If people always look at me a lot when I'm in public, does that mean I'm attractive?
First off, there’s a huge difference between glancing at people vs “looking” at them vs. staring at them. Glancing is totally normal. Looking begins to beg the question “why?” Could it be attraction? Maybe. Do they think you're weird looking, or ugly? Maybe. Or is it something else? Staring, of course, is just plain rude.I get stared at everywhere I go. Everywhere. On multiple occasions, friends that I am with have noticed it and pointed it out to me. And they've pointed out that people aren't just glancing, they're staring - for extended periods of time. On one occasion in particular, I personally watched a woman literally turn her whole body to watch me as she walked by me - her husband actually had to reach up and turn her away from me and back around in the direction they were going.I'm so used to it that I don't often notice anymore. But it drives my friends nuts. One friend began counting the people who looked at me too long (by her judgment) as we crossed downtown Pittsburgh one day. Once she hit the teens, she was so frustrated she started counting out loud in people's faces - “Thirteen, fourteen, FIFTEEN” - looking each of them in the eye challengingly as she did so. People were looking at her like she was insane. (She lost count between 47 and 53.)As far as why people look at me, I think there may be several reasons. Some like what they see, either because they think I'm good looking or they like my camo-and-combat boots style. You can usually tell those. Some people think I'm quite ugly (I've been barked at enough times to know) and hate my style.Some people stare at me because I'm very androgynous and they're trying to figure out if I'm a guy or a girl. (I've overheard that question being asked by my observers amongst their groups many, MANY many times.)As for why people look at you, without a pic I can't even begin to hazard a guess. What's a lot more important though, is not to let it go to your head, regardless of whether you think it's good or bad. Other people's opinions (especially strangers’) should never matter to you.
Why do people always stare at my face?
For the reader: Make sure you read Anonymous’s comment, which gives details.To Anonymous: People are looking at your face because you are attractive; people like to look at a pretty face. Even babies prefer symmetrical (i.e more attractive) stranger faces to assymmetrical faces. It’s in our DNA.As for girls looking at your face more than guys, I for one (a hetero woman) find myself looking at attractive women’s faces more than attractive men’s faces. I am not sure why, I just do. I might be admiring their nice skin or teeth or other features, and sometimes I get busted looking. I smile, and sometimes I say something - like I didn’t mean to stare; you just have a great smile, or you have really beautiful skin.That must be hard for you when you have social anxiety. (!) Hard as it is, please just know that at least it is for a good reason; you are apparently pleasant to look at. :)
How do attractive women cope with constant staring in public places?
I've been asked to answer. Summary: It used to be flattering and sometimes funny. Nowadays it's uncomfortable and annoying. The difference is, I think, mainly in the demographic that's doing the staring. In high school and early college, I found the staring flattering and validating. I was not considered remotely attractive by the opposite gender (or anyone, really) until I turned 16, so the attention in those first several years was a novelty. At best, it was ego-boosting, and at worst, it was amusing. I rarely felt outright disgusted because most of the guys doing the staring were wide-eyed high school or college boys who were 1) not threatening or creepy and 2) not really cognizant of their lack of subtlety.However, for the past several years I've become increasingly uncomfortable with the staring. I don't like it and really wish, for the most part, that it wouldn't happen. When I go outside, I always take care to dress in a way that does not attract (or at least minimizes) catcalls and other unwelcome attention. It's a huge nuisance and something I wish I didn't have to deal with. I think I feel this way because the people who are doing the staring are no longer nerdy, clean-cut 18- to 22-year-olds but crazy, creepy, and often homeless people who won't think twice about following and harassing me. And when the harassing starts, I get angry. But that's a subject for another day.
What’s it like to be stared at every day because you are transgender?
When I went through the earlier stages of medical transition, it affected me differently at different times. The easiest people to deal with were the ones who gave me nasty looks or went so far as to make a disparaging comment. I knew where they stood. I could also deal with the people who looked at me in a sort of puzzled way where I could be fairly confident they were trying (consciously or subconsciously) to figure out what I was.What eventually wore me down is the people who would stare at me in a very ambiguous way. I recall one dark night I was walking down the street and two young men walked by me in the opposite direction. One of them appeared to be staring at me. When I glanced behind me after they had passed, I noticed the man was actually walking backwards and still staring. What bothered me was not the staring, but the fact that I couldn’t tell why. Was he checking me out? Was he staring at the freak? Was he staring at a woman who is somewhat tall? Was he staring at someone he thought he knew? It was too dark to read his face, and by the time I realized how much it had gotten under my skin, he was too far away for me to say something without chasing him down half a block.As a one off, that’s nothing. But there was a time where I was getting stared at like that constantly (though not always as blatantly). Coming out and transitioning meant wearing decades of insecurities and fears on my sleeve for the world to see. I could deal with the haters, and of course I could deal with those who were accepting (or indifferent). It was all the stares I couldn’t read which got into my head. Why were they staring? Was I even certain they were staring or was I being paranoid? Some of them were staring at me because I was trans — that was almost certain —, but I couldn’t tell which people were doing that case by case. It can mess with your head when you encounter this persistently day in, day out for a very prolonged period.These days, however, people don’t stare at me anywhere near as much. Maybe once a week or so I catch someone staring, and I really can’t figure out why. I can think of reasons, but I don’t know which ones are true in any given situation. It gets to me a little, but it’s a relatively minor irritation.
Is it normal behavior if a stray cat keeps staring at you while you walk past it in public?
I truly believe animals can hone in on a person and are able to sense if that person is “good” or “bad”. The cat is sensing that you are very aware of his presence and is expressing that he is aware of yours.Perhaps it is hoping you can help it. Maybe it is hungry and has been feed by a person before and sees something in you that reminds it of a good person.Maybe it hopes you will take it home. Show it some compassion.Maybe its just suspicious of you because you are staring at it. Cats always seem up to a stare down contest.Cats are very unique creatures. I would say it's probably not normal for a stray to stare at a person. Most strays will run from people because most people aren't kind to them and think of them as a nuisance. The good thing is, its not afraid of you. This can say a lot about you. I would assume it means good things.
Why do people look down after eye contact?
I don’t think it’s always about shyness. I’m anything but shy, I often make eye contact and smile at strangers but only for a brief moment. After which I will look away, whether that is down or sideways or just at some other object or person.More eye contact than that with a stranger can come across as a threat or it can feel like someone is overstepping your boundaries. Like if someone is staring at me too long, I start to feel uncomfortable - like maybe they are going to approach me in a second and bug me about something - spare change or sexual advances for example. Or in the worst case scenario, it might mean that someone is actually planning an attack of some sort.Eye contact is pretty personal, it can be an intimidation tactic or it can be used to show deeper interest in someone - like when you look someone in the eyes when they speak. Showing too much interest in strangers usually comes across as creepy though.
Why do so many people assume that blondes are FAKE, and RUDE, and stuck up?
Why do you assume so many people assume that blondes are fake, rude and stuck up? And honestly I have never heard the words "fake, rude and stuck up" used to describe blondes. The only stereotype I have ever heard is that "all blondes are stupid". Which is of course not true because hair color doesn't guarantee intelligence or a lack of intelligence. My mother and sister are blondes, natural blondes, and they are very smart successful women. The only time I have heard fake used to describe blondes, is in reference to the actual hair color on that particular person being fake, not their natural color. And if people do assume that, then that is more than likely due to the fact that the blonde women they see on tv are rude, fake and stuck up...ie Paris Hilton, Britney Spears, Pamela Anderson etc. No it's not right to judge blondes as a whole based on a few idiots that happen to be blonde, it's not right to judge period. But hey..people are going to do it no matter what, if it not about hair color it will be about something else. By the way these days most blondes aren't naturally blonde.