Why do I hate my brother so much?
I have the same problem. Its gotten to the point where he makes comments like, you will regret treating me like this for the rest of your life and its not fair that you treat me like this. The only thing I do is give one word answers and not really respond. My reasons for acting the way I do started in middle school. He would steal my mothers quarters and silver change to get sodas at school and blame me for the missing change, I had no proof that I could use to prove my innocence so I let it go……. this happened at least twice that I can remember. Literally 10 years later I learned that he was coming into my room at night and stealing my debit card. This freak would withdraw money from ATMs and put my debit card back in the morning. He stole at least 300 that I have found so far. Apparently he made a bad investment, he also sold the Wii among other things. When I try to talk to my mom about this she defends him. Now its 2 years later, he goes to work and comes home to smoke weed. He leaves his laundry on the floor in the bathroom instead of using the hamper which is right next to the washer, he does not do any chores, he thinks cleaning up the kitchen means putting everything in the sink and waiting for it to magically disappear. I can no longer talk to my mother about this problem because she will say he does what I tell him to (when pigs fly) and I don’t want to talk about this anymore. The frustration has built up inside me sing I was 12 (Im 26 now) Im not sure what do do about this now. All I can say is that I have no love for this pot head residing in the room next door. All the advice I can give to you is to:A. Talk to your parents in a very adult manner, give them a impression for concernB. Get therapy (Its all I got right now)
Why does my mom always favor my younger brother?
Oh, I’m sorry to hear this. What a difficult situation for you. So unfair. If you like movies, see “Ordinary People” on netflix. It’s a heartbreaking movie about a favored brother who dies, and the mother just never really shows love for her surviving son. It’s a very realistic story about this type of toxic and unfair family dynamic.Parents are complex people, and they had a life before you were born. You have no way of knowing why your mother favors him over you. It may not even be apparent to her, as I’ve noticed that parents who favor one child over the other are often not even aware of the horrible thing they are doing to the unfavored child. Perhaps your mom loves extroverts, and she doesn’t like introverts. Or, maybe your brother looks more like her, or has her likes and dislikes, so she relates to him more as a friend.There are NO good excuses to favor one child over another, but I’m just pointing out some possible reasons why this is happening, and to assure you that you have no control over this. The best thing to do is to keep studying, do your best in school and sports, and figure out your future. If the favoring of your brother continues, go to a faraway college, establish yourself in a career, and don’t come home very often, or just try to avoid your mother, if she is the only one who hurts you like this. This favoring may always be an issue that you need to accept, so just move on and have an independent life, where you see your family on rare occasions. Don’t be surprised if your mother favors your brother’s wife over yours, and his kids as well. The favoring usually never ends, from what I’ve observed. Very unfair, so just play the hand you’re dealt and move on with lots of hard work and dedication to whatever career, hobbies, and a life partner that make you happy.
What should I do when my brother hits me?
My Indian brother is the same. He was verbally and physically abusive and has slapped, punched , kicked me; called me a 'bitch' and much much worse. I've cut him off from my life and my heart. I no longer speak to him or acknowledge that he is alive and do not consider him my sibling. Your parents are cowardly. The typical Indian parents who favor the son and indirectly shift the responsibility for his violent behavior on to your head. Mine were the same. It's NOT your fault. Your brother has mental issues and he is venting on you, using you as a punching bag. Your parents are NOT protecting you as they should. By blaming you and not rebuking your brother, they are reinforcing your brother's violent behavior. My advice is IGNORE and STAY AWAY from him. DO NOT let him hurt you physically. STOP talking to your brother. PRETEND that he does not exist. Keep your interactions with him minimal. If he tries to start an argument with you DO NOT engage him, ignore him, go to your room and lock the door. Study hard, get a job and move out.
My little brother hates me! help?
It's probably because your relationship with him has changed and he does not know how to accept this. Help him and you will help yourself, too. Think about the things he enjoys doing and then sit down with him when he is alone. Tell him you miss hanging out with him and want some one on one time doing what he/you like together. Just the two of you...and maybe five minutes alone with him a day can remind him of how special he is to you during these changing times. Remember to hug and kiss him everyday.
What do you do when your brother really gets on your nerves?
The best thing you can do is just walk away from it and hope things will get better soon. Probably a stage he is going through.
I want my little brother to live with me instead of our Mother...*Need advice, quick.?
i am so sorry about your situation. it is really hard when a family is that dysfunctional. every way, you CANNOT permit your brother to live there. soon enough, he will find comfort in things he must not, such as drugs, or join a gang, or whatever. you must do everything to pull him from that life. first, i would suggest taping your mother. tape her in one of her attacks, after that, no cop or judge, will allow her to take care of him. btw, be careful, cause this could get her arrested. second, i don't know if you can afford it, but you have to speak to a lawyer. they will give you a better advice that Yahoo! Answers. third, you may use your grandparents to persuade them to allow your brother to live with you. since he is fourteen now, he has no legal obligation to live with his mother (i think, i'm not sure that that obligation ceases at 11 years old) still, i would go for the tape thing. you can also blackmail her into giving you custody. i know it's harsh, but think of all the things you and your brother went through. think of what could happen in the future. and make the right decision. i pray you will get out of this situation. good luck
How should I deal with my girlfriend telling me her brother raped her when she was younger?
I'm really lost and need some advice. My girlfriend is 18 and I'm 22. She has a brother that is 16. We've been together for about 15 months. About 3 weeks after we met, she told me that her brother raped her when she was 15 and he was 13. She told me it happened like 3-4 times over a few months. Since then I brought it up maybe once or twice, but didn't pay much attention to it. But now, I have gotten to know her brother and I get along with him decent. He is now 16 and he is a pretty decent kid. He is a dropout of high school and has problems but a nice kid overall. Here is my question. I am really conflicted about all of this. How should I handle it? I hold so much anamosity against him for doing what he did. It also sickens me to know he had sex with my girlfriend like that when it was his own sister and basically caused her a lot of problems. It also makes me mad that he has gotten away with it (my gf refuses to tell anyone ever). Should I just let sleeping dogs lay? Please help
My mom is always yelling, theres never a quiet moment!?
My dad has been away for awhile for his job. So it's me my mom and 3 other siblings. My mom is always yelling at all of us. Anytime my little brother and sister is doing something wrong she just yells. I feel bad for them. But she yells at me too. But since my dad has been gone, I've picked up the yelling too. My dad came back this week-end and he heard me yelling at my sister and told me I sounded just like my mom. It made me feeld bad because I want to be like my dad, he never yells, he thinks its a waste of breath. But could you tell me what I could do or how I could help my mom?
My younger brother and I got into a fight, my boyfriend stepped in to break it up, was this wrong?
I am 21, 140 lb. female and my brother is 15, 250 lb. My brother and I got into an argument and he stepped into my face, flexing and threatening me, so I slapped him. We got into a little scuffle, he slammed me and my boyfriend came and pulled him off of me. He didnt hit him, or anything he just restrained him and talked him into calming down. My brother told my older sister and she feels I was wrong and she said my boyfriend is not welcome at her house anymore and threatened to call the police on him. I am just wanting to know if I was wrong. My younger brother is very problematic and disrespectful to everyone in our family. This is not the first time he had threatened to beat me up or tried to start a physical fight.I feel that maybe I should have handled the situation differently but anyone who comes two inches to my face threatening me and flexing I just reacted instinctively. Was I wrong?