Why do women go back to their abusers?
Usually it is harder for a woman to escape because they are weighing the benefits and the rewards. Many women involved in domestic abuse are not as educated, do not have a job, and in many cases have not been on their own before. The woman may think that if they leave how will they take care of themselves, how will they take care of their children, who will pay the bills..etc. Most of the time the abuser have complete control over their lives...family and friends may no longer be apart their lives because the abuser has cut them off. And the woman may be ashamed to admit to someone and herself that she is being abused even to their relatives or close friends. Some women don't want to jeopardize the safety of their loved ones either. Women find it hard to leave because they are scared that the abuser may kill them or that they can not make it on their own. But when a woman manages to escape and start a new life they usually don't go back...
Why do some women go back to abusive ex husbands?
I bet there were a lot of red flags with this woman. If you think back, I bet you will be able to read the signs. Simple answer ----- she's a flake...big time. Not only that I bet she kept the gift you gave her....didn't she!? I think a lot of women are just opportunists. They will play several people and whichever one can feather their nest the best they'll go back to, and they often have no class or compassion about how they do it. They see it and treat it as tho it's YOUR problem, not theirs. If you work with this woman...that's a huge, HUGE mistake! You never...ever start some romance with someone you work with. That's equivalent to taking a dump in your own bed.....as this proves to you (I hope). Some women don't have enough sense to stay away from abusive people...that whole 'bad boy' bullѕhit....wtf ever. They go and hang with some guy that abuses them and beats them, and then some well-meaning, well-adjusted guy (possibly like you) comes along and heals these screwballs, and boosts their self-esteem, and then they up and take off and do it all over again. That's why....a looooong time ago....as son as I saw one little sign of this BS in someone I was dating...it was....'See ya later jack'. It's just not worth wasting ANY of your time on these people (among all the other screwballs out there), and I was willing to let them go for my own sanity and peace rather than take the chance they were actually decent people (which there are fewer and fewer good ones). So....don't bother asking "why"...just learn to read the signs, and then when you see them....drop them at the curb and move on immediately. You can see what this got you......right?!
Sympathy for women who stay with abusive men?
Thank you! I have absolutely no sympathy for weak women. I can't think of a single reason to stay with a man that beats you. Oh you have no where to go? That sounds more like you're to lazy to support yourself. Kids involved?? Thats even worse! You want your kids to grow up in an abusive household? I'm just tired of people looking at me like I'm Satan because I don't feel sorry for women who refuse to help themselves.
Why do women always go back to the abusive ex boyfriend?
I spent the longest two years of my life in an abusive relationship. He honestly made me feel like I deserved it somehow. He also scared me into staying by threatening to track me down if I left him and he would kill me and my new bf if I had one. I believed him for a long time. I finally fled in fear of my life and haven't gone back since. Abusers can be pretty powerful when it comes to the mental abuse they lay on. After all, that's why they abuse, to control and to be the powerful dominant one in the relationship. I really feel for those women who stay in those relationships for life. I am keeping up on this question and although ppl may be pretty stupid sometimes, until you have been in an abusive relationship like mine, you wouldn't have even the slightest clue what you are talking about. I'm not a stupid woman and the guy I was with didn't always beat me. There were times he was the best guy on earth. It's a pattern of behavior. Often times I was far too afraid to leave him because I was afraid that I wouldn't be able to make it in the world without him. I was also afraid of him making good on his threat to find me and kill me. It was easier to stay with the abuse than to have to look over my shoulder every time I walked out my front door to make sure he wasn't there. It wasn't until he started making threats to use knives and other sharp objects on me that I fled for my life. My only regret was that I didn't leave when he was in jail because he broke his probation. It was that same fear that had me held prisoner right along with him even though I knew I should have left him then. So excuse me for being stupid!
Why do women stay with men who abuse them?
It's hard for someone who is abused to leave a partner, but once they have left them its so much better. My friend was abused by her boyfriend for years and no one knew or anything, she kept it secret she was too scared to tell anyone because he would just hit her again! Me and the girls found out it was happening because our friend came in with a black eye and said it was when she was at the park with her boyfriend and something happened, me and the girls straight away new something was going on, she would come into the pub sometimes with black bruises on her arms and chest it was horrible she used to always make excuses.... we all took her out shopping one day and we all decided to go for a picnic in the park and she just started crying we said to her we knew what was going on and she was so emotional we all said just walk away and my friend said she couldnt because she loved him it was horrible, we got in contact with the police and we went to meetings to talk to someone and it was all so hard but so easy all at the same time, because she had the support from her friends it was so much easier for her, 4 months later she came to me saying she was ready to leave and we went round hers packed her bags waited for her boyfriend to come home and she just walked out on him, telling him it was all over now and she was done, he was not very happy and raised his hand to her and she punched him straight in the face, we left him there and walked out. It took her a long time to build the trust up with males again but after a few months she was back to herself she's now been with a guy for about 3 years and she couldn't be happier, it was a tough time for her but she pulled through it :)
Should women go back to being housewives and raising children?
Why do they want to work? That's the man's job. There was nothing wrong with traditional gender roles until some women wanted to play the role of the men Also, it's true that women with families stay at home moms are much happier than working women. I'm just saying. At the end of the day, women have free will. They can choose what life they want. In my opinion, women should go back to being housewives.
Why do I miss my abusive ex?
sweetie I went through the same thing. I was in a relationship of 3 years and no I didn’t get physically abused but I did get verbally and mentally. It was so hard for me to leave him I mean 3 years- how could I have lived without him. He left such an imprint on my life and I really loved him. But i guess that’s the hard thing isn’t it? Knowing that you really did love someone and put so much time and tears into them saying “maybe it will change next time maybe he’ll be different” to all of it ending in disappointment and getting crushed. Yeah feels like shit. But, here’s the good news. If you aren’t together with him this is your time to stop focusing on him, yes easier said then done. You miss him because you are probably lonely and you don’t have that someone with you anymore but in the end you just need to love yourself and heal and things will get better. If you know he was abusive good job you are already on your way to a good start of recovery and you should know not to go back. Just hang with friends more and delete everything EVERYTHING going back and looking at memories and texts will make u miss him more. Also, just don’t think too much into him. One broken road will lead you to someone special who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Soon someone will treat you like you are the world to them and would never even think about hurting you. Look forward to that instead of looking behind on past memories.
Why do women stay in abusive relationships?
Men also stay with abusive women. People stay with abusive partners for a number of reasons. Sometimes they have nowhere else to go. Other times the (usually husband of boyfriend) will say "if you leave and come back I will beat the sh!t out of you) and she is too afraid to leave. Or she has all of her stuff there and thinks "I will just hold out until I can get my stuff out of here, I have held out this long, what is one more day?" Most of the time they get out with their life but there are cases when they don't. It is very, very hard to leave an abusive relationship if you have self esteem issues. And if you are in an abusive relationship, you probably, by default, have self-esteem issues. If people always treat you like sh!t, then the person who treats you the least like crap is the best you know. Life just sucks for a lot of people.