What cause PDA(public display of affection)?
I think that having a PDA (Personal Digital Assistant) is what causes PDA's(Public Display of Affection... It has something to do with the electromagnetic field generated by the PDA that can then result in a change in the testosterone/estrogen ratios, which can cause a PDA... So, PDA appears to lead to PDA, so to avoid PDA, turn off your PDA, unless you are turned on by PDA, you might then leave your PDA on to have more PDA's. You might buy a second PDA if you are not having enough PDA's :) All seriousness aside... People vary in their level of comfort in public displays of affection... The bottom line is, if both people are comfortable with it, then fine. If one person is not, then the other person NEEDS TO RESPECT that, and not be pushy about it. It is NOT NECESSARILY a problem to not be comfortable in engaging in a public display of affection... 100 years ago, NOBODY would have done this, and it would have been viewed as crass, vulgar... There is nothing inherently wrong with being uncomfortable with it, it is a preference. The problem arises when you partner insists upon putting their needs for this above your needs... You need to speak directly and openly about the fact that you do not like it, and he needs to respect that, or if he cannot, then he is unlikely to be able to respect you in other, more important matters. Good luck to you!
What are your views on PDA (public displays of affection), from a professional, romantic, or any kind of view? In what situations is it more appropriate/acceptable? What do you think it says about the people doing it?
I have two different perspectives on PDAs, which depends on the motive behind them. I delight in the concept and being of love, so when I see two people who are so crazy in love with each other they can't keep their hands off each other, I do want to growl under my breath, "get a room," but with a smile at the back of it. I remember what that was like. And while passion fades, there still are moments when I am with my wife in public and I'll just be overwhelmed by how wonderful she is, and do the 55-year-old equivalent of a PDA, which involves a lot less tongue than the teen-age version. There are two other versions of PDAs, one of which mildly annoys me, and one of which makes me angry. The mildly annoying version is where a couple is basically showing off--"look how in love we are, we can't keep our hands off each other"--rather than actually consumed by the moment and crazy in love. Some PDAs like this seem more like a betrayal of underlying insecurity, a staged performance, designed to reinforce the idea that two people who may not actually be right for each other are still passionate and crazy in love. Or it also can just be show--"let's shock all the people on this subway by making out in public." Drama--a performance--but just mildly annoying when it is two people writing the script. I've been there. It makes me want to play that old game "have you ever..." I know I would win. What makes me angry is when I see a young man essentially marking his girl the way a dog marks territory, pawing her, kissing her, showing everyone else that she is his, even though she clearly is embarassed and wants none of it. I have had high school daughters for eight years, with one more year to go after this one, and the anthropology and political science of the high school years is something I'm about to get my second doctorate in--if they gave doctorates for lived experience and study alone. I see this all the time at sporting events, or outside the school after classes are done--the kind of PDA that is initiated in one direction, almost always by a male, that basically has nothing to do with affection at all, and everything to do with control, male ego, and a kind of marking that says, "this one is mine."
Why do people dislike public displays of affection (PDA)?
One reason is jealousy. I hated people flaunting their affection in public (or even in private, for that matter) when I was not seeing anyone; it was like a rich person double-parking a Maserati at a soup kitchen, just rubbing in what they had and I didn't. Of course, intellectually I knew what they were doing had nothing to do with me, but that didn't help. During times when I had a girlfriend, it didn't bother me, and now that I'm married it still doesn't.
Has anyone noticed how intense public display of affection vary by cultures?
Public Display of Affection in different cultures, anyone notice? So my girlfriend is Brazilian and we went to visit her home country of Brazil for the 1st time. She is not modest about public affection, but when we were in Brazil, it was on extra high overdrive! Everywhere we went we were passionately kissing. Probably the most intense was when we were at the beach, even though there were lots of people around, she started laying on top of me and kissing passionately. I just went with it, and after a while i was instigating as much as she was, as we took turns laying on top of each other, making out like crazy, off and on for hours even though people were all around us! We would on in the water too and embrace and kiss passionately even as people swam around us, nobody seemed to care. Probably the only time we weren't embracing was when she was doing underwater handstands, as were other people. She loves doing those too, can stay underwater water for a long time, with perfect form, but i digress.. Has anyone noticed some cultures being much more open heavy public affection, and even people doing underwater handstands? I certainly am not usually this open about PDA, but I just went with while i was there, and certainly enjoyed myself!
How can I turn this guy on in public?
BIT HIS NECK, NIBBLE ON HIS EAR, BIT HIS LIP NOT HARD, TELL HIM IN HIS EAR THAT YOUR HORNY AND TOUCH HIS LEG CLOSE TO HIS NUTS, TALK DIRTY OR TELL HIM THAT YOU WANT HIM DEEP INSIDE U IN A VERY DIRTY WAY
Is this public display of affection in front of parents inappropriate?
My sister brought over for the first time for Thanksgiving her new boyfriend she has been dating for over a year and a half. No one has met the guy before. He turns out to be friendly, but some things don't sit right with me. Later, after dinner we were watching some photo slides and my sister sits on the floor by his knees. Of course they have to show they're a couple--but we know that! Hello! He then begins stroking and stroking my sisters hair with all my siblings there and my mother sitting there. My sister looked like she was pulling away at first but just let him continue. I found that really inappropriate for someone we haven't met before and you do that with her mother watching?! I'm not against PDA and I know to curb it in certain situations. And during dinner he showed me a picture on his phone of my sister kneeling over on the ground sticking her butt (with pants on thank goodness) in the camera. Obviously looking like some sex picture they share with each other. Would you show that to someone's sister for the first time? While I'm eating?! haha! What do you think? Am I overracting? She's not a teenager, they're both forty actually. If my sister asks me, "So what do you think about him?" Should this be mentioned?
Why are some people so prudish, complain or are surprised if they see in public displays of affection or revealing dresses, when at their house they go naked or make love like anybody else?
Okay to the start off an answer with a question. Why are YOU so quick to assume and cast aspersions on people you don’t know? When and how did you acquire an all seeing magic eye that let’s you into the minds of ever person you see?Now think again. I’m a 52 year old married white heterosexual woman. Given my age and my ethnicity I’m willing to bet that the standards and moral code I was raised with are different from other generations.Just because *I* don’t like to expose my cleavage down to may navel doesn’t mean I have a problem with anyone else doing it, it’s simply not my thing. I don’t appreciate seeing people dry hump or play tonsil hockey in a movie theater, but I’m not going to make a fuss about it.I do like to walk around my own home naked. I do enjoy sex with my husband- but I’m not going to put it on You Tube to see how many likes I can get, as A. It’s not a pretty sight and B. It is not the business of anyone else what happens in my home.What some of this behavior speaks to is public decorum, or rather a lake there of. You’ve heard the phrase ‘There is a time and a place for everything”? This is what it boils down to. The most basic of consideration for the feeling of others around you should dictate how you behave in a public place.The key term here is PUBLIC. Why should I be subject to a couple working toward second base on a train when I have no other option than to be on that train? Being an adult and fully aware than I can possibly move to a different car or to another part of the same car, I’m not the kind of asshole to be rude to them, I’ll likely move. But it should not be EXPECTED of me to do so.Life is about give and take. If you move through it assuming the waters will part for you at at every turn, you’re in for a rough ride.
Why is vomiting in public acceptable?
I was at Circus Circus in Las Vegas for a little family fun time. After we called it a night, we walk out the doors to the valet area and some girl races past us with great haste. She then bends over and vomits all over the place. She wipes off her mouth and walks off. As we are watching with amazement, I began to ponder over a question: Why is vomiting in public acceptable but urinating and going #2 not. Vomiting is arguably more gross than doing #1 or #2. What if I had the "runs"...I cant go around to a bush if there is not bathroom in sight? But still yet, I can Barf with no problems anywhere, anytime, anyplace in America and its ok! Your thoughts...
Why is my boyfriend afraid of kissing me in public?
Where do you live? Depending geographically were you live, it can be taboo to show couple affection in public because it makes certain types of people uncomfortable.He does not kiss you because he is afraid of showing weakness in front of the public eye. We men have a image which we portrait out on the public and by kissing girls, other men sees us as weak. Which it should not be so but that's what vibrates through everyone energy they send in the metro. Love actually makes us stronger but those men who hasnt recieved loved for a long time tends to get jealous at others who has found love. Therefore they start hating. So if a male is kissing a girl he shows his weak side of him (the private romantic self) which every male has. He is also insecure of himself, he dont have the confidence to show public affection. What you should do is to boost up his confidence. He need to know that he is loved truly. You must be touching each other way to little, more touching and soon he will have more confidence. I know intercourse of course boosts his confidence quick so if you help him with that, you will get your public kisses.