When my girlfriend says things when she is drunk, are they true or somewhat truthful?
Yes, alcohol does reduce inhibition. SO, she is definitely thinking about all those things. However, being an adult is all about not acting out on all your thoughts. All of us have demons that we make a conscious effort to push down deep into our psyche. That's the very nature of being a responsible adult. It's not uncommon to lose control over these feelings when you are drunkSo, chances are that she does have those feelings. She is making a concsious effort not to act on them. I would have a talk with her when she is sober and try to find out if you can do something differrentAnother thing that comes to mind is that some people find erotic thrill in humiliation. Maybe she is a masochistic, and she gets a thrill from verbally abusing you. The alcohol might be dulling her inhibitions enough to engage in sado-masochistic play. She doesn't mean all those things she says. She just says them because she enjoys saying them. There's nothing wrong in being a masochistic as long as you are being that with a willing partner. If this is true, you need to first figure out whether you are a willing partner, and if you are let her enjoy.One "vanilla" example of sado-masochistic play are the people who start cussing when they get drunk. Normally, they are very well behaved people, but when they get drunk they start cussing everyone around them. It's not that they mean the cuss words. They just like the feeling of being able to say bad words. "Being drunk" just gives them an excuse to start cussing. It becomes more socially explainable. In fact, some of them will get drunk because they want to cuss.
Why does my girlfriend say the nastiest things to me when she is drunk?
Nasty in a sexy way or nasty in a mean way?Because I had a gf once who was an angel while she was sober. However, once she started drinkng she would ask me to do some real nasty shit to her butthole. Not kidding.But yea, if she’s being mean, she is showing you her true colors. Don’t take it personal, some people usually keep their true self hidden until something like alcohol makes it come out.Ask yourself if this is who you want to be in your life in the long term.I know I made my choice when I told my ex gf to beat it. It was fun for a while but that level of nasty was one I was simply not willing to tolerate in the long term.Ya know what I mean jelly bean?
Does my husband mean what he says when he is drunk? He threatens me with divorce, and last weekend, he called me a liar.
He means it, he means it all, and he doesn't know what he said or why he said it, he was joking, he was serious, he never said that, you weren't paying attention and of course he meant every word of it.He was drunk. He wasn't in control of what he said, but the words came from him, they were his words. If he is going to keep drinking, he will keep saying it. If he has sober times, he will probably apologize for it all, and deny that it happened, but he will get drunk again, and say it all again. He may start to push for a divorce, or he may not be brave and motivated enough to do anything about it when he's sober. Getting a divorce is expensive and takes some work to do, but more importantly, if he divorces you, who will he have to yell at when he's drunk? Who will he blame for everything? Calling you a liar is just a great way to distract both of you from his actions.If he isn't getting treatment for his drinking, if he isn't at AA meetings twice a day, you should be leaving him, not the other way around. There's no point in sticking around to get yelled at, accused, and eventually beaten and raped by him. You aren't going to enjoy watching his health disintegrate, and the arrest for drunk driving won't be any fun, although it will somehow be your fault. One meeting isn't enough. An emotional afternoon of drunken tears and apology means nothing at all. Get yourself to a safer place, and let him destroy himself on his own, you don't need that misery.You want my serious advice? https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meet... Today. Right now. I want to help, but the only help I can really give is to point you towards the next step.
Why would my partner admit she can say cruel things to me because I love her and will forgive her but she would never talk to a stranger that way?
Because she knows she can do whatever she wants…and you will always be there.You fear losing her while confident men who who have high self worth will have pushed her out of the damn door and told her to get the hell out of their life or moved on. They will know love is about first loving yourself.Loving someone else isn’t enough.You’re prority is loving yourself and someone who knows about love and understands this wisdom values themselves too much to be treated like that.Such men won’t need for a woman to do the same action twice and they won’t tolerate a woman talking that nonsense to them.She said that to you and you are still there.That to her is the biggest reason why…..she can.She knows no matter what she says or does, you will always be there. She has no fear of losing you. She has no respect for you.What woman would when she abuses you, says that to your face and you are still standing there and even saying she’s your partner.Passive aggressive men.Nice guys.They talk about love like it is the only thing that matters.It’s not. There is also self respect, boundaries, and the person knows these boundaries and respects them.If not respected, bye, bye.
GUYS: Why do you call girls when drunk??
lol! I'm laughing because I've done that many times when I was younger. Most of the time it was because I was horny, however I did care for that person. Usually, a drunk mind speaks a sober tongue. The alcohol allows us to say what we are actually thinking subconsciously, but can't get the words out when we're sober. I know it doesn't seem like it to you, but you must be pretty special for them to want to call you when they're drunk.
When your drunk do you say things you really mean?
Well there are 3 types of drunk people, my friend. 1, The Idiot (Falls alot, very tipsy). 2, The Whiner (cries alot... ALOT). 3, The Bad Temper (Will fight anyone, and argue about anything). Personally, i'm the idiot. I love it though, you look at everything and crack up about it. But back to the question, you can't think straight. Thus you aren't worried about hurting people and such. This means you'll blurt out your thoughs like crazy if you want. These thoughts are how you feel... Sooo... Yeah.. You say what you really mean It's a cruel world, man
My girlfriend gets angry when she is drunk and dumps me. Then the next day wants me back! What do I do?
I've loved her. She loved me I thought. But whenever she is drunk she just starts being so cruel and verbally abusive I suppose. She dumps me and says she hasn't loved me in a year, and that she doesn't need me, and that I never loved her or treated her right. She is five years older than me and she pretty much wants to settle down and i still want to make out with other people, and I haven't though, but this idea hurts her so much. I still love her, I just want some more experience, I've only ever kissed like 5 people in my whole life! She says that this hurt is what makes her act that way when she is drunk. But its a cycle! Would you take her back?
Why would someone often get drunk and abuse animals?
Alcohol lowers people’s inhibitions. It removes the filter that people usually have in place that prevents them from doing what they want.Some people get loud and silly. Some people get quite and sad. Some people get mean. Some people get overly sexual.The worst people get cruel. I think if you meet a cruel drunk, you should run away and have nothing to do with that person.
My boyfriend talks to me in a mean manner when he's drunk. How do I make him realise he's hurting me?
I am a mentor and I see this up close so I'm going to give you big warning straight to your face!Stop this now!What this is - is verbal and emotional abuse.The fact that you say he mistreats you when he gets drunk and then you say he is a “good guy” puts you into a dangerous category of “victim”.You need to stop this now!He mistreats you when he gets drunk then you defend him by saying he is a ‘good guy’. Do you see a problem with this ?Many men have a drinking problem; they get drunk and abuse other people. The girlfriend sometimes tries to cover it up; lessen what has happened by saying he is a “good guy”. This makes herself a victim of what comes next.We allready understand both verbal abuse and emotional abuse here. The next thing that comes after is physical abuse - you end up in the ER (emergency room) at the hospital from being beaten.The fact that you allow this behavior gives him liscense to do it more; not less. Next thing up is physical abuse.Do not tolerate this!Drunk people can not be reasoned with. Go to your parents house or your brothers house or sisters house when he gets drunk. Stay away! Let him sleep it off. Tell your family what is happening.Get help!Come back in the morning.Write him a note:Dear,You hurt me last night when you were drunk. I need you to stop. I have respect for myself and won't let you or anyone mistreat me this way…Sign and date.This is his first and last warning. Do not continue with this kind of relationship. Do not have children in this type of relationship - nor are you to get married. He may start abusing the kids when he gets drunk and you aswell.Will you still say he is a “good guy” if he pounds his fist in your face next ? Drunk people can not control their anger. Physical abuse is a serious problem. Don't let this happen next.Get out of this relationship !