Why do we feel better after crying? I sometimes feel like crying, and cry when nobody is around. Surprisingly, I feel a lot better afterwards. Things just start to make sense again, and I become a lot more productive. Any explanations for this?
Most people are trained from childhood to fight the discomfort related to an emotional response.When an emotional response is triggered, it interferes with the programs which regulate your breathing, heart-rate and blood pressure. This causes muscle tension. This is why an emotional response appears to be so uncomfortable.When experiencing an emotion such as anxiety, we don’t want to feel worse (we want to feel better) however, it appears that this emotion is definitely making us feel worse. So we try to ignore it or block it, hoping it will go away. This causes us to switch to the thoughts about why we think we are experiencing that emotion and this often triggers further emotional responses. The resistance we have toward this endless mental/emotional loop then leads to a sense of feeling scattered and disconnected.The reason why you feel better after crying is because you stopped fighting the emotional response and therefore entered a resistance-free state. This feels REALLY good. It feels calm. It feels relaxed, it feels satisfied. You feel connected. When you allow the physical discomfort of the emotional response to happen, you enable your body and mind to relax and naturally come back into sync.Insights from the book, “Doing This ONE Thing Will Change Your Life Forever! The Self Help Guide to Personal Growth & Healthy Relationships”
Is it true that crying makes you feel better?
Adolescence can be really tough. It's important to have someone to talk to because it's possible that's your feelings are just too bottled up. I know this will sound really corny... but maybe have a journal and write out how you're feeling. It'll help, and then it'll make it easier to cry since you'll be able to get down to the deep emotions. If you don't want a journal (in case you think someone will find it), make an email address to use a personal journal. Send yourself "journal" entries. It's the best way to keep that stuff kept from snoops. Keeping a journal is important when you have no emotional outlet, because it's best to get negative feelings out in order to get past them. Why is it that you don't have friends? Is it because everyone in school bullies you, or you just don't talk to people? What activities do you like, or hobbies? Join clubs that let you do these activities where they will be people your own age. It's a great way to make friends. Or a sports team (outside of school). When do you get hit or beat up? If it's at school, tell them to back off. If they don't, go to your teacher. I know it will make the kids hate you, but that is the only way to get them to back off if they don't listen to you. If they still don't seem to be backing off, go to the principal and tell your parents. You won't be a wuss if you do. Those idiot kids need to get into trouble. And if the situation at school is something you feel that you can't handle, talk to your parents about switching schools. A fresh start might be what you need. And if your life is the way it is now, chances are you aren't feeling very confident. So making new friends (in the ways I suggested) will help, especially if they are supportive friends. Doing the things you love (by joining a sports team or club) will also bring your focus onto things that make you happy. You have to realize that a girlfriend will not make you happy. You might feel happy momentarily, because someone likes you and wants to be with you, but no relationship is perfect or smooth for long. You need to make yourself happy first. I'm sorry about your parents. If they are physically abusive, report them, or move in with relatives who you know will treat you well. If you need to talk, feel free to message me. I really hope things get better.
Why do I sometimes feel like crying when I talk with a person with authority or with a stranger older than me?
Thanks for the A2A, Tefy.I have never heard of that one before however I find that when I am talking to people sometimes eyes start watering for no apparent reason. I have to idea what causes this.Regarding the question, there may be an underlying issue present (perhaps past trauma or a negative event) or it may be related to some form of anxiety.
Why do we feel better after crying when dealing with anxiety or depression?
I believe the answer to this is simple, yet, a bit covert. Yes, there is a myriad of scientific facts to implicate that crying is actually healthy (from a chemical standpoint) for your emotional body, but there’s something deeper that must be realized in this age of Emotional Neglect.When we cry, and I mean, REALLY allow ourselves to cry… we are attuning to and giving validation to our emotions. Our emotional body is suddenly NOT neglected, and we are sitting WITH the emotion, rather than IN it.You’ll know if you’re sitting in an emotion because that’s the insult to injury. Ex. “I’m so sad. GOD! I shouldn’t be upset about this, it’s so trivial anyway, right? Now I feel WORSE about myself!” Did you see what happened there? Said person became their own enemy, and was angry at themselves for being sad.You’ll know if you’re sitting with an emotion because you go through it to get over it.Ex. “I’m so sad. Yeah. I’m sad. If I cry about it, I’m going to LET myself feel my emotions. I won’t try to put on a strong face, because that’s me telling myself I’m WRONG for feeling what I feel.” The difference here is that you’ve realized the emotion isn’t going away UNTIL IT IS DEALT WITH. The only way over something is right through it. In this second scenario, you are actually LOVING yourself.This is what people mean to say when they give you the trite adage, “You must have self-love.” Crying is at our disposal any time we need to give attention to something that throws our emotional focus/body out of whack. It’s a tool that we’ve deemed as a weakness. It’s actually a powerhouse tool that, if we give attention to, can easily bring us to a place of presence.So, yes, I say…cry it out. It feels good for all the scientific reasons people have spoken of. I just wanted you to be aware of what’s ACTUALLY happening beneath the surface of the factoids.-Adam xoxo
Why do I cry whenever I talk about my feelings? How do I stop doing this?
Let the tears come out, don't hide your feelings. Then more you hide it then more you will be upset, and then you wouldn't be able to stop yourself anymore. If you let you tears come out, you will feel better. I try to hide mine, but the times when I'm really upset I can't hide it anymore, and then I cry an ocean full of tears. If you don't want anyone to know, just go some where alone and cry. It natural to have feelings and emotions, nothing wrong with it.
Why do I feel like crying when I talk to people?
Most likely, you have an unresolved issue, or even multiple issues, that must be dealt with. For example, the loss of an important relationship or friendship, the death of a loved one or being diagnosed with a potentially deadly illness could trigger the grieving process. If you don't move through all of the stages of the process, your life could stagnate and social and business relationships could suffer. The overwhelming sadness could easily be a symptom. It could also be combination of smaller, seemingly insignificant problems. An example would be something like this. Your car is having problems, your child's grades are slipping in school, you were mildly reprimanded at work, you have to pay a late fee on a bill you forgot to mail and your favorite shirt got stained. These little things happen in everyone's lives. Sometimes things back up, and it seems more difficult. When this happens, it can trigger depression, which leads to lack of motivation and you end up further behind. Yet another problem could be an unprovoked psychological disorder. It is common for a problem to arise without any environmental factors. It is simply a chemical imbalance in the brain. These types of issues can often be corrected with nothing more than a prescription. Ongoing therapy isn't always a necessity. Finally, it is also probable that it is a neurological disorder. In this case, there is no psychological component. You experience what seems to be an emotional response, but there is no apparent cause. I'm not incredibly knowledgeable when it comes to neurology. So that's about all I can tell you. Regardless of the actual cause, you need to speak to your physician. If he or she believes that it is something that requires a specialist, you will be referred to one. If it isn't a difficult issue to treat, you may be able to resolve it with only the help of your doctor. I hope you figure it out, and find an effective way to handle it.
Why do I feel like crying when people talk to me?
I have an answer to this question that may sound a bit strange, but it really worked for me. I used to have this problem a while ago. It never resonated to me when parents told me that I was nervous or sensitive until one day I took some training. I don't even remember what it was about, some life balance or life calling, but I did talk to the trainer about this tears thing. And he said something completely unpredictable “ that if you feel often like crying it is because you have too much love locked inside of you that you never expressed, try to let it out in a safe, comfortable way, through letting your tears out while being alone, through laughing alone, through saying kind things you think but don't say and see what will happen.”It did help me. I realized that I did have many locked emotions and I learned ways to let them out and tears problem went completely away. I don't know if it is your case or not, but it could be worth considering.Good luck!
Why do does anxiety make me cry? I feel like I am losing control.
Anxiety is so overwhelming and can make it feel like your world is crashing down right in front of you. I know this because I too suffer from it. Anxiety causes such irrational thoughts yet they are so real to the person experiencing them. I know it's hard but when you really start feeling this way try to take a step back and look at things with only logic and no emotion. Most of the time you will see that the situation really isn't as bad as you thought. Now I know this is easier said than done so it's also always a good idea to talk to someone or find some ways that can help you calm down. When I am anxious in school I tend to go to the bathroom just to do some jumping jacks and let some of my feelings out. When I'm in a situation that I can't leave I try to focus on my breathing and when alone meditation is my go to. Just also know that it will be okay, you are strong and can make it through these feelings. If you ever need anyone to talk to I am here!I care about you and even when life is getting the best of you just know it will get better
Is it better to cry sometimes than not at all?
I’m deeply suspicious of people who claim to never cry.“I haven’t cried in twenty years,” I once heard a 40-year-old man boast at a party. I wasn’t impressed. I figured he was either repressing everything or simply cold-hearted, neither of which are appealing qualities.Crying can be cathartic. A good hard cry resets your emotional equilibrium. You feel better afterward. It also evokes sympathy in other people. Crying is a universal sign for “I’m not ok,” and it can compel others to offer help or a hug, thus strengthening your bond.It’s definitely preferable to sometimes than not at all. It shows that you’re a sentient human capable of feeling emotions and feeling them deeply, and that is something you should celebrate, not be ashamed of.
Why do I feel like I need to cry? Is this normal?
Yes!Indeed!It is very normal and it is normal no matter what. If yo have the feeling of venting and so as crying then you must have a problem with your life that you jut need to get rid of that pain so you could feel better afterwards. Everyone once in their lifetime will have the urge to cry. It is just a sign of sadness that you need to get rid of so you will feel better. Crying is never a sign of weakness.Unless if you are crying almost everyday for no reason just by means of doing normal activities then that is not normal. It may be a sign of depression IF…you keep crying everyday.But to cry as of just like for now and temporarily then it is normal.Cry if you feel like to. You have to get that burden of your chest.