Why do I want to be alone?
I've just decided that being alone is a good thing and it's something I want. I'm depressed and fallen out with most of my friends, and I really don't want to be friends with them again because they are very nasty people. I feel like one of my other friends is betraying me and my two other friends just avoid me outside of school and don't seem to want me around. I feel completely alone. I always seem to fall out with people and argue with them, it's almost something I enjoy doing. I never insult anyone or bully anyone, I just fall out with my ''friends'' really easily. I don't really care about myself and how many people I'm close to, I like to punish myself by falling out with my friends. I don't know why. I just think being alone is the best thing for me, because I can never settle with a group of friends and I can't stand the bitchiness and the way everyone slags each other off. I hate it. I feel really trapped sometimes and feel like screaming when people start arguments with me. I've had a pretty tough time through the last two years and it's not reflected on me very well. I struggle to trust people and I don't give a **** about who I fall out with. It's like I've just given up and I don't care about anything anymore. I also get really angry when people argue with me and I honestly feel like hitting someone. It's always me, I'm always the one everyone gangs up on, it really isn't nice :( I hate my life and the only thing that's keeping me going is my family, I enjoy coming home and seeing them because I don't have to put up with bitchiness and arguments. I hate having friends because I know I will just fall out with them eventually. I feel so trapped and I relish the thought of eating my dinner on my own and sitting at break on my own. I'm not a shy person but I struggle telling anyone how I'm really feeling and I actually couldn't say all this to anyone :(
I want to be alone all the time?
Just like me, at the age 30, I have not yet established a real and intimate relationship with someone. Seems that you have at least one of these personalities: introverted, avoidant, social phobia or schizoid. You gained energy by being alone and solitary. The opposite social personalities seeks other people to be motivated. You are not anti-social because anti-social type has the motive of harming the society (ex genocide, etc.). You are not against the society but you need space and most of your time alone. What you felt is normal if you have the personality I mentioned above. There's nothing wrong with being solitary if that is your choice and you find peace in that condition. The problem is that only minority of the population with these personalities and often misinterpreted as abnormal and sociable persons are favored by the society because of their ability to interact and develope relationship. But as I had said, sociable persons should understand and respect that there are people with different kind of personality. If you think you fall into these personality category, then you should accept and consider it in your decisions because each personality type has place in the society and opportunity to excel in other field.. You can improve your attitude by learning to in interact with people one at a time.
Why men want their alone time?
can someone please explain why men want their alone time from their girlfriend. is it because they dont love your or they are tired of them.. or its just a guy thing?? thanks!
Is it rude that I want to be alone all the time?
I have a 6 year old niece and I see her all the time. I love being in my room by myself and listening to music and playing on my computer. I just enjoy being alone. My niece likes to just go in my room and want me to play with her, but I want to be alone. I ask her if I she can please get out because I want to be alone, but she doesn't listen to me. She likes me to play with her when my parents are downstairs watching TV and she's bored. I feel bad but I want to be alone. Is this rude of me?
Why I feel lonely but at the same time I want to be alone?
I was recently questioning the same thing and I’m 31 years old. So firstly, I do not think this is a question of age, but rather a complex state of mind. By complex, I do not mean anything alarming; it is a state of mind many of us possess, but people are so willingly to label such states of mind as clinical depression, anxiety disorder, etc. I’d rather approach such delicate issue as ‘a state of mind’.I can tell my discovery for this question and perhaps it resonates with you as well. (in this case, you might feel less lonely;)I realized I feel lonely because I’m not surrounded with like-minded people. If I’d have a circle of people who would not make me tired in communicating with them, I would not feel the need of isolating myself. I have several friends whom I enjoy to be with under different occasions; the ones I party with, the ones I have dinner with, the ones I catch up for some mind-storm over a coffee, the ones I watch films with and talk about them, etc. but eventually I seem to lack the genuine connection I wish to have. Somehow all conversations are seem to be feeding them more than feeding me, or it is never equal. I don’t want to sound arrogant but I guess I don’t have people around me with an equivalent emotional intelligence level. This stems from my life style (I lead a nomadic life) so I think I don’t have much right to complain, this is a consequence of my life choice. Still, I do suffer. These realizations will shape my future decisions so I would say, whatever you are feeling, no matter how overwhelming it might get, will serve you a great purpose in your life. Try to surf through these intense feelings and somehow if you can manage to sit at the eye of the storm, you will figure it all out. I hear you.
Why it's wrong to be alone all the time?
Nothing wrong in being alone.. but it is wrong to be lonely...But why do people think that being alone is wrong?That's because you'll be missing a lot. You'll be missing on some awesome stories that others will tell, experiences you can share, Love you can feel, the happy and sad moments, the struggles and so on. Basically you'll be missing the opportunity to live and learn many experiences...What's wrong in feeling lonely? It can lead to depression, mood swings and make you lose your wish to live further... it can damage you mentally.Both are separated things but usually come alongI hope this was an answer to your question
Why do I want to be alone all the time and feel annoyed when someone disturbs me?
Social anxiety is, pardon the term, a bitch. Because no matter how much you like someone or how well you get along, being in their presence is stressful and tiring.Without realizing it, you learn to like being alone for the simple fact that it doesn’t make you exhausted and stressed. That doesn’t mean you don’t also want to have friends and go out and do things with them. The curse of social anxiety is that you can both enjoy doing something but also hate it for what it does to you & how it makes you feel.People who don’t have SAD have a very, very difficult time understanding this. It’s just a completely foreign concept to so many.I’ve yet to find a good way to explain it, to be honest, and the best way I’ve found to manage it is to be picky about what I do, and plan ahead to give myself ‘recovery time’ afterwards.I avoid big parties in favor of just seeing one or two people at a time. If it is a big party, I just don’t stay as long as some. Thankfully, most people who know me know how I am and understand. With new people, I just tend to explain how I am, and if they’re a halfway decent human being, they’ll understand.I’m also Asperger’s and have issues with depression as well, and at least for me, dealing with mental health issues often comes down to knowing myself and my limits. I’ve had a lot more time than you to figure all this out, so I do okay mostly. Also, I’m not a medical pro of any sort, but if your SAD is really making life tough, at least talk with your doctor about maybe trying some sort of meds (assuming you haven’t done that already).I’m on meds for life, but that’s not always the case. A lot of people discourage medication use, but I firmly believe in keeping the option open. You’re in the college age range, and college can be hell for those with anxiety issues. Maybe you just need a little help for those years, or maybe not. I’m just encouraging you you to keep the option open.
Is it normal to want to be alone?
We are born alone(except twins) and we die alone(unless a disaster). The life is in between these ends in between we ahave our parents,siblings, have friends,teachers, coworkers, relatives, your spouse, kids etc.Man is a social animal and hence can not live in isolation. We depend on many for our survival and daily life. No one is totally alone. But at times though we have all these people around we are alone. We can discuss certain topics with others but not the whole.Our problems are our own people may sympathize and empathize but eventually you are alone.If you are able to understand this you can easily live alone.The story of Vathmiki best explains this.Source - Google ImagesOnce there was a robber who looted travellers. One day, he tried to loot a traveller, but the traveller said, "I am Narada. Why doyou commit the sin of robbing people ?" The robber replied, I have to support my family."Narada said, "Go and ask your family if they share your loot. "The robber went and asked his father, "I bring money by robbing people, will you share my guilt? His father was furious and shouted, " Get lost, you robber !" His mother too was enraged and said, "Why should I? I never stole a thing in my life. " His wife said,"It is your duty to support me." When he returned to Narada, the sage said "Everybody is alone in this world. Worship God, it is he who stands by you always. " The robber prayed for many years. Then he heard a voice from heaven, "Your new name is Valmiki and you will write the story of Rama." Valmiki wrote the Ramayana.The movie Cast away might provide more insight on how to live alone
Is it bad to want to be alone a majority of time?
No and no and no.It’s possible you are strongly an introvert and are depleted in energy when dealing with others and need to withdraw to recharge.You could be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) as described by Elaine Aron, who enjoys interacting with people for a while, and then needs to withdraw because you are overstimulated. I have this feature.My partner has a high need for solitude, especially after a day of intense dealing with clients 1:1. She also likes the occasiobal silent meditation retreat where she can be around people for days with no need to interact. I like some quiet now and then.Extroverts will tell you that you need to socislise to stay healthy, and it is an important factor to have some of, but for you, that may be once a month with one close friend. To be forced into more interaction can drive your anxiety up.The desire for autonomy, solitude, quiet, to withdraw is not always depression or anti-social behaviour or un-natural. In an extroverted world it just seems so. It possibly would be considered very devout or enlightened in Tibet or some universities.