Why Are Some Females Rooms So Meesy

Why do parents get angry about their child's room being messy? As a teen, my room gets messy all the time. It doesn't hurt anyone. No one else sees it unless they're in my room without permission.

Oh dear, I feel your pain. I have had countless of these futile arguments with my mother as a teenager and let me tell you a secret, nothing I said or reasoned ever worked.My mother had too many silver bullets and she walked away victorious every single time. And by victorious I mean she had me cleaning no matter the tears.Here were some of her reasons, which at that time I felt were foolish, but now I can see what she meant:It was ‘my’ room in ‘her’ house. So, as logic dictates, her house her rules.There was never a question of them asking permission to enter my room. I have never been the recipient of such royal treatment. Now don’t get me wrong. I did have my privacy growing up but it was within healthy limits. And expecting my mother (or father) to request permission to enter my room while I live in their house was… well… unhealthy.Guests. In India, close relatives take the liberty to arrive unannounced any time they please. This means that one has to be ever-ready to receive guests and an unkempt house doesn’t really say “welcome”.Also, my mother strongly believes that the home is the reflection of the homemaker. And she wasn’t quite thrilled to brave the ‘messy’ woman tag.Though the room was mine, my mother did store some of the common household stuff in one of the drawers. Now, in an event where the said stuff needed to be retrieved, she was not ready to risk tripping, falling and rolling across to the far end of the room to get her hands on whatever it is she needed.Housemaid. I can’t stress the importance of this point enough. Housemaid had trouble navigating through the mess and getting everyday cleaning done. What should have ideally taken 10 minutes was taking her 20. She was not happy. Between her sassing and me sassing, I clearly lost. (I’m beginning to realize I lost a lot of battles)Anyway. I may have revolted as a teenager but today I’m very happy my mother trained me right in the trainable years. I don’t live with them in the same house anymore but all those cleaning habits have stuck. I love being organized.I also have come to realize that at times when my mind is cluttered and I’m struggling with getting my thoughts organized, cleaning and arranging my home helps clear my mind as well. I have no idea why, but it works!So here’s my advice to you, accommodate their request. It is a small request. It is not that big of a deal. It would make everyone happy. And that is the most important thing.

Are girls turned off by guys with messy rooms?

There is a difference between 'messy' and 'dirty' to me, and this applies both to friends and people I'd date. If the room is relatively clean - the floor is clean or the carpet doesn't have weird stains or stuff stuck to it - but there are clothes (just no underwear!) strewn across a chair/part of the floor and books and CDs everywhere, I'd actually like it! I'd get to see what they're like, what their interests are etc. I'm pretty messy myself so immaculate neatness would intimidate me! When I first saw my first (and ex) boyfriend's room I was very distracted by his Star Wars figurines, Harry Potter collectibles, books etc that were everywhere. It was already a small room and between the bed, wardrobe, desk, shelves and teetering stacks of books and CDs/DVDs there was only a narrow strip of carpeted walkway, but that seemed clean enough; in any case I was more interested in cuddling and watching Stargate with him at the time. It was a cosy sort of mess, so it was actually a turn-on, I'd say. I've also been in the messy houses of friends, with mismatching comfy furniture and clothes and shopping bags all over, and I feel more comfortable than in perfectly cleaned living rooms with on-point interior decor like an IKEA showroom. It's cosier and more lived-in. However, if this hypothetical room was dirty, that's a different story. If there was dirty stained clothing lying around, hair and mud and dirt on the floors, funny stains high up on the wall, sticky patches on the floor and a smell of mildew near the wardrobe the first time I went over, I'd flee. Dust is forgivable, but not suspicious sticky patches, and you should clean up for company. (Although I once had a sticky patch on the floor for a long time because I spilt lemongrass oil and despite repeated mopping it never quite cleaned up fully.)In short: A little bit of mess is fine; in my eyes it's more attractive. But a very messy and dirty room is definitely a no.

Why are some people messy?

I was very young when I started cleaning up after people outside the family. I started to clean houses of strangers while they lived in them, after they moved out of apartments and in resort hotel rooms. I've seen a lot.There are several types of messy folk. One is the type that just drops something - anything - knowing that someone will come along behind them and pick it up. I once met a woman who realized she shouldn't have married the guy who didn't own one wastebasket. I saw a lot of these people in the hotel rooms I cleaned. They knew someone was paid to come along and pick up their snotty tissues. They were also the ones that did not tip.This training that someone will clean up their messes results in the people who have no idea how to organize, clean and maintain a dwelling. I see a lot of this in coddled youth who have children and don't know how to cook or clean up after them. A neighbor has spent thousands of dollars they don't have buying prepared foods from Swann delivery service because they never learned to cook. Their kids used to run around outside naked because they didn't realize that parents put kids on schedules and stick to it. Ironically they were both social workers. Neither were lazy, they worked hard, just not at home.Then there are the just plain lazy. These are the people who know that the stove should be wiped of grease every time you cook but just don't bother. This type leaves a dwelling after cleaning one time but there's incredible damage to walls, floors and appliances. Or maybe they don't clean at all and then complain they've lost their deposit. They are to be disdained.The final type are people who, for one reason or another, simply can't keep up. It might be pain, chronic illness, depression or distraction due to an unusual life event. They may be working two jobs, have kids to take care of and just get exhausted. They do not like living that way but they cannot dig themselves out at that moment. Their dwelling will be disorganized, piled up with laundry but they are distressed by the conditions. They are to be forgiven, not judged.There's one other type of mess that I call joyful disorder. This is shown by the kids’ shoes kicked off in the hall, piles of back packs and a nice layer of dust on the furniture just thick enough to dull the shine. There's something wonderful about a busy, happy family that would rather go out for a hike than take a toothbrush to the door knobs. They are to be loved.

Why do boys keep their cars cleaner than their room and girls generally do the opposite?

I actually made a conscious decision NOT to keep my car spotless.   Between commuting two hours a day, a 10 hour a day job, trying to do all the household chores, etc., something had to give and I decided the car was it.   My house is always spotless, my car is a mess.   I think part of it is socialization.   The woman is always held responsible for the state of the house no matter who else is living with her.   When visitors come over they never say, "Boy, her husband is such a slob and has no idea how to clean house."   It's always considered the woman's fault and she's judged by it.   This is probably why women tend to have higher cleaning standards than men do.    I don't feel any social pressure about keeping my car clean, so it's a low priority for me.    I see the car as a tool, it gets me from home to work and back and that's it.   I don't see it as a reflection of myself at all while my house definitely is.