It is easy to pass judgement and it is even easier to be self-centered, but remember that you are a part of a society. EQ is even more important than IQ. It is your inbuilt empathy to express your interest in, and concern for, brothers and sisters, and parents and grandparents. Of course, charity begins from home. You start with the family and permeate your empathy to the society. Thus you become part of the whole world. The whole world is your family. Don’t starve yourself of the inherent empathy. We must not forget that we all are inter-dependent. The whole world cares for you if you feel connected. If you break the chord, you feel disconnected. It is fatal to be self-involved.That is why you should take an active interest in your community/work place/society, and find time to involve yourself in various activities, and lay the foundations of good relationships.Others will be considerate about your worries only when you are sensitive to their needs and worries. Learn to respect others opinions and aspirations, and share yours with them. Be thoughtful of others and remember that they too have pressures and responsibilities. You have to be self-critical before being judgemental.
Firstly you need to accept that not everyone is same as you. Everything is different & that's why they are unique. So, you should be very clear about the fact that nobody in this world is like you. You are unique in your own & if you know this fact then your problem is already solved.As you are not like anyone else so nobody could care you the way you do. They care or do not care it's their own nature & you have to accept this.Next, it happens when you start expecting from others to care for you. Expecting is ok but when your expectations are not fulfilled you get hurt, which is wrong.Nobody's behaviour could affect you if you start accepting the people as they are & stop expecting from them to care you. You are enough to care for yourself. Nobody else can care you more than you yourself.Start accepting & Stop expecting . Gradually, you will start enjoying your own company & will become more strong & confident.And by practicing this you will become independent & you will stop depending on someone else for anything. But you need to be humble at the same time.Believe that everyone is not like you but everyone is unique in their own way. Accept them & love & respect them. & with that care for yourself first. Then you will be able to care others in a true way.Hope this will help you out.Thankyou. Take Care :)Love Yourself first then you can Love Others.
This sad sack of a question has been looming over me for awhile and I ALWAYS read the answers. Around this time last year, I felt like not enough people responded to my FaceBook posts and that people who I wanted to impress didn't seem to be. Without naming names, I had decided I had cool people who sometimes liked my posts, and for some reason I began to get hung up on these people who I only interact with digitally.That's when I stumbled upon this magnificent read: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck. After twelve minutes of immersing myself into Mark Manson’s manifesto, my little frown turned upside down and I felt as if I had drunk four alcoholic drinks (in the liquid courage sense). Literally, my mind changed for the better. Mark laid down the foundation with sense and dare I say, bravado? He told me most people don't give a fuck about me and that I need to stop wasting my time with those folks.I had no idea that I had actually internalized this information and made it mine until I spent some time with my step-siblings last week and recounted a gnarly law-suit I’m currently dealing with, one that started in February of this year. One of my sisters in law said, “I had no idea you were going through this”, to which I nonchalantly with no mean intention replied, “I didn't think you'd really care. Most people don't care about what happens in other people's lives.”Wouldn't you know it, all three of the others pretty much nodded their heads, agreed, and changed the subject? This is an event in my life that could potentially change my livelihood and where I live. We had just spent an hour and a half together with our children doing something I had scheduled over a month ago. I see these guys only once a year so I had wanted to do something more fun than sit in our parents house around a dinner table.That's not to say that I don't have a handful of people who do truly care for me…it's just that most people, particularly those who you don't talk to on a weekly basis, really don't care about you. Take this as a learning lesson. As my mother, who does care about me, says, “Don't put all your eggs in a basket that has holes in it.” Mentally invest in those who inquire about your well-being and actually listen to your answer. All the others you just gotta stop giving a fuck about. Oh and study The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck. It will help you grow a callus around that sensitive heart. In a good way.
When you doubt who you are, this is when the true disconnection has an opportunity to eliminate your identity.A person of true caring with a heart does not seek to see what they can get back. This includes if they care about you or not. True caring is about them and rarely about you. The only time it becomes you is when the person or conditions adversely affect your life.True caring is what you can give, share, and provide to another person out of love and humility. It is not conditional, it is unconditional….where the “if I do this for you, then you do this for me” mindset is eliminated.Being needy is not from a place of truly caring about others, such as Princess Di among other great humanitarians, nor is neediness from feeling human and natural emotions of wanting to be loved. Why would there be something wrong with you for deserving to be loved and cared about in a healthy way? I find that a form of self love, and not being needy.True neediness is from an ego based or subconscious level of the hurting area/child within you that keeps going bonkers or round and round to get his/her needs met……and may go round for years on end. Being needy does not seek to desire to give love. Being needy gives love, but under a veil that only provides a ending to what you can get from it, the ego. How can those needy people fulfill the unmet needs that never got met? Everything with neediness is about you in one way or another…even under disguises of one’s behavior. This is the difference.
Why do I care so much about what other people think?
Okay...so here's the problem...I care waaay too much about what other people think about me..I mean I get so self conscious all the time. And I feel soo fake...I don't even show most people my real self, afraid that they won't like me. And I put on my happy and bubbly charade...even though I am not happy. As a matter of fact, I am far from happy. And I always want to please people...whoever it is...I just don't get it...and I act all sweet to even the people I secretly loathe... I try being mean t them...but I just can't...because then I'll be like - 'Oh crap! What if I hurt her feelings..blah blah blah...and what if she starts hating me..?' and stuff like that. I am absolutely terrified of even one person hating me..I don't know why. Till now...I don't have any haters(at least from what my friends tell me) but I am scared that in the future if anyone does hate me...then I'll totally go into a depression. It just happens... I hate embarrassing situations too...they may not look embarrassing to others but the tiniest of the situations will get me in a knot. I'll be thinking about it forever...it takes me a lot of time to get over it. Like once, my teacher made a stupid joke about me(not at all offensive) but I spent the entire hour and the entire next day analyzing how my classmates perceived it.were they taking double meanings...blah blah and stuff...Gosh... So...how can I change? I really want to change. I want to be able to speak my mind out and not care what others think about me...I always worry too much about offending people... Please please help... My family is the only exeption to all this... What should I do???!
No one really cares about me?
Hi, honey. I see myself in your expression. And I want to share what I learned. People never thought or felt about me the way I figured they did. I had zero self confidence and figured everyone saw me as negatively as I saw myself. And as I opened up a bit and talked to people, I learned that things were not as I had thought all along. For example, about 50 years ago when I was around your age, 5'9'' for a girl was considered to be gigantic. You couldn't buy clothes off the rack! My mother sewed my clothes. Anyway, I didn't really didn't seem to process any of that. All I understood was that people were staring at me, which I assumed had to be because they found something wrong with me. But they were really just looking. With some it was a bit of wonder and others wished they could be tall also. Also, I learned that people thought I was very nice looking. And my family thought I was the prettiest of all the girls. I saw myself as ugly! Of course, I basically isolated myself. I was shy on top of it all. But when I decided to try to be a bit more outgoing and even take the first step in meeting someone, I learned others were shy too. They had wanted to talk to me but didn't know if I would accept them. They didn't approach because they were going through the same type of issues. I thought it was because I was so terrible! I hope this helps.
Why do people care so much about virginity?
Because if a person hasn't had sex, then he/she doesn't know how good it really is, so doesn't really care about it. Sex is not a bad thing, people, don't act like it is. If you think sex is a bad thing, find someone who can truly please you in bed! I lost my virginity at 15 after (I think it was) 3 months of being with him. I was very curious at the time, with a huge sex drive.. don't get me wrong, it's still there ;) haha.. ANYWAY. I was with him for about 2 years later. I think I made a good choice. I am happy with it. Do I wish it could have been to someone better? Hell yeah. But, I'm not going to dwell on the past. I feel a lot more confident & 'experienced' with what life has to offer. You only live for so long. Sex is one of the most amazing things life has to offer. Just have fun. Don't wait until it is old & no one wants it. Really. You are missing out. Hey.. yes. If you still want to wait until marriage, great.. as long as you are okay with me not waiting. Sounds fair. xo.
Why do people care so much about likes and followers?
What about people who are rich than most people and obsessed with likes? So do you know how to make 3D laser beams from star wars that are shot from spacecrafts? Not in any modeling softwares but in a self-made rendering engine using OpenGL? Or you don't know and just are capable of talking big with no skills whatsoever? I guess you don't know how to make that effect. Like I said, you have only got a mouth. hahaha, why hide behind anonymous? It's because you are nothing. You probably don't even know what OpenGL is. There's another rendering API just like it. Guess what it is? You don't know right? What you have said only shows how pathetic you are when you meet a true game developer who knows how to make games. Keep talking. The only one that's nothing is you, because obviously you're pathetic enough to rant on social media like yahoo answers. I know the type of people like you, big mouth with nothing to contribute to the table. You are not some programmers, you are sh!it. You don't know how to code. You're just some pathetic computer science student who gets flunked in every class and looks for help on yahoo answers. Pathetic, really. Make a game and actually make money with it first, and then come back. But I think there's no need for you to come back to any intellect discussion, with that attitude of yours. You will just be a coward in fron of your boss. Who cares that you hide? Seriously why would anyone care about a person who talks like you? Bye. And you know how knowledgeable I'm? No you don't. You don't know me. And you never showed any sign of knowing anything in this field either. You're only capable of ranting on the internet. Like I said, make a game and actually make money with it first, and rant in any other forum other than this. The time you waste on hating people because you are butt hurt, people are using that amount to practice to become better. I didn't ask you what it is. I made video games with it.