Why is my student flirting with me. How do I respond and what should I do?
Well buddy... I'm not going to judge and give you all the lecture crap. Instead, ill give you a good answer, my answer, stop being so f***** hot. There's your problem. No seriously the problem here is your letting the whole world know with the dance and such? The age difference isn't so big, but if you truley like her wait until she graduates. If your only sexually attracted to her then its best you cover you behind and report it. I don't know this Emily or you so I don't know how it can turn out. She might get mad at the rejection and report you. If you don't like this STOP WITH THE ATTENTION!!! Like COMPLETELY ignore her....because if you tell her its not right etc then your pointing out that there is something there. Like I said if you do care about this then be patient, but it sounds like she's only infatuated and wants a ride on your monkey. You have lots of thinking to do.
College professors, what would you do if an attractive and smart female student came on to you? Not for a better grade.
My father was a math prof. He tells a story of a girl who came at office hours dressed in coveralls, and obviously nothing other than coveralls.“I’d do *anything* to pass calculus.”“Anything?” replied my dad.“Oh yes, anything.” as she fingered the zipper to the coveralls.“Try doing your homework.”She call for her huff and departed in it.My dad immediately reported the whole story to the department head.This woman could have made life hard if she had followed this up with a false allegation against my dad.To other people who are in positions of authority (teachers, coaches, etc)A: Do not close the door when seeing a student, unless you have a clear glass insert. If I were routinely counseling people, I would set up an inconspicuous video recorder that recorded everything in my office.B: Gossip travels fast. Even if you have the recording to clear your name after, life can be miserable for months over something like this. Better to not let it start.C: Be very clear that you understand the policies of your institution.D: If some event makes you uneasy, and you suspect that there will be repercussions, go to your boss right away.
What should I do if I have a crush on my professor?
You deal with it privately, and keep it to yourself. It doesn’t take much to start a rumor that can ruin someone’s career, and telling the professor that you have a crush on them can make it very awkward for them and you.It is unlikely for anything good to ever come from your crush, and if you ever wish to ask for a recommendation of any kind from them, you need to keep things strictly platonic.Now, if one day you move on and graduate and happen to run into them in the real world and they seem interested….go for it. But not until you graduate.And, as others have said, you may grow out of it. I once had a crush on a professor, and doing anything about it would have absolutely destroyed the possibility of one of the most beneficial mentor relationships I’ve ever had… even if I all I did was flirt, or hint at there being a crush, I would have ruined my credibility and theirs.So, I intentionally worked through the crush and past it. I focused on the work and the ability to pick his brain and learn from him, because that was the only thing that would get me where I wanted, regardless of what he looked like.
According to professors, what makes an undergraduate student annoying? I'm pretty shy about emailing, staying after class, etc. because I'm always nervous about coming off as annoying (or even brown-nosing) rather than curious/inquisitive.
In general, what gets under my skin is students who refuse to take their commitment to the course seriously. I see this in a number of ways:1.) Not doing the readings. Their understanding of a given conversation is going to depend on their understanding of a topic, and the readings are designed to assist in that task. If you don't read, then you can't really participate in the discussions, so I end up talking to 1 or 2 students. 2.) Not really progressing on a project/problem between class sessions. So, on Monday I asked you to complete a task (that should take 5 minutes to complete) and you didn't even attempt to do it? And now, at the start of class, I'm expected to step you through the procedure again? Meet me halfway - try to do something and make mistakes. I can show you where you went wrong, and help you understand it. I can't work with nothing.3.) Students who don't take notes.4.) Students who fail open-book tests. Really? You should be getting a 100 on an open book test. I'd be okay with an 85. But a 43? And you were in class?5.) Students who refuse to follow directions. As in, complete an outline for your paper and submit it to me by 9/15. 6.) Students who don't come to class on a regular basis with no real explanation.7.) Students who come to class and constantly check their email/text. I hope that your checking your email, and not just looking at your crotch and smiling.8.) Students who take long 'breaks' in a 45-minute class. I understand the need for a bathroom break (you really can hold it in, though!), but not 10-minutes. 9.) Students who think I'm dumb. Don't submit someone else's work as your own, be it a paper, test answer, or a musical project. I'll figure it out in much less time that it took you to plagiarize it.These traits are only in a small percentage of the students I've had over the years. Most of them try hard, and I'm more than willing to go out of my way to help them succeed.
Do professors ever have a crush on their students?
It is a rareity. It is hard for students to understand how large the *mental* gap is between professor and student, it makes it extremely difficult for profs to get attracted to students I imagine. I was a TA, and I found it impossible to develop a crush towards students, I cannot imagine how large the difference must be for a prof and undergrad student. Students tend to think there is some universal definition of "hot" or something, like they can attract professors. That is wishful, and generous, thinking. I had a few students throughout my TA career confess their feelings for me. Pretty much half of them had a hard time believing I did not have a crush on them secretly. They all though I always stared at them only in class, paid special attention to them, etc. None of that ever happened. From the perspective of a student, it always seems like the instructor is *only* looking at you. That is not usually the case...I had to gently suggest to them that they may be incorrect with how they inferred I felt about them. It was not awkward, but it was unfortunate to have to let people know this directly. Think about this before you make any actions is all I mean. It is far easier for a student to develop a crush on an instructor than the other way around.
I want to ask my former professor out, and I’m not sure how to do it. Let me clarify, I am no longer his student.?
He’s probably about 35+. I’m 25. He’s hot, i think I’m pretty hot. I’m gonna graduate soon, so it’s now or never. He’s very mature, I’m not sure if he would be the type to date someone younger, but I don’t know! I’m not looking for a sugar daddy or for love, the guy is sexy and looks like a good time. I need advice on how to go about this.
What signs can I give my professor that I'm into him? 10 PTS!?
give him the flirty but seductive eye lol bite your lip and when youre around one another if you think about sex or being together or whatever you want out of this he will sense it. these are my subtle tricks and they always work somehow! oooh oh stare at him like suuuper interested and just imagine you two together and itll work i swear hehe good luck:) keep eye contact for more than seven seconds! its proven that this gives the people in the contact a sense of closeness
I am looking at these colleges. Anybody who goes to these schools.....?
New York isn't just a big city. It's a HUGE city. You feel it, too, when you're in there. You either like it or you don't. Boston may be a big city, but it feels far smaller than NYC. That may be a better fit for you - cities like Boston or smaller, that have a lot of life to them, but aren't freekin' huge. If you were seriously looking at schools in NYC, look at Columbia and especially at Barnard, rather than at NYU. Columbia and Barnard feel smaller. NYU is very urban in feel. Columbia feels like a real campus. Barnard may especially a fit, because it offers all the resources of Columbia, but within a smaller, women's college. I'm thinking of all the schools in NYC that you list, Barnard may be the one. Your not going to school in a major city won't necessarily hamper your ability to get an internship in a major city, if that's what you want. NYC companies do list internships at Smith, for example, because it's so well ranked, and you can also seek out internships in NYC that aren't listed there. I agree with your sister - if the school is well respected, it's only marginally harder to get an internship, only because some of those listed by NYC companies at NYU, which is local, won't be listed at Smith, which is not. But you can still intern for ESPN, if you want to. You simply need to seek them out and apply directly. I wouldn't even consider Tufts to be out of the city. It's actually intimately tied to Boston, even though it's in a suburb. Thus that may be another good choice - of the city, but not in it. Brandeis feels much more "away from the city" than does Tufts. Wellesley is perhaps the one that you list in the Boston area that feels most removed from the city. Not on your list is Boston College. Perhaps it should go on there? It's just across the border from Boston, in a lovely suburb, and yet it's on the T - the train - and the same train that BU is on. It's very easy access to the city - literally moments away. That's a school I'd suggest you consider. Smith I actually really like. Yes, it's 1.5 hours from Boston, but it's in Northampton, which is a really funky, fun tiny city in its own right. And Smith has personality. It's also very good, so it does get recruited out of. Perhaps worth considering.