (his 8th) and sometimes ill go back and look at the pictures i found. I begged my cousin, who is in the same grade as him, to lend me his 7th and 8th yearbooks so i can search for pics of my boyfriend. He is just almost constantly on my mind. Do i sound creepy or obsessed? I just love him so much and i've never had such an amazing boyfriend. I just always find myself drawn to him and every aspect of his life. Do all girls get like this at some time?
How do I stop being obsessed with my boyfriend? I think about him all the time and he's always on the top of my priorities. I don't think he feels that same way as me.
Your obsessive thoughts are an addiction. You are using the magnetism that you feel for your boyfriend as a way to fill or numb an emotional void in you. Your boyfriend has become your love drug. If your boyfriend leaves, you will find another boyfriend to use as your drug. You must heal your relationship with love before you can have a healthy relationship with men. Your obsessive thoughts are not you. My advice is to listen to your thoughts as if you are an outsider. Hear your obsessive thoughts without judgement. Be attentive to how often they bombard your brain. Obsessive thoughts come like waves continuously and repetitively. They catch a random thought and swing them back to thoughts of your boyfriend. Everything reminds you of the boyfriend and it is painful. Addiction always temps and then pains. Try to put awareness into your thoughts. The more you see them for what they are, the more you can slow them down and eventually stop them.The next step is to look at yourself. Do you love yourself unconditionally or are you looking for a boyfriend or anyone or anything to validate you as lovable? Self love is so important. When you can love yourself ( not in an egotistical way but unconditionally) , you will not use love addictively. You will not use the admiration, affection or love from men to fill a hole in you because there is no longer a hole to be filled. Self love is loving and accepting yourself just the way you are. Self love does not let others abuse you. Self love does not manically critique, judge or compare yourself to others. Self love loves yourself whether it is a fat, ugly or bad day. Self love has you looking in the mirror and smiling just because it is you. Discovering unconditional love for yourself will give you tremendous strength and freedom. Once you are filled with self love, you will experience a beautiful love with a man without the painful need of love.
How can I stop being obsessive about my boyfriend's ex-girlfriend?
Good that You want to.Understand what Dr.Watson said:Quote: The problems of your past are your business and the problems of your future are my privilege!!its hard. Work towards that.
Why am I so obsessed with my boyfriend's ex-girlfriend?
It isn't that you are "obsessed" with her, well okay maybe you are a bit obsessed. But anyhow..really it is just that you are very very insecure, as well as jealous. I can understand how you feel. I get the same way if women flirt or get touchy feely with my boyfriend. But the thing is you have a good boyfriend who isn't flirting back, nor doing anything else. BE HAPPY ABOUT THAT. If you are so worried about the girl..then stop getting into situations where either of you are around this girl and stop "forcing" him to talk to her. You DO NOT need to have anything whatsoever to do with this girl, you don't need to be her friend, nothing at all. You are crazy for trying to force him to talk to a girl that is obviously trying to split you two up so she can have him. You definitely need to stop doing that. He is making it obvious he wants nothing to do with her...so quit worrying, stop thinking about her, and most importantly do not be around her anymore. He seems like he's a great guy and it sounds like you have nothing to worry about.
Why am I so obsessed with my long distance boyfriend? I know it’s normal to miss him a lot but I am crazy in love with him (been together for over a year). How do I stop being so overly attached?
Probably because you are super attracted to him and maybe because absence does really make some people feel more fond of each other.When i was in a long distant relationship with someone i felt a lot like this. I wanted to message him more often than i did but was afraid i might seem overbearing or needy.I cannot say that what i did to handle it will help you but this is the perspective that i took when i started feeling overly attached.First off, i love boyfriend very much so his overall well-being and health is very important to me.If there is something i want or need from him but i feel like it could be damaging, i begin reevaluating what it is that i want. Anything that isn’t good for him, the way i see it, isn’t good for me. We are a team.What we do or don’t do has effects on each other.If it is something that isn’t helpful or positive for him i change the desires. Now, this doesn’t mean that i automatically stop wanting the attention but with a change of perspective and some time to consider, i think, how could what i want benefit him?If i cannot see anything positive the value i had for that particular idea changes.Also being too attached to someone isn’t healthy for me either.I might become dependent on a certain thing that won’t always be around. Change is something none of us can escape and when and if the time comes for me and this person to go our separate ways i wouldn’t want to be lost without them by side.We all need to be able to stand on our own. Without this kind of independence we cannot ever reach our full potential.Love yourself and extend as much love and respect you would want for yourself to him.
Why am I obsessed with my boyfriends ex girlfriend?
Okay this is going to sound crazy and I realize it is..which is why I am asking for advice on how not to care. Basically I feel like I might be threatened or something by my boyfriends ex girlfriend. She was his first real relationship and I know that he was crushed when they broke up. Also she lost her virginity to him. which makes me feel uncomfortable knowing that he took another girls virginity and also how much he must have meant to her for her to lose it to him. She was the one to break up with him because she wasnt ready for such a serious relationship at that time in her life. She is really pretty and I can see why he was so crazy about her. Also when he and I first started dating he said that he usually only like brown eyed/curly haired girls..which she just so happened to have. When I found that out I flipped out. Like who says that to a girlfriend. I didnt flip out on him though because I dont think he knows I know thats what she has. I just feel like he might still have a big place in his heart for her even though it was so long ago. How do I get over it and not be so jealous or bothered by it.
I am obsessed over my ex boyfriend and I have no friends. What should I do?
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Why am I so obsessed with my boyfriends ex girlfriend?
I agree that most girls have done this, because I have, and still do! It is nothing bad, as such...I mean it IS strange but come on...who can blame you? With my ex husband (he left me for someone else), I have spied on them to the point of making fake myspace's just to befriend them and see if there are troubles in their relationships. I like to go to their pages, and even pages of ex friends to see what is going on in their lives, now that I am not in them. With my current husband, he has never had a "real" girlfriend before me...but there were tow other girls he kissed and liked, and I am so obsessed with those stories! There is even some little skank that writes to me now with all these lies trying to get me to think she had something going with him. I ask and ask, even asking his parents for more info so that I can know and picture everything. I am confident I look better than her and I mean- I AM the one that married him- but the thoughts are still there. I guess it's the unknown that is a threat. You know how he is with you, and you know what he tells you about her. But in your head you see it differently. You don't want to think that he held her like he does you, or kissed her or told her lovey things like he does with you. You want to be his one and only, and knowing there WAS someone else makes you hunger for more information on this person that held his interest, if even for a little while. I think everyone does it, to a certain extent. Some just do it more than others. To me, being obsessed and watching her and wanting to know who and what she is all about is natural. And if you think she is that pretty, then feel that much more proud that YOU have him now. How much better do you feel to know that you are the one that commands his attention now? Pretty good, I'd say. I also say keep spying if that is what you need to feel happy. In time that need will diminish on its own.