Why do people who lose a lot of weight look "odd" once they're skinny?
I agree some, but not all, people who have lost a LARGE amount of weight have an "odd" look to them. I used to think it is because I'm used to seeing someone a certain way, but I have also identified people I have NEVER met and am seeing for the first time as having lost a lot of weight. For example I saw someone who I had never met's online photos and I asked him if he lost a lot of weight. He was surprised I could tell.I think it is because (1) once fat goes ON a person, it is lost differently than if it has never gone on at all. (2) Like a balloon that has been over stretched, the skin never fully springs back. Or maybe it's still on the way to springing back, but hasn't gotten there yet.First, often, but not always, the person loses a lot of the weight from the face more than the body. This sometimes leads to vertical wrinkles around the cheek area. It also eventually leads to a gaunt look because to lose the desired weight around the body/abdomen, the face gets overly thin.Second, it seems that many times people who lose a lot of weight lose it from their arms next. In many men, it seems their arms become very skinny, to lose the desired weight around the abdomen. Alternately, in females their arms get a bit too masculine / muscular in their exercising.Third, the abdomen had the most fat so has the most leftover loose skin in that area, and is also the most stubborn fat to lose once it goes on. Therefore, often people who lose a lot of weight look like they have larger bellies than should correspond with their arms/face because the belly is no longer round like a drum, but kinda bunches up around the waistline- because it's the leftover skin and fat.Also, because people who lose a lot of weight have naturally slow metabolisms, they really have to try to lose the weight, and therefore always burning fat beyond their body's set point. Therefore they kind of have a ketosis fragrance also.This is only from my own observations and not scientific fact. This does not happen to everyone who loses weight or a large amount of weight.
How do I lose face fat?
You re 14. I know this isn t going to mean much to you, but you are SUPPOSED to look like a child. The only 14 year olds who don t are those from places where they are basically in starvation all the time, or anorexics. It will happen for you. No one has cheek bones at 14. Most women don t develop their busts until 16 or more. PLEASE don t fall prey to the magazines and the models and think you re inadequate! Guys don t really care, you know. One of the more popular girls I have ever known was 5 2" and round all over- not fat, but round- round face, curvy body not at all like a model s. She wore no makeup, and wore mostly baggy sweatshirts. Guys loved her. She was cute and sweet. They sent her flowers, teddy bears, balloons- she went to 3 proms. Be yourself. Don t try to be what you see in the magazines or online.
How do I tell my online boyfriend that I'm overweight? Am I being unfair if I don't tell him?
A few months back I met the man of my dreams online. He's everything I look for in a guy, and everything I've ever dreamed of. We hit it off right away and are now in a long distance relationship. There's just one problem; he doesn't know that I'm fat. When I say fat I don't mean "oh no my size 6 jeans won't zip up because I ate too much ice cream" fat. I mean plus sized, girl that rarely leaves her room fat. It sucks. I've tried on and off for years to do something about my weight and I just give up and can never successfully become some fantasy thin dream girl. But now here's this prince charming in front of me and I'm too scared to show him who I really am. He's told me that he loves me unconditionally and we talk about meeting...but I just don't know what to do. I feel so pathetic. I know I'm not being fair to him. Advice? :( this is the first time I've fallen so hard for someone and I hate to think that the way I look might drive him away. Also he's seen my face but that's all he's seen. We voice Skype often too. He says all of these things about how beautiful and perfect I am...I just don't know what to do.
Should I lose weight?
In your case, I will suggest you reduce a few pounds, so, that you don't have to face much health problems later, regarding your body weight. In fact, in the recent times, losing a few pounds is not a very difficult task anymore. There are various weight reducing methods and diet plans that can help you get the perfect body weight. However, to help people regarding weight management concerns, there have emerged many reputed online healthcare stores, which provide quality weight control wearable that help people to have a proper weight management technique. You can use these weight management wearable to control further weight gain and have an effective weight control session. For more details regarding weight management issues, get access to the online sources of information.
Do all Chinese guys prefer skinny girls?
(Edit: The original question I answered was a bit different, don’t remember what it was.)Hi. I think your question has more to do with relationships than with the preferences of Chinese guys. Let me explain.I met my husband online. At the time, he was a 300 pound green orc shamman and I was a 450 pound male cow who turned into trees and sh$@ (we met in a video game).We talked for years before meeting up. Every day for years. I moved to China and we kept talking. We talked about everything from how we felt about having a family to politics to religion. After 4 years or so it was apparent that we were super compatible, so we decided to meet in real life.We weren't big on pictures or video chats, so we hadn't seen much of each other when we did this. We just jumped in. He flew out to where I was living at the time, and I stared the only picture I had of him to make sure I would recognize him when I saw him. When I finally did see him for the first time, I was really excited but I gotta admit, my eyes were confused. I had never seen this moving, breathing human before. It felt like looking at a stranger.We went to a Steak and Shake, and we looked at each other awkwardly for a while. And we talked. The same way we had online. He talked about his job and I talked about my internship, and it felt the same. And it slowly dawned on us: this was no stranger, this was the person we had been falling in love with for years.I suppose my point is, you don't fall in love with a body, you fall in love with a person; a soul.If you guys are really hitting it off, meeting in person won't change anything. If for whatever reason he does decide you're not “skinny enough” (a ridiculous decision in any case, imo) then he was never in love with you as a person, he “loved” an imaginary construct of your body. Even if you do fit that image, it would not work out because our bodies change, and crushing on someone for their looks is temporary at best.Hopefully you'll find what my husband and I did: you can grow to love someone as a person before you ever meet their body… and then you get to fall in love with that too :)
I met a great guy online but he's not attracted to my body type. Is our connection doomed?
I totally understand why people lie on their profiles (even if it is lying by omission, such as only putting pictures of your face on).BUT my opinion is, as in so much of life, honesty is the best policy.When I was online dating, I was very tempted to lie about three things My age (I'd just turned 40).The fact that I'm balding (difficult to hide unless I wore a hat in every photo).My height (I'm 5' 10'', 2'' short of the magic 6').If I put those three terrible facts (none of which I could do a thing about) on my profile then no women would ever agree to date me would they?But then I thought: if someone can't imagine being attracted to a 40 year old, balding guy of average height, then they are going to get to our first date and we'll have two problems:I'm older, balder and shorter than they were expecting.I've been lying to them.What incipient relationship is going to survive that double blow?So my advice is flaunt your imperfections, stand up and say 'yes, this is me, this is what I'm like. Also there are all these great things about me. If you want the great things then you're going to have to get your head around the fact that I'm not perfect.'It worked for me.
I told a girl "I do not think you have a pretty face but I think you have a good looking body". Do you think what I said to that girl was rude?
I told a girl "I do not think you have a pretty face but I think you have a good looking body". Do you think what I said to that girl was rude?“Rude” is not the word I would like to use. What you said was impertinent. Hopefully it lets her know that you are impertinent; that you do not pertain to her, and she’s far better off knowing this. It would be a shame for her to waste time on you. Another word for impertinent is irrelevant. This too should describe you, now that she knows you a little better.I respect your decision to let her know that, hopefully up front. Some guys don’t. Many guys, maybe, would not critique the face, in hopes of getting closer to the body. Anyway, if she says what you said to her was rude, I’d agree.It isn’t the word I’d use. But it’s certainly accurate.I’m curious, I admit. Why did you think this information was important for her to know? Is your opinion on a woman’s face and body important? Oh, do you think so?More than another man’s opinion on a given woman’s face and body? Perhaps you think so. But far more importantly, you’ve communicated to her how much you think your opinion of her face and body is worth: vital information, and a valuable insight to your self-worth, self-conceived.Your approach is certainly better than deception. Not only better for others, either.