Why doesn't my dad love me?
When my dad was a kid, his father didn't really care about him, at least that's what I heard. My mom told me that my Poppie had a bad temper with my dad and never supported him. She told me that his dad only went to one of his baseball games out of all the games he played. Now I feel like that's repeating on my sister and me. He has a horrible temper with us and never really cares about what we do. I'm always in plays but he shows up, says good job, and then leaves. My dad's also a runner and recently got my sister and I into running. But, I feel that's the only time he's interested in me. I must admit, I'm not the best child either. I get lazy and disobey sometimes. I sometimes try to give him hugs and he sort of hesitates and the other day I said I love you and he only said "Yeah". I started crying because I felt like my dad didn't love me. I see my best friend and her dad and how they act together. They do everything from watching movies together, to playing ball. I'm really jealous. My dad never taught me how to ride a bike or swim or any of that stuff. I'm only 13 and I don't want to grow up without a good relationship with my dad. Please help. Thank you!
Why am I not taller than my dad?
Short genes run in my family, my mom is 4'8" and my dad 5'6". Any ways my oldest sister (5")grew 4 inches taller than my mom, my 2nd oldest sister(5'2") grew 6 inches taller than my mom. Why is it that at 17 and a couple of months old I'm only 5'3", 3 inches shorter than my dad, I really though I would be at least 5'7" considering my parents grew up poor and didn't have lots of food and healthcare like me.
If my mum didn't get married to my dad and my dad never married my mum, would I have happened to either of them or some other couple?
You are a genetic mix of your mom and dad! Even your brain! If your parents never got together, you would not be here. That’s the simple answer, but not the only answer!If you believe you are a reincarnation of a person who already lived (as in the Hindu religion), then your soul would go into someone else if your parents did not create your body. You’d have to already be a soul waiting for a body.If you believe each soul is created new for each body, then you would probably not exist either. However, if you believe God knows everything before it happens, then I suppose God could be holding the “idea” of a certain soul he wanted to create. But wouldn’t he have known for all eternity that your parents now would not get together? So it would not be an issue!Now that You are still wondering! Enjoy the mystery!
How come I didn't grow as tall as my parents?
Ok i'm just gonna give you basic simple steps to become taller cause you don't need (or want to have) answers including loads of information. Just eat a healthy nutrition and stay a balanced diet. Make sure you exercise as well. Exercises that i did to make myself grow taller is pullups, basketball, swimming, and many other exercises. Make sure you stretch also. Height is pre-determined by genetics...PRE-DETERMINED. Not fully determined. The rest are determined by your nutrition. When we were babies, we grew because of our parents feeding us food, becoming healthy for the least. Just keep doing the same thing. Keep eating, and exercise for faster results! Make sure you walk straight and stand straight as your bones will lengthen to your spine, pushing your spine to the point where it gets used to the stretching as you become taller for a while. During this summer, I was 5"11 at the start, now i'm 6"2 and i tell you what. How i did was that I started swimming through the summer and play basketball basically since im on the basketball them. Among exercising, i eat apples and bananas everyday for snacks. Most importantly, I sleep at 10:30 during the summer (my usual sleep time is 11). You need to get an aquedate amount of sleep. This is very important, and that's how I really, really got taller. It will take a while, depending on your genetics, so just don't worry cause the results won't take TOO long. If you're 21 or over, your growth fuses have shut down, symbolizing that you will not grow taller anymore. So make the best out of it before 21, so you will not have to worry about being tall, if your results will come. :). Good luck!
My dad didn't invite me to his wedding, now I'm planning mine?
A couple years ago, my Dad left for a weekend to go see his girlfriend who lived in Wisconsin. Which is quite far from PA, let me tell you. About six months before they both told us, his three kids, her four,(we were all in our late teens or early twenties) that her and her kids were coming down to live with us starting that summer. The oldest two kids of her's outright refused to do so and are still up in the great cheese state minding there own business. Neither Dad nor his girlfriend told any of us they were getting married that weekend, they hadn't invited any of us. It hurt when he came back with her, since they hadn't told us. Then again its not like the thought hadn't crossed my mind, I mean they were coming to live down here after all. Now that I'm engaged and have started to plan for my wedding, the thoughts from back then started coming back, and a little part of me wants to keep him out of my wedding. Its not just what happened then, its other things too, but I don't want to go into that. What do you all think from it. I know I'll end up having him there with me anyway, he's my dad after all.
I don’t like my dad very much and have never looked up to him as a role model. How can I be completely unlike him?
Both of my sons are in their twenties. They have each disowned their dad, my ex-husband. He never was much of a father to them. He didn't play catch with them, ride bikes with them, etc. Instead of building them up, he criticized them and spoke to the with sarcasm. They never felt love or respect FROM HIM. He still doesn't seem to care about them one bit.They have vowed to be the antithesis of their father. They have made a promise that when they have children, they will parent them properly with love and affection.YOU CAN BE COMPLETELY UNLIKE HIM by being conscious of how he treated you and how it felt to be His child. His parenting is not genetic. It is something he may have developed all on his own because he really doesn't care.You vow to do the opposite of what he did. When you have children, you remember what your father did that made you feel about him as you do. Don't do that. Love your children. Listen to their woes and their joys. Hug them and tell them that you love them frequently. Show them that you are there for them as a kind and loving dad. So simple, right?
Is it bad that I don't love my dad?
It's ultimately your choice.If he was never there - you never developed any feelings for him: you know, I've observed others - their families, having a second parent seemed to provide more stability. And, sure, a son would be able to talk to dad easier than mom (guy stuff. I realize kids - their parents get along differently than others, but it seemed the kid respected - appreciated a supportive and caring parent (even if they didn't always agree, knowing your parents have your back really helps you develop your courage). If your dad has been there, and your feelings are from current - newer issues: it is always nice to have the extra support (even if you never need it). Not all families are warm-and-squishy like the Brady Bunch; sure, the more you can relate - get along would provide a more positive home life, but your love might be more distant - not as obvious. Maybe you want to feel more independent, believing the farther the distance, the more independent you are. Independence comes most from your actions, not distance. If you feel the need for distance, save for a great job - life opportunity, I might wonder if you're not running from something (childhood, a toxic family, yourself (your hometown representing the source of what you are - despise)). Hmm; I can see getting away from "what ails ye" to improve your chances of healing. You cannot run from you - don't run so long, you never take time to heal. I get you; dad chose his path (after sentencing us (kids) to ours. When he realized he wasn't going to be around much longer, he tried to reform our bond."Dad; I have watched from the distance you chose to keep: it seemed asif we may have had a lot in common"."Problem Is: you were never around long enough to form any bond...".Dad died in 2012 or 13; I didn't attend his funeral. I shed no tears then; then, in 2015, I visited his grave.I shed one tear (literally - oddly): not for him, but the me I might've been if he'd fulfilled the promise he made to me before I was born.There just wasn't anything there...