People think im spoiled?!?
Okay my family and I vacation a lot. So my friends and I were talking about what we were doing for christmas this year and they were like yeahhh im just staying home or im going to my grandmas and then they asked me and I was like im going to disney world! :D Then they started talking about what we were doing for our 16th birthday and they all said what they planned on doing and I was like im going to disney world... They thought I was being selfish and rude for some reason. They are like GOD YOU ARE SO SPOILED YOU GET EVERYTHING YOU WANT! and honestly,my family is kind of poor.. I tried telling them im just fortunate to have a family that goes on vacation a lot and they still think im just a big spoiled brat. So I think they are mad at me. What should I do?!
What are signs a person is spoiled?
That depends on your definition of "spoiled person".In my opinion, a spoiled person is someone, who is extremely selfish, egoistic and incapable of doing anything good to other people.So, if the definition is fine with you, the signs could be the following:The person in question acts like the world owes him/her something. Whether it's a model-looking guy/girl, who got used to getting things and attention for free and being loved just for the sake of the looks, or a person who was brought up in an enabling environment, where anything a child wants he gets, such things will eventually manifest itself. I've read an answer on quora from a guy, who pretended to be a hot lady on facebook for two weeks. After two days he started feeling, that he deserved things and people who didn't buy him anything started to annoy him. Living in such state 24/7 IRL and not letting it "rewire" you is a real challenge.The person is easily angered or irritated. It has to do with #1 in some way. Not being able to accept real life as it is, is a warning sign. Somehow either the person is used to everything going his/her way or the person got used to manipulating others through his/her anger and irritation. Cases when the person is just too sensitive and emotional are much less common.The person is not taking responsibilty. If someone cannot acknowledge and accept the consequence of his/her deeds, than it's a warning sign too. It can signify a habit of leaving others to deal with the mess one is usually making aroung him/her.100% external Locus of control. If everything around a person is always blamed for the situation the person is in, it's a sign too. It's based on an unexpressed (or even expressed in the worst cases) perception, that the person is the only perfect thing in the world and can make no mistakes. So the part of the equation, that is to blame for everything is the imperfect one - which is the rest of the world.
How do rich people prevent their kids from being spoiled or arrogant?
Rich parents have got double responsibility to see the wealth is used for great purposes in the world and to see to it that they raise great kids who contribute to make the world more meaningful and less painful.When richness in character is imbibed more than monetary value among kids, they are betterAccess to huge wealth or funds can be made available after a certain age (say 18)Rich kids have easy access to world’s famous books/gadgets/media that can be shared by the parents as meet up/ exhibition / sessions so that kids meet people from all background, share stuff and are groundedParents can make the kids aware that exclusive access to wealth is not the goal but shared access to wealth creates happinessParents can themselves maintain simple and disciplined life style, as kids easily replicate what they seeThe pursuit of art, paintings, music or any form of relaxation gives balanced approach to life and kids of rich can be trained in any of these to give them grounded approach to lifeEstablish that money is great but cannot supplement character. This can be time and again taught and parents have to inculcate this principle in kids through a great network with valuable friendshipsPrevent access to evils of wealth like drugs, guns, violence / vulgar sources of any form (online or direct)Take kids regularly at least once in a year to less privileged homes to offer money/time/education etc so that there is awarenessTo teach kids that money is just one dimension but not the ultimate reality of life. By concentrating on lot many other areas like science, sport, frequent outdoors, charity, travel and having a multifaceted life kids are raised as great citizens of tomorrow
Am i a spoiled brat?__________?
Ok so this isn't like a thing for me to brag but people always tell me if i was snobby or b*tchy i WOULD be a spoiled rotten brat (they say that since i'm so nice they don't count me in any category like that) but some people say i AM a spoiled brat. i always try my hardest not be be and be open-minded to most everything. AKA i try to be nice and not piss people off and i am pretty chill and pretty much go with the flow. I'm practically 15 and for my 15th bday i'm getting a car (mercedes). i have a walk in closet filled with 4 times as many clothes as most of my friends. i have a boat (that is just mine) and my parents have a boat and the family has a sailboat and we have multiple canoes (haha random i know). i spent the summer in france so i could learn french for high school, and i go up to new york city about 3-4 times a year with my mom and we stay in the plaza. i carry a Versace to school as my backpack, and i have more shoes than rackroom does. i live on the water in a pretty good sized house. i have my own mac, and i have tiffany's jewelry (multiple pieces of jewelry). i have 2 credit cards 6 coach purses, 3 chanels, and 1 versace. i'm also a model. And i belong to a Yacht Club. ^^^My friend who is over at my house made that list so i didn't have so summarize myself into materialized words. But- i spend more time with community service and helping out at shelters each year than most people do in their entire life. My friends always tell me how loyal of a friend i am, and people are always telling me how sweet i am. My boyfriend told me the first time he came over that he thought i would be kind of poor because of how sweet i am. I don't brag about anything, and i'm pretty modest about saying anything about having a lot of money. I chose to go to public school for high school in an above honors program because i was fed up with bratty b*tchy snobs at private schools.
Why do people always tell me im rich.?
okai so im so friken tired of being called "rich" and spoiled heres some reasons why people call me "rich" I live in a big house bcuz 7 people live in it with me. I have a lot of expensivve things If something breaks of mine, it usually gets replaced pretty fast ex; I spilled oil on my laptop and about 2 days later got a desktop computer I have a lot of stuff I have a 32 inch flatscreen in my room, a desktop computer, a laptop, camera and other "techy" things in my room I dress well Every Tv in my house is a flatscreen everyone has their own computers (plus a downstairs one that everyone can use) These are things that cause people to call me "rich" and spoiled. I hate it so much. and it's not like im an only child either. i have 5 siblings. I really just want it to stop. I hate being called spioiled. im nowhere near spolied -_- thanks(: love you.!
How can you tell if a person (or yourself) is spoiled?
A person is not spoiled if he/ she needs financial aid/ is depressed/ requires education. I reject it with all my heart.Not even if he/ she makes sure she raised true monsters!A person is truly spoiled if he/ she doesn't respond to chances. If any hand with good intentions given to him/her returned back empty.
Do rich kids become spoiled and poor when they grow up?
Depends on how they were raised.I grew up with a kid whose dad owned the largest tractor dealership in the state. His parents were divorced so he lived with his mom. The mom never disciplined him. Once. Ever. He had 7 different cars in high school. If he screamed loudly enough, he got another. His dad told him that all he had to do was graduate college and he could come and work in the business and eventually run it. The kid couldn't or wouldn't do it. So his dad cut him off. Last I heard he worked at a hot tub installing company for near minimum wage.Another guy came from a wealthy home and was always in one form of trouble or another. His father bailed him out time and time again. His father eventually got him a job at a brokerage firm and the guy did quite well…for a while. Then he got busted for DUI and drug possession among other things and sent to jail for several months. For the first time ever, his dad didnt get him out of trouble. Eventually the guy blew all his money and ended up homeless living with relatives. He died fairly young of an overdose.That being two sad examples, I do have other friends that grew up very wealthy, but not spoiled. They are running family businesses (despite one losing a truck load of money to Bernie Madoff) and have kept, if not multiplied, the family fortunes.
How do I stop being so spoiled and ungrateful?
Volunteer at a soup kitchen, homeless shelter, abused kids program, abused women’s program, foster kids program, poor kids program, homeless assistance program, disabled person’s program, etc. Donate financially to those causes. Invest your time, energy, and money in the survival and thriving of people who have less than you. Do this for a solid year with weekly activities.Also, reduce your stuff by donating things to charity thrift shops, selling it and donating the money, etc. You can donate to charities or directly give to people, anonymously if possible. For example, you can have groceries delivered to a struggling family by the grocery store without them knowing who you are. You can give a gift card to a woman who has no nice clothing and do it anonymously. You can check in on elderly people, clean for them and cook meals for them.When you spend time investing in others, you start to care about others. You start to empathize. You start to understand and change your perspective.In high school, an acquaintance of mine was considered the most beautiful and desired girl in the large school. She looked like Barbie without the exaggerated proportions. But, she felt that all the time and money spent on her appearance was a waste. So, she gave away most of her costly clothing, cut her long beautiful hair short, and wore second hand clothing. The boys and many of the girls in the school were angry with her as they expected her to play a role apparently. Many ignored her after that as she had lost her glamour and sometimes even wore wrinkled, faded clothing. It was fine, but it was not like on the cover of a magazine anymore.After she did that, she had more time for things that were positive. We became closer friends, the fans dropped away so she could even notice other people. And, she had more privacy. Her friendships were more sincere, and she got to know people who cared about others deeply rather than simply grouped themselves according to shallow things like money, coolness, and appearance.So, if you change what you do, what you have, who you spend time with, and what you hear about and see, you’ll change yourself. It may take a while, but it will happen. It’s a choice.
Am I spoiled or are my friends just poor and jealous?
Am I spoiled? My friends at school say I am but I'm just asking. Btw I'm 13:) I ONLY shop at Chanel, Prada, Louis Vuitton, Gucci, and sometimes Guess. I have 38 pairs of shoes, and 29 handbags to match the shoes. I have 3 Prada sunglasses, ( black and gold, pink and white, orange and yellow) 2 Chanel sunglasses( pink and black, black and white) 4 Chanel handbags, Prada handbags and wallets, Louis Vuitton suitcase and wallet. I have the Ipad, and iPad 3, 2011 MacBook pro, DS, DSI, 3DS, and a wii. I live in a three story house, with my own room, a 68 inch flat screen tv, (in my room) my own bathroom, and walk in wardrobe, with lights shinning down onto everything. We own a house in London, and a boat that we go to every month. I have two puppy's, and a pony called Princess. My whole room is filled with French Provincial furniture, and huge paintings of me and my mum. My best friend hasn't even got half the stuff I do and I think she is REALLY jealous. Her family can only afford one computer, when everyone in my family has at least 2! She lives in a boring old flat and I live up in the hill, where all the good people live. She hardly gets whatever she wants, and I get everything. Am I spoiled or is my friend just poor poor and jealous? I'm sure there are other kids like me.