Why is there such a reluctance to answer honestly when kids ask, “how are babies made?”
I grew up in a household where the topic was never mentioned. I came home from school the day sr mary discipline gave us “the talk” & told my mum. She answered “I know”, I asked “why didn’t you tell me? “ Her answer? “I didn’t have to”As a mum I generally found it best to answer the question honestly but gear the answer to the age & maturity of the child. Just enough information to answer the question without triggering the next round of awkward questions. You know, the ones the kid remembers when you’re sitting at the table in the restaurant & it’s all gone quiet.I will own there was one time when I was less than forthcoming.I took my self, my baby & my friends 6y.o.”B” to Taronga Park Zoo. Virtually every enclosure had animals happily & heavily engaged in foreplay. I was particularly entranced by the Leopard Seals, “B” looked at the various behaviours without comment. Until we reached the elephant enclosure that is. Suffice to say the trunk is a very supple appendage.After watching for a while she turned to me “what are they doing?””That’s a conversation you need to have with you mum & anyway it can take up to 2 years”She seemed happy with that, we enjoyed the ferry ride back & I gave her mum the heads up about what she saw & what she asked me.
Honestly .... what do you guess are the chances of SHTF or WROL in the next 5 years?
================== Thanks Drakon, Russ & BBean! Everybody's answers are right because the question is asking for your opinion. I am learning from all your answers. Even if on the surface some details might be contracting another person; if you analyze the reasoning behind it, you may have a chance to resolve the superficial contraction. Almost like one person saying this is copper and the other one say it's gold. Well .... they're both solids; metals; electrically-conductive; made up of atoms, protons, quarks, and maybe even strings. The 2 are more alike than they are different. ================== The reason I view WROL as local is because that's where I'm affected the most. You have the least separation in terms of distance as well as time. If there's a disaster or rioting in LA, I have time to react. If my neighbors are being violated; if their houses are being burnt down, I have to act RIGHT NOW -- both defensively and pro-actively. =======
How can I answer the interview question, "prove to me that you are honest"?
Lets try to figure out by an example.This was my interview experience. It was a campus interview of TCS in 2016. After i cleared the technical round , i was called for the HR round.I entered the HR room, and the conversation had started.HR : how are you ,vimal?Me : fine sir. How are you.HR : i m good. So tell me more about your self?Me : blah blah blah….same answer to all.In that answer, I mentioned somewhere that i am honest.HR : so you are honest. How can i trust you?Me : thinking…HR : ok, prove that you are honest in 1 minute and it should have to be original, not from your prepared answers .And your time starts now..Me : thinking ( What the hell, how can i… in one minute.. what to do, what to do…..) and suddenly an thought clicked.I said sir, i am honest because I eat Tata salt.(Since it was TCS interview, HR got impressed)HR : have you read it somewhere?Me : Yes sir, i read it on Quora. (I showed him the post.)HR : do you know, you haven't answered my question originally. You failed.Me : yes sir, but i showed you the original source . I accepted my failure honestly.HR (with a smile) : hmm. Ok Vimal. Thanks. You may leave now.Me : thanks sir.When the results came, i got selected.Now what i have extracted from this experience is that honesty can be shown by words, by actions or sometimes by accepting your mistakes. It is not important to express that you are honest everytime with some story or incident, sometimes your actions speak alot and say everything about yourself. Commonsense plays a vital role in it too. Being confident and little bit of commonsense make you win the battle.All the best and be confident.Cheers,VimalRead my blog :Experience is Everything
Questions for spankers? (I have one, too!)?
Honestly? I sure do! I don't spank exclusively, but it's a definite form of punishment in my home. I've got 2 friends, a neighbour, a work colleague and one family member (I think that's all) who don't spank, ever. They have great kids! I'll go out on a limb here, and betray the side a little, lol, and say that I really do admire parents who don't spank! I know for me, I lose my cool just a little, and I don't always have the patience to do the time out thing....I do know if you keep at it it works great, my sister in law and best friend use it almost exclusively. I'm not likely to stop spanking anytime soon, unless I turn into a saint-ha!-but I think as long as you have discipline, you're doing a great job! EDIT I just had to add this after I read the other answers: Come on people! You wonder why the anti-spankers run us down? We're giving them the edge! You know what my son did yesterday in Wal-Mart? He threw a real life, honest to goodness tantrum! I love how everyone says, "you see those kids acting out in the store, because they never got spanked"...I see kids who get spanked act like that too. Lets just be proud of *any* parenting choices we make, instead of resorting to stupid irrational comments.
What does it mean if guys act rude to you ? (10 points for best answer, feel free to be honest.)?
I have a guy friend who I like. He's pretty rude to me (used to be sweet, but after a friend suggested he was interested in me, he became ruder). It's edged with friendliness. He'll randomly tell me to shut up and once said "I was the ditziest girl he knew." (I'm one of the smartest girls in our class - he knows this - but I get a tad giggly around him). Yet he never acts like he DOESN'T want to talk to me! He'll initiate conversations every now and then. I'm very conscience about not acting clingy or invading where I'm not welcome, but I just don't see that with him. He'll also show his kindness. Once, a mutual male friend refused to "fix" my phone because I have sprint and he was biased towards tmobile. Then the guy who I like said "Honestly dude, I'd do it for her." Yet we don't walk to classes together. Many of his friends are also my friends, so we'll gather in groups and just talk. He won't talk to me even most of the time, but he'll single me out occasionally. He doesn't invite me to hang out with him and his friends (both girls and boys), ever. Doesn't even touch the topic. We're both mild Muslims and boys/girls are still a touchy topic. He does get pretty friendly (with some friendly rudeness, but not as much as he shows me) & hangs with his non-Muslim girl friends, though...he gets more touchy-feely with them too. I'm his closest Muslim girl friend; the others are aquaintances and he's always nice to them; never mean. I'm not sure how important the same religion is to him in dating. I think it's "nice but not required" (same for me). I feel he's giving me mixed signals. If he wasn't of the culture we are, I would've given up hope. Not to mention he's a "tough" guy and pretends to act emotionless. What do you guys thing? Is being rude still considered a way of hiding feelings? Or is he genuinely trying to tell me he's not interested w/o being upfront? 10 pts for best HONEST answer.