What are the right & wrong things to do in life?
There is nothing as absolute right or wrong in life my friend. That is the main problem. (Even calling problem a problem may be wrong for some who prefer to call it a challenge.)A thing would be right in a given situation at a given time in certain place, but would be wrong in other circumstances.The understanding of what is right, when, where and in which circumstances is called VIVEKA.Let me explain.Let us take example of killing. Killing an enemy is right in war. Killing a friend is wrong. But if the same friend turns traitor ?Let us take another example. Lying to comfort and give hope to a critical patient is right but for cheating another for personal benefit is wrong.You take any moral code, it is right in certain circumstances and wrong in others.Let us take stealing; of heart is OK, but of any dead asset is not.An infant kicks mother, should he do it when grown up?Now let us come to the real problem (challenge). How to learn VIVEKA?Arjuna had the same problem. He was confused and did not want to fight the war. Krishna then clears all his doubts. That is Bhagvad Gita. In the last but one verse of Gita, Krishna says, “Arjuana, I have cleared all your doubts. Now do as you wish.” To which Arjuna replies, “ Yes, Bhagavan. I will do as you have told.”The point here is the ultimate judge as to what is right and wrong is the person himself. I or anyone else can only tell some stories.I hope this helps in your quest.Thanks for A to A Anirudh Chowbey.
How do you know what the right thing to do is?
Right thing, a tricky question to answer because right thing is subjective it changes from person to person but still there are times in our lives when the most difficult things are right thing and we do it just because they are right.Let me enumerate the factors that give a clear idea that what we are doing is right.You will always have “ Peace of mind”, right thing always yield positive energy that will help you restore your strength even in adverse circumstances,You will feel “fearless”, no matter whether people are against you, verbally slam you,backbiting about you these things will not deviate you,it may cause stress but always remember that greatest lessons are learnt the hardest way.You will “never regret” your decisions or conversations if it was the right thing to be discussed or told.You will have deaf ears to how and what people talk about you because its common that when you are right you often get rivals, and they work together to shatter you, thats the time when you sheild your esteem by being deaf to badmouthing that goes around about you.Thus whenever you feel the adrenaline rush or an intense mood to decide what is right or wrong may be above points will be of help, its what I treasured through life experience. A skill to define “right”.
What's the most important thing life has taught you?
That you deserve what you accept. So, if you're being badly treated by someone for example, and you continue to accept that bad treatment, then you deserve it. If on the other hand you believe that you don't deserve to be treated in that way, then you're obligated to not accept it anymore. It's the same with everything, including the way that institutions (schools, work, governments...etc) treat us.
Do the best things in life just happen or do you have to work for it?
The best things in life are not things. They are moments.
Why do good things never happen to me?
I'm done. My life couldn't get any worse. My Dad is stationed over in Iraq right now, and wont be back until God knows when. My Brother Nick, died last week in Iraq. I live alone with my Mother, who's too busy grieving over her Sister (Who died of Cancer), and my lost Brother. Not only that, but I fell in love with this girl, who doesn't love me. I feel so alone all of the time. The only thing I hope for is that something kills me. I'm so tired of feeling like I'm useless. Maybe God put me on this planet to make me miserable. I am a good person, I can't ever get anything that will make me happy. Every time I see that girl with her boyfriend, it kills any hope I had left for this world. I can no longer cry, I'm so dead on the inside that all I feel is pain. Why? Why did I have to go through this? Why can't I feel what love is once in my god damn life! Is that so hard?! If there is a God, why won't he come save me? I can't keep living like this... There is only one way out.