Why does God hate me and my family?
What do you do if your a single 31 year guy has an anxiety disorder never goes hardly anywhere because of that, has trouble going to public places, never has had a real true girlfriend a love in my life with hardly no experience with women, am unemployed, am disabled veteran, lonely, shy, struggling financially, no friends, have family who are poor who do not know how to help themselves, every risk you take gets u no where just further behind, no luck at all, and your a good decent looking kind honest human being and you pray every night for not just to be better off in life but for your family as well and nothing good ever happens? I pray and pray and pray yet in my life i am at the bottom of every category in life. Especially when it comes to women! I have even tried to put myself out there on dating sites talking to women, talking to women at college, meeting women through friends of the family yet i get no where with women they just reject me or ignore me! I am not even a bad looking guy but not once in my life have i ever had a break when it comes to having one decent woman and a decent relationship. How can you keep believing in the man upstairs when just about everything in your life stinks? Not only does it suck but it just gets worse. Things just seem to be getting worse and worse not just for me but for my family. My whole life has stunk! I seriously would love to end my life instead of continuing to struggle in this horrible crappy life! Yet i keep praying keep trying to keep my faith but yet nothing seems to ever change how can a person such as myself keep the faith?
Why does my own family hate me?
I had a family like that. And then I learned that the family you are born to is your "starter" family. When you get older, you get to sever ties that hurt, and you get to choose who your new families will be. Keep close the people who are good to you, and sever ties with people who are not good to you, be them natural family, chosen family, or simply acquaintances. And do not believe any of the negative things any of them might say about you. Believe that who you are is good, and behave in that manner. It will pay off in the long run. Good Luck! May your chosen families be better than you could have hoped for!
Whenever I am with my family and something goes wrong, why do I always blame myself for everything?
Take heart. This is common in families.It is hard to figure where the malice comes from. One assumes unconditinal love in a family.Usually (well … broad statement. Rather let’s say, possibly,) what goes wrong is orchetrated by someone who instigates a negative. You need to actually become a detective. Watch. Listen.If you blame yourself it is not you. But do look how you enable mischief.It took me 45 years to find out my mother derived some perverse pleasure in lying to me about my sisters and lying to them about me, then lamenting something else to my father. It is hard on emotional wellbeing to accept such a reality, but once you know who, what and why it becomes easier.I never called my mother on it.The damage is permanent. Sadly. But with knowledge one can rest in that at least.Best Wishes
I hate my family?????
Being the middle child, you're going to feel the most awkward about your siblings. You're older sister isn't succeeding well in life (and your parents might give up hope on her) and your brother is too young to understand anything. I think the reason why your dad is doing this is because of your older sister. You said that your older sister has flunked college twice. She might have ruined her life possibly because she was acting inappropriate by hanging out with friends who had a bad influence on herself. Your dad might reflect on this and try to protect you from ruining your life like your older sister because I think he has had enough of her (and your mom too). The one thing you need to do is prove that you're independent and since you're grown up, you should be capable of making mature decisions. Your sister is an example of what would happen if you ruined your life, and you already know it's a bad thing. You need to have a talk with your parents...alone. I am the oldest child (15) and I have a sister (who just turned 12) and a brother (3 and a half). My sister talks to me a lot about how she gets the less attention from my parents, which is probably because she's the youngest. Well, that's all I can say that the moment. I hope everything goes well for you!!!! Best of luck!!
Family friends hate my white gf?
i've been with my gf for 2 yrs now. i'm 25, mexican. she's 19, white. the problem is that the female members of my family don't like her, talk to her, and don't even sit around her. family is a big part of my life since we always get together for activities almost every other weekend. i even took her to mexico with me last winter to meet my grandparents and some more family. the guys in family get along well with her but my sisters, cousins,aunts,and female friends don't talk to me the same anymore. and the problem is not language, since almost all of them speak english. a very close friend of our family told me that he's heard rumors that it's because she's white,too young, very attractive, and she's with me cuz I have a good job. when she's not in school and i'm not at work,we're together all the time. i haven't had this much love for a girl before. how can i get my female family members to accept her? or should i start looking for a mexican or latin girl?
What’s something that happened with your family to change the way you view life?
Growing up, my family was very dysfunctional, and one major thing that has molded how I view life is my father’s alcoholism and prescription drug abuse. Looking back, many moments in my life were effected by my father’s alcoholism and drug abuse. For example, many times my father put my life at risk by driving under the influence. He also would disturb my sleep cycle by waking me in the middle of the night on school night and forcing me to clean when he was drunk. Every moment I remember with him, he was drunk or on sleeping pills and pain killers. With the addiction also came physical abuse. Every time I confronted him about his addiction, he would become angry and hit me or choke me. The abuse became so bad that I had to leave the house at one point and stay a month with my mothers friend. My father’s drug abuse as well as the dysfunction of my family predisposed me to mental illnesses, and for years I suffered with bipolar disorder, ptsd and severe anxiety. When I started college, I could not maintain a relationship, whether friends or boyfriends, and I struggled through the academic portion because I could not concentrate or study well, but miraculously I pushed through and graduated early. I did not know I had bipolar or a mental illness until I was forced into a psychiatric hospital, at that point in my life I was 19 and had no support. It has been six years of finding a way to recover and I finally am recovered. Now, getting back to my father. He has definitely left a huge mark on my life. I use to pity him and hate him for what he did to me. He is going to jail soon due to two DUIs and his addiction is finally catching up to him. In a way it is a blessing what happened to me. I am a more empathetic and kind person. Instead of feeling hate for my father, I have empathy, but from a distance. I know what to look for if someone is a toxic person and I know how to say no to them and push myself away from that energy. I can handle bad situations in a good way and my overall outlook on life is positive. Sure , there are some days I am sad, but I know despite the abuse and living with an addict for most of my life, I am a better person for it and it happened for a reason.
What shall I do when everything goes right in life?
When everything goes right in your life, you should do exactly what you're supposed to do when everything is going left.That is, understand that nothing is permanent. Neither happiness, nor sorrow. Just feel the happiness that is a fruit of your hardwork and use that as a confidence booster to improve yourself. Even clean water would start attracting germs after a while if it stays still and stagnant for long.Be happy of your accomplishments and work even harder.