What do you think about women who chooses to be single mother's ?
I have seen some so called proud single mother's inteview in daily mail about how their son's don't need father and all. I think they are sending very bad message to their own son's in other words they are teaching how They are worthless and how they will be disposable when they become Father's . WhaT type of women in their right mind will think child's father is disposable. What do you think about women who chooses to be single mother(i am not talking about those who got stuck with child) ?
My children's father is worthless!!!?
My childrens father cheated on me, so I left him. Now he doesnt help me do anything with the kids. I could care less that he has moved on, but Please dont just leave the kids behind too. My 6 year old daughter was crying dreafully today, Because she wanted to see her daddy, but I dont know what to tell her, Because when her father calls he tells her he's coming the nxt day to see her, and he never shows. She breaks my heart when she crys.. What can I tell her?.. What would you do?
Why are there so many single mothers compared to prior generations?
It is the confluence of multiple factors that have resulted in more single mothers than in the 50s and 1960s. People are less religious , and a number of things like divorce , sex outside marriage , and casual sex have been destigmatized . Women are more often employed and financially independent. Men used to be revered for “playing the field” where women were shamed for it; today the reverse is true and in movies you will see men shamed more often than women for not being the ideal monogamous partner (although most films preach family/monogamy for all).Men have always choosen casual sex partners by looks. Like men, when women are choosing a sexual partner without thought of marriage , they ususally choose mostly, or even entirely by looks/ physical attraction as well. Using this parameter will not select for a mate that will want to be , or be capable of being a reliable husband . In hookup culture , (which since it involves sex can result in a child), a female would be more likely to end up a single mother than in the courtship game of prior generations , when it was hoped he would at least have his own car.
Would you date a single mother?
I have had relations with a beautiful girl a year older than me. We just spoke today for the first time in about a year. We were doing well and at the time she had one kid. She is a wonderful mother and her kid is a sweetheart. She is everything that I wanted. We cooked some kick ass dinner and played with her kid until he went to sleep. Once he would go to sleep we would watch movies and go to sleep. With as much as I work, I couldn't picture a better Saturday night.Things kept going well until the father of her child wanted a second chance. She came over one afternoon and cried her eyes out telling me that she was sorry but it's the best for her kid. I was upset but I fully understood and encouraged her to do what is best for her child. We stopped talking until she called me about 2 months after she got back with the father of her child. She called to tell me she was pregnant. Normally I am all for sex. I'm a man, that's all we care about right? I told her that I wouldn't have sex with her until I knew we were exclusive and her child wasn't around. Because of this we never had sex so I knew the child wasn't mine. She was pregnant with the boyfriend she has just got back with. Now she has 2 kids and wants to pick up where we left off.I'm not sure the exact reasoning behind it, but I do not have desire to continue pursuing anything with her. Nothing past friendship level. I honestly don't know if it is because she has two kids now or if it is because I'm worried she will just cut me off again.I would date a female with 1 child that wasn't planned. Any more than that would be iffy, but I am a 20 year old trying to figure life out. I need to worry about my own life before I worry about a woman with 2 kids.
WHy do so many women choose to become single mothers?
I have a lot of female relatives and I notice that a lot of them are single mothers. The story seems to be the same every time: 1. Spreads her legs for some thug, no protection, she gets pregnant 2. Thug promptly dumps her after finding out, or ends up in jail for some crime 3. She has baby and goes on welfare It's not that they don't know any better, most of them had been thru high school. Besides my cousins I also notice a lot of single mothers in general, why do these women choose to become single mothers? Don't they realize they are dooming themselves to a life of poverty? Let's not forget that their children will grow up dysfunctional from lack of a father figure. Also, it is pretty much impossible to land a husband in the future as a single mother; men don't want women w/ "baggage". And these women have so many options when it comes to stopping/preventing pregnancy, and yet they choose to have the baby regardless. Why a woman would throw it all away to become a single mother makes little sense.
Why are single mothers frowned upon?
Barring the passing of the child’s father, single mothers are frowned upon because they make poor choices…unprotected sex with a man who has not commited to them, is abusive, is unwilling to support them, does not love them, is a thug,etc. Are the deadbeat fathers even worse? Oh, absolutely! However, that's not the topic at hand. Anyhow, the next and probably biggest reason is their children pay the price in a society where most criminals, victims of suicide, promiscuous girls,and addicts hail from homes of single mothers. A mother should be home with her children, or if she is unable to do so when the children are home the presence of two parents is important to the children's development and well being. Another sad aspect of single motherhood is the diminished self worth these women feel knowing they've made a poor choice. The runoff is many times they attract more of the same or worse in terms of men. There are always outliers. I have a friend who had excellent family support and turned out quite well, and another who simply doesn't believe in marriage but lives with her partner as a married couple would. I'm reminded of a conversation I had with a girl who does my hair. She's attractive and genuinely nice. One day she expressed the shame of realizing she'd made a poor choice having sex with someone who would never be a present father to her child. She spoke of the heartbreak of returning to work even though her parents helped her stay home until her son was one. She explained the shame and sadness her then ten year old son felt when he had no father attending his school stuff, not because dad had passed away, because he just had no interest in loving and raising his little boy. So sad. Now, thankfully he did have quite the supportive grandfather, but grandpop doesn't fully replace dad. So, I think people think negatively more of the situation because there's no denying it's not a good one, and was completely avoidable in many cases.
Do you think fatherhood is becoming irrelevant and pointless in the human society in general?
No.
Why single parent families are outnumbering families with couples in UK?
Seven constituencies in the country constitute more single-parent families than couples Britain has highest proportion of single parent families in Europe : http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2183462/Single-parent-families-common-todays-Britain-couples-minority.html#ixzz2B57NO09J two reasons 1) welfare system (its so easy for women to throw the father out of their families and to rely on welfare system) 2) feminism ( women don't need men ,fathers are useless ) so now family units are gone forever .Feminists finally win their battle what do you think about it ?