Why do I have so much trouble making friends?
That's really nothing to worry about Dear Anonymous! Since you're new in the college, these things are pretty normal to happen. "These things" are just because of your insecurities, there is no one who hates you or who doesn't like to talk to you. You feel this way because you don't have your old friends there. You mentioned your first month in the college being good, you found new friends, but later they ditched you. No! I want you to imagine if you were already in the college for long time and you have all your good friends with you and then comes a new student. Of course you or this student will talk to you and for you still your old friends matter more, so you "ditch" this student. But that isn't really ditching it means giving more importance to old friends than new ones. If you want to have normal social life in the college, just stay confident and happy all the time and don't think negative and try to talk to more and more students. Also, get to know the friends of friends because you are new here it will be good if many people know you. You should start by chatting with those friends who "ditched" you and the guy who sits next to you and from them get to know more people, believe me you'll notice the difference.It's your responsibility to talk to your new mates because you are new here and not they.Again, just stay happy, smile and stay confident and think positive. Everyone faces some kind of difficulties in their lives and guys like me are there to help :)
I have trouble making friends...?
I am the same way. I have yet to find an answer. I usually meet new friends because I have two very good - old friends that meet new people and I meet then I meet new friends through my two very old friends. I use my best friends as an avenue to meet new people. It is very difficult but you just have to put yourself out there, be yourself and take some risks.
Why do I have trouble making close friends with other guys?
In a way, I see myself in your own description (except for the self-admittedly attractive part). I had the same problem - Had a ton of ‘’girlfriends’ but no guy friends at all. I never saw the correlation between the two, until one day it hit me:I am not saying this is always the case but, it is possible that other guys feel somewhat threatened by you. You sound like the epitome of the perfect man, the guy ‘all girls’ dream of (of course that is not always the case). Listen to your own self description: ‘self-admittedly attractive’, ‘womanizer’, ‘disciplined’ and ‘self-righteous’: “[a] man who won’t have intercourse until marriage”. No wonder why many girls like you and trust you. Now, I do not say that you need to be an a**hole, unattractive guy in order to befriend other guys; however, you might be coming across to them as a kind of ‘cocky- self-righteous-arrogant’ man.Here is my advice: (if you are like me) keep being disciplined but stop vocalizing or trying to show that you are. Do not show off all of your good qualities - certainly keep them but do not use them to make yourself known to others. We, men, are very insecure creatures and sometimes feel threatened by other people’s ‘looks’, ‘ideologies’ or whatever innovative and non-conventional approach to life they have. Many guys are scared to death to talk to another girl, and when they see that it is so easy for you, somewhat resent you for it. It took me 15 years to realize that.So, when you meet other guys, do not make it about you, make it about them: their hobbies, passions, likes and dislikes. Do not show off how easy is for you to connect with girls. The truth is that in our western modern society most men do not hold the same view about ‘chastity’ that you do; however, that does not mean that you cannot be friends with guys who have different opinions and perspectives from yours. Not as long as you respect theirs.
Why do I have so much trouble finding new friends now I am 31?
Maybe because, at that age, a lot of people are already married and some have kids. So their spouse and their kids become their social life and their "friends."Even if you meet people with similar interests, they might *still* be married and would rather spend evenings with their spouse instead of go to a bar with singles. Family starts to take priority over friendship for those over 30, so less effort goes into making friends.The New York Times published an article on the question:The Challenge of Making Friends as an AdultAlso, Lifehacker:Why It's So Hard to Make Friends After College (And What to Do About It)Your new friendships will likely be based more on shared interests—maybe new ones you didn't have when you were in schoolYou're not limited to making friends in just your age group or, with the power of the internet, even your local areaYour friendships may also be more relaxed and less pressure-filled, because everyone knows everyone else is so swamped (Kind-of-friends, also, Moore writes, "is the best version of friends you can have as an adult! Kind-of friends are full of possibilities and virtually none of the obligation.")You might appreciate the rare times you spend with your friends (more than when you were in college and did nothing but loll about)Another explanation could be that maybe they joined Quora (or you joined Quora). Unlike my friends, I'm not married and don't have as much to talk to them about regarding Martha Stewart Living. So I've been reading/answering/asking stuff on Quora and they've seen less of me since they don't have an account. If you have eccentric interests that your old friends don't share, Quora might steal you away from your old friends. On the plus side, though, Quora could make it much easier for you to make new friends -- people are people, whether they're on Quora, over 30, or not.
Is it true virgos have trouble making friends?
Well I believe all of us have a hard time making friends. I don't recall if I know a Virgo female, but I have met a couple of male Virgos. They seem intense on what they need, honest, but yet quiet about the honesty, but I think if you make friends with a Virgo. You be friends for a long time. And if you're Virgo, and you think you have a hard time making friends, that's half the battle. Now you can do something about it if you really want to. Try to remember to smile a little more at people so they smile back, say hello to a complete stranger when you're walking past them. Whatever it takes, to help you feel more comfortable. So when you see someone you think you might like as a friend, you'll be prepared and more at ease to be able to smile and say hello. Astrology does not dictate who you are. It helps to understand your weaknesses and your strengths, it is a good tool for life. But now you know, you're free choice is what this needs. So you either choose to step out of that uncomfortable feeling of making friends, and choose to step outside the box and try something new. Good luck
How should I deal with having trouble making friends?
Just be nice to people. Eventually they will like you also. And it is not a bad idea to exercise. Exercise not only helps you slim down, but more importantly it helps in reducing stress and makes you feel happier in general. Just because you are preparing for JEE doesnt mean you dont have time. Please make time to lead a more balanced life - exercise, socialize all in moderation. Do some volunteer work - you could end up with some great friends there. Dont think friends have to be only in school. In school, if kids are shunning you because of your weight or being nerdy, then dont bother to try to become friends with them - they are not worth it. Are you the only studious student in class ? If there is one more, talk to them about studies and ask for help and share and soon you will have a buddy. If not, find one in any coaching class or online. Anyways in 2 years, it appears you will join a good college and there will be enough nerdy kids there :). And by the way, this is a great time to become friendly with your parents/siblings. Tell them not to worry and remind them that in 2 years you might have to go to hostel. And now is the time to spend more quality time as FRIENDS now :).Good luck....have fun...
I am having trouble making new friends. Where do I start?
Start with yourself. Ask yourself why is it so hard for you to communicate with someone else? Bring yourself up: hair, facial, nails, massage. Start circling: sport club, yoga, take some classes you always wanted, join the bicycle group, library group, art, music.... list is long. Be open and listen, then they listen to you and so on.
My daughter has trouble making friends with other girls?
other girls at school could be jerks, backstabbers, or gossipers. maybe they are mean to her. you should ask her how the other kids at school treat her, and if she gets picked on a lot, you can always transfer her to a different private/public school. and if this doesn't work, try virtual school or homeschool. or maybe she just needs to join more clubs at school with other girls her age. sports are a great way to make new friends. try to find out what sport or club a lot of girls her age in her school are in, and see what ones she is interested in. or you could let her have a big party and let her invite girls at school that she doesn't know very well. this way she will get to know them at the party, and when they go back to school the other girls will remember the awesome party, and want to be friends with her! good luck to both of you!
Do the financially wealthy have more trouble making new friends and socializing with the middle class?
Absolutely. I am in the upper income zone in my town and finding friends who can intelligently discuss my life concerns is a problem. Most of my friends have huge money issues and do not want to talk about how I am concerned about my next years tax strategy. My best frend, wife of a surgeon, is the only friend I have who I have complete sharing of all my issues. I see that there is a great deal of denial about lower class poor money habits. Some, if not most, of this class group spends badly, often rewarding themselves with purchases they cannot afford. In my observaion, the upper class are much more aware of how to use their money logically, rather than emotionally.