Why am I so unconfident?
I think very highly of myself to be honest. I'm tall (6'5"), good looking, and very nice but I'm always so nervous around other people. I'm in a damn good band (we just played a show in front of 3,000 people), I'm extremely smart (to the point that college professors have called me "brilliant" and "different") and I just in geenral have a very good view of myself. Except that I feel I am kind of mean (even though I'm not really and I'm always trying to improve my niceness). Yet when I'm around people I get so damn nervous, I can't look them in the eyes, I feel very uncomfortable, etc. Why am I like this and how do I fix it? Thanks,
Why do i feel so unconfident?
alot of guys think i am prettty, but i have NO confidence what so ever. sometimes i feel like im not pretty enough for them to think that. okay i admitt, SOMETIMES i think i look pretty but not in a conceeded way. but then other times when i look in the mirror, i see nothing but ugly. i don't see how some guys think im so cute and stuff. why do i feel so unconfident about myself? i'm not on here to fish for compliments or anything. but why do i feel so unconfident about my looks?! i sometimes wish i could be prettier. but whatever. this is me, not the best picture. http://i589.photobucket.com/albums/ss333/love5467/one1.jpg
Why do women call men "unconfident" if they wear height-increasing shoe lifts? Perhaps the man loves his height, he just knows women don't?
Let me break it down: The definition of confidence is "a feeling of self-assurance arising from one's self-appreciation of one's own abilities or qualities." See- SELF appreciation. It is quite possible that a short guy who wears shoe lifts, does not see his height as ACTUALLY inferior- he could just see it as, women WRONGLY are attracted to tall men, when they SHOULD be attracted to short men- therefore he wears height increasing shoe lifts to attract women and get laid. I.E. He doesn't do it because he thinks that being short is a bad thing- he simply knows that WOMEN stupidly find it to be a bad thing. Does this concept make sense? I as a short man know 1) Short men live 10-12 years longer, with less heart or back problems, than tall men 2) That the evolutionary advantage of tall men (for hunting and fighting) is irrelevant 100% in a civil society, and that brains and weapons determine "toughness" now, as do muscles/fight skills to an extent (thanks to the invention of weight training/fighting gyms), whereas height is minimally relevant 3) That short people get better blood/oxygen flow to brain, thus resulting in more intelligence. (scientifically proven) ------------------------------------ So considering the above, isn't it POSSIBLE a short guy could wear shoe insoles for the purpose of manipulating girls to get laid, BUT actually be TOTALLY CONFIDENT in his height, just aware that *women* stupidly don't like short men for no REAL reason?
Why do women dislike unconfident men?
Personally I don't count in one of those women to me ur not a real man if u've not hair on ur body. Its more of a turn on to see hair on a chest then for it bare. I don't care for the men who wax and all that its so stupid now women thats different and completely understandable we have to do that lol. I like em hairy like a man and not like little boys... The worst is when a man shaves his legs UGH OMG SICK but I've felt the same as u have when I'm with someone who wants me to get a breast job and I'm already naturally well .. anyway lets not go there lol but I hate ppl who want u to change ur body why marry them in the first place if they aren't already good enough for u.. Don't worry if I like chest hair and facial hair and such I'm not the only one there are other women so quite caring what the other women think ;) they aren't worth ur time if they are to judge u about ur body
What does this mean: "Women like confident guys"?
Women like confident men what's so weird in that; it's a genuine fact that everybody knows. Confident men very well know how to deal with a lady and also knows what they like. Confident men are jolly in nature they are quite flexible and friendly, and that's what a woman wants in her guy. Because women don't really bother about the look what matter for them is the behavior and a gentleman gesture. Women like to interact and communicate with an intelligent guy.A confident man makes women realize that they are not a worthless but beautiful creature of this entire earth. And, liking is a genuine gesture, anybody can like anyone it just depends on how somebody is behaving. Because your behavior comes first not your expensive branded clothes and accessories. Well, to know more about this kind of issues and discussions you can join All About Sexy, Single & Successful Women In The USA | Sexy Singular
Why are girls so unconfident about there breasts?
What is perfect? I guess if most girls aren't confident with their breasts then they're not confident with themselves, as a woman in a whole. Second, then I guess perfect breasts are mine because I'm totally okay and confident with my breasts. Your body doesn't and shouldn't make you confident. You have to first feel confident about yourself, your being and your successes. You have to build your self esteem and all else will follow. I guess big breasts for a big body, medium for a medium build and small for a more petite frame. A man could figure each perfect, depending on his likes... I'm sure you look okay, How God wanted you anyway. Stop tripping. I'm sure you're all good...
Why do girls like confidence in a guy??
All good answers, thanks. Here is what I gathered from all the responses: Confidence, or lack thereof... Strength and Security: shows whether a man can handle a tough situation and whether or not he can protect her. Initiative: Nobody likes to make the first move (unless you are a player). An honest guy handles that by using confidence (or courage) and making the first move. Dominance: A confident guy can show dominance and girls like a guy with a certain level of dominance which means those girls like to be submissive to their guy. Sexiness: A confident guy is sexy. The reason for this is mentioned above. Unfortunalely, all these answers just bring up more questions. So stay tuned. Your input is important, lol.
Why do people hate confident people?
I'm not a therapist, but I'm confident and I've been told I scare people. I think it has to do with the idea of projections (Pulled from :Projection and Identity ) . " Projection is just what it sounds like. Imagine the old design of the movie projector in which the film was passed over the light, sending the image on the film to a projecting lens, which then reflected that image onto a screen.That’s exactly how it works psychologically. Some issue has been pushed into theunconscious. But that issue has energy and is constantly looking for release from its prison in the unconscious. So, it projects it through the lenses of the eye—a convex psychological eye that can only look at the external world rather than the internal one—and the issue is suddenly seen in someone else.The problem is that when people project their “stuff” onto us, they tend to act as if their projection has something to do with who we really are. They treat us, in other words, as if their projection were valid. And, particularly if we are vulnerable, we tend to believe that perhaps they are describing something real about us—something that we may not even be able to see.This is when I hear clients say, “They say I’m … and I guess I am.” Particularly when these projections come from significant family members, we tend to be so vulnerable to their influence, and they tend to repeat their projective words so frequently that it becomes very difficult for us to believe that what they are saying is not true."Following this train of logic... people hate confident people because the project onto these people things that they are uncomfortable dealing with themselves. They may have issues with their own confidence and the way they deal with it. As a way to resolve their own issue, they project it onto others. The gift of these projections is that they enable to address issues that we may have not dealt with. CHeck out this blog post: http://www.fireitupwithcj.com/fo... (It's been awhile, but I think it's in part 4 that he talks about projections)
Why do we feel unconfident, why do we not feel confident?
I think it is because we often tell ourselves lies in our head. We create a scenario this person saying one thing, another saying another, yet another wanting to do something you don't want to do, or you can't imagine what you will talk about. I have found throughout life that things are never as we imagine they are going to be, and boy do we have a lot of imagination! Just remember, that just about everybody else has their insecurities too, it is not just you. When you get where you are going, really listen to what they have to say, and ask questions. Don't think about yourself, how you look, sound etc. It is so very true that whatever you put into your mind, you will get out, and it will effect your body language. Try listening to an upbeat motivatonal song before you go out.