My friends hang out without me?
I'm now in 11th grade and have been friends with the same group of girls since 7th. I'm on the quiet side, so i'm not really as close to them as they are with each other. About this time of the year, they always go out and do stuff without me, then post it on facebook. It really bothers me every time, but they're always doing something that i wouldn't enjoy doing anyway, but it still hurts to not be invited. And it especially doesn't make sense b/c they're always talking behind each other's backs about how they don't like each other and stuff. what should i do?
My friends are hanging out without me, should i feel upset?
well im 16 so this isnt just little middleschool drama. see i have 5 best friends that i hang out with every weekend and all thatt. i have other friends at school that i would hang out with in a big group, but not one on one. (besides the 5) so anyway, we always usually hung out in a group. the first time they hung out without me was a random saturday like 2 months ago. i asked one of my friends if she was with the other three and she said yes and that was that. then, about a month ago, it was a friday night and there was a party we were all going to later that night. i went home after school while my four other best friends hung out and didnt invite me. i texted one of my friends asking for a ride to the party and she acted like she was alone, and lied saying she was going to pick up my other friends first and then she would come get me. they slipped up later at the party and it came out that they had all been together. i then confronted my friend and asked why they were hanging out without me and she just acted like i was making a big deal about nothing and told me to chill... so i just dropped it. THEN, this past week (its now wednesday) they have been hanging out every day after school and i have not once received an invite. they always accidentally give it away that they had plans and didnt invite me. i dont understand why. i havent done anything differently than i used to but i feel like i am drifting apart from all of them and it makes me sad. im really afraid of losing them as friends :( am i making this too big of a deal, or do i have a right to be upset? should i say something or just let it go? sorry this was so long...im just kinda upset, :(
My friends are hanging out without me?
I have many different friends but there is a group of people who are very close and I thought of them as my friends. And only last year I started getting close to them. We would always hang out together during school but when we got out of school they would always hang out and I always felt left out. Two of them are my almost very good friends and the rest of them I consider friends but don't talk as much. So there was a carnival thingy and I didn't have anyone to go with so I tried to drop some subtle hints to them about how I wanted to go with them. And now I found another friend to go with and when I went there I saw all of them hanging out together. And I felt really left out. I really like all of them and I though they liked me too but I am not so sure anymore. What should I do to get closer to their friend group? Or am I exaggerating this?
My friends hangout without me? :(?
hey. So I'm in 9th grade and my "friends" always hang out without me. They tell me about it and post it on Instagram and such. They know it Bothers me but they don't care one of my " friends" even said to me " who cares if you sad anyway." I'm not good a making new friends but I just hate it when they hang out it me
My friends are always hanging out without me. What should I do about this?
Hi Ugonna, Sometimes people remind me of birds because lots of them (like seagulls) fly together in a flock and they look like friends. But seagulls are very competitive and fight over every morsel of food. They do not share; and they act like they really don't even like each other. Yet, they hang out together.Why do you think a seagull would want to hang out with other seagulls? It can't be because the other seagulls like her. She must feel safe or get something else out of being with a flock of, “friends,” that don't share with each other, don't really care for, or protect each other; and they don't really care if you are with them or not.Ugonna, you are much smarter than a seagull. You sense these, “friends,” really don't love you like good friends should; and like seagulls, they probably only love themselves.You can hang out with other, “Seagull,” kinds of friends if you want to; but know, going in, how seagulls really are on the inside; and that they don't really love you, and maybe don't even like you.It isn't a reflection on you, sweet Ugonna. These competitive, selfish, thoughtless, “friends,” are like most acquaintances you will have in your life. You have to live around them, and work alongside them, but remember that when you choose a mate, many of them would steal him from you if they could. Always remember that an acquaintence is not your friend!Most people consider themselves fortunate to have maybe 2 or 3 best friends in their whole lives! You will find them as they find you.Don't give up and still hang out. But hang out with lots of different people instead of just this, “Flock,” that makes you sad.And always remember, sweet Ugonna, don't look for a best friend in a flock of seagulls!
How do I get over the fact that my friends are hanging out without me and without telling me?
What is the point to get over? If they are hanging out without you, then that means they don't wan't you. They don't want you to be a part of them. Seriously, there is no point to even think about that, just let them hang out and you, you do something for yourself. Go out and enjoy with your own self. Enjoy the nature, the beauty and the sceneries. Develop yourself in some way. Go for a run, exercise or learn something new. If you seriously want to get over them, then don't give a fuck about whether they care about you or not. Care about yourself.Get good at something and start being busy, start learning new things. Remember, friends who are not interested to hang out with you are not the main people in your life. You have yourself, a great person, get yourself motivated and develop new hobbies.Even I am ignored by my friends lot of times. They hang out without me, they go out, have some fun and they never call me. I first felt bad and then realised that I should not waste time thinking about who cares about me or who does not. Learn a new language, learn a new skill, get into some groups or some ngo, you will find people who really like you. Get yourself up in your life, get successful, start reaching high in your life. And when they see you have become successful or you are in a nice position in life, they will get back to you. They will now want you in your life because you are successful than them or you have great friends than them. Make new friends,make a great network of friends. Why are you using Quora? Start reading answers and writing answers. Atleast it is a place of knowledge, not some gossip, time pass place. Always remember - Don't demand respect. But deserve respect.You have a lot of people in this world and you are struck with these people who don't care about you. Start learning new things, start developing your skills and stop worrying about them.And the last one.That's it. Lecture ends.
My friends don't hang out with me anymore and I feel left out. What am I going to do now?
Congratulations. You have grown way past them and are now an adult…..I know it hurts to see a group not including you, esp when you invested in the group, but it is within the nature of groups that they are notoriously fickle and self-serving.Individuals are always more invested in a group than it is in them. This is how they thrive.Avoid being dependent on ANY groups in your life. Know how to have a good time without them.I was once in this position. I was almost entirely ostracised at school.I wanted to celebrate my birthday party. So I decided to do a nerds party and I invited all the nerds and swots who were all excluded from trendy school life as I was. I thought, Oh well, if you can’t beat them, join them.The trendy girls all thought I was a swot and teacher’s pet anyway, so I thought I might as well live it for all it was worth. So I threw myself into it. I invited about 10 kids around. I never told anyone else other than them.Conversation and mulled wine flowed - and when word got round the next day about how much fun we had had, the trendy gangs were actually jealous. All we did was sit round and talk, but we had a really great time together. I played some cool music and served some food. Nothing major - but they were great conversationalists and it wasn’t until that day that I realised what I had been missing in not befriending them.The ‘trendy’ types all learned a healthy lesson about how insignificant they really were in my life. It cut them down to size - and they and I needed that.I think you need this too. I recommend enjoying your YOU time and going out and making some new friends entirely.But do focus on befriends individuals and not groups. Their friendship will last longer as they will not be under any group pressure.
Why am i so nervous/scared to hangout with my peers?
I got the same thing dude. However now I am 23 and instead of being the most popular kid at my school it has left me the most enigmatic. Anxiety is not something to ignore. Either you need to be open with your friends and tell em you are just hangin out at home or start going out. I would suggest mixing it up. In high school when I was driving I had 2 close friends and we used to go out on weekends and it was not a worry thing because whatever we was doing we usually could find some fun in it. The worst thing you can do is ignore it man. Take my advice. I have a lot of living left to do and i'm gon tackle it head on. Actually I think my voice is what also got me into the same predicament. I used to always have people repeat what I said mocking my voice and I used to hate that sh*t. I never really thought about how my ears are trained to not hear my voice. Your voice aint gay dude and dont worry about staying quiet and being afraid to be speak your mind. While you are at home you can do some vocal exercises if you really want to improve it.
How can I not feel nervous before I hang out with friends?
My answer goes along with Farhana’s. I also suffer from social anxiety at times, even when it’s my friends, but more often going into unfamiliar situations where there is a large group of people I don’t know (networking events, parties, etc,) If you are very young, I think it’s not abnormal to feel a little angst and insecurity in many situations and as you mature you will develop more self-esteem and confidence even if you may never truly be a “confident” person.But one thing that works for me (other than having a drink beforehand which is not appropriate for everyone, I realize) is to meditate. I have a free guided meditation app on my phone that has an extensive library of guided meditations about self-love, self-acceptance, banishing negative thoughts, releasing anxiety, the list goes on. Before you go out, find a quiet, comfortable place and try one. It’s just one step further than Farhana’s suggestion (which is a good one). It might be great for you but if not, you’re not out any money.
Why do I feel so jittery/anxious after hanging out with a close friend, even when I thoroughly enjoyed my time and nothing bad happened?
Someone told me a story once. I don’t know if it relates to you but I’ll share it just in case.A young woman told me of how, every time she was around a new friend, she felt uncomfortable and a bit anxious. She thought that it was because the friend was wealthy and she must be intimidated by the person’s fancy house, car and possessions so she chose to ignore the feeling.As time went on, though, it dawned on the young woman that her friend was a toxic narcissist who’d been manipulating her, and everyone around her, for her own personal gain.The young woman dropped the narcissistic friend and the feelings of anxiety went away for good.Sometimes, when we have a funny feeling inside, it’s our intuition or “inner wisdom” telling us something important. Instead of ignoring it or trying to interpret it, we should just listen to it and let it tell us what we need to know.In the case of the young woman with the narcissistic friend, if she had just listened to her inner wisdom, she would have realized earlier on that her narcissistic friend was someone she needed to steer clear of.We need to pay attention to that funny feeling inside, as it tends to be right and it can protect us from the people who on the surface seem okay but who are actually bad for us.