Does a person's individual "happiness" outweigh their responsibility to their children?
What surprises me is that people get married, then get divorced over things that I think are inevitable in any marriage - the spark is missing, they don't feel "in love" anymore, etc. When you bring children into the mix, of what consideration, if any, should the welfare of the children be given? Does a person's happiness outweigh their child's need for safety and security as they grow? (Unlike many of my questions, this isn't a joke. When you read many questions on this topic here, the existence of kids is thrown in as an afterthought, as if they aren't very relevant, and I'm curious as to what people think).
Why do I get random feelings of hopelessness?
Now, before you say "depression", just know, its not that. My mom has depression, and I know its nothing like that. I don't feel sad. I'm a generally happy person. But, for the last..month, I've been getting these very random bouts of hopelessness and the feeling that my life means nothing and my mind basically is telling me to go die. I don't want to die, I really don't. I've been trying to turn my life around, and just -dying- wont help me do that. These feelings come out of nowhere. I'll just be sitting, laughing or just bored out of my mind, it doesn't matter what I'm doing. Then it'll just hit me. I'll feel tired, and then I'll know its coming, and then the mental attacks start..they last for about 10 minutes, at least. Does anyone know what this is?
How do you know when someone really loves you?
Love..!! If you search the meaning in dictionary, it simply says " A strong feeling of affection." But the real meaning hidden in it is even deeper than the deepest things one can ever imagine..and also the most beautiful thing one can ever have.. Ofcourse a real love’s true example is the love you get from your family. But if the concern is someone else how can we know a love is real or not??? Honey!!..no dictionary can give you this answer, except your "Heart". A Love is real when, * He/she is the first and last thought comes to your mind after you are awake or before you sleep. This shows the impact his love made in your life,,that you are happy. * When he/she is worried about your cold and scolds for your carelessness regarding health. * When he/she manages time for you even from a very busy schedule. * When he/she decides to focus only on studies till the exams, and stop talking to you for few days..but the very next morning its his/her message..."I miss you :-(". * When your smile makes his day, your voice once a day becomes his need and makes him feel lost when missed even for a day. * When you are sad, and pretend to be ok but he could mark it just listening to your made up chilled voice. * When he/she knows that you are not ready for a relationship or already into it with someone else,but still loves you, waits for you whether it is 1year or 9 years (yes they exist). * When he/she motivates you just to see you getting all success and fame. * When he knows that already he is friendzoned by you, but still dropping you home late at night is taken as his responsibility...that is a real love. * When he apolozises for a little touch mistakenly made by his little finger to yours finger without your permission.* When he keeps you at safe side of the road and puts himself in the vehicle side assuring your safety. * When " I love you" from your voice gives him goosebumps and an excitement to jump on the bed and dance and also the recording of it becomes his favourite audio on phone. This is real love to me. And if you ever find such love, never let him/her go. Because, " Love is the most beautiful thing to have, hardest thing to earn and most hurtful thing to lose".
A couple who loved each other truly had to get married to someone else due to family pressure. How do they feel about it now?
The couple loved each other still got married to someone else…this happens in many cases..some of the couples end their life because they cannot see their partner living with someone else..they only want to live with each other.Some of the couples move on after geting married…they cannot completely forget their love..but when they get married..they have their own family..so they try to be happy as they are..It is very very difficult to leave your loved one and get married to someone else…only the ones who have experienced it can tell exactly how it feels…when tou are in love with someone..you imagine your every moment with them…you feel as if you want them every second…you cannot inagine living with someone else other than your partner….But because of the family pressure..some couple have to do this…i think this is the familys mistake…when you separate two loved ones…God never bless them..it is the worst sin i suppose..Being seperated from your partner is the worst feeling ever…i cannot even imagine a single secind without my girlfriend…she is my breath…wherever i will go..she will be with me…and i am gonna marry her..thats for sure…It is the responsibility of the family members to understand where their daughter or son is happy..if they are happy with a particular person…they should let them marry to him/her.People should try to understand the beauty of love…because it is the best experience abyone can have..:it is the best feeling anyone can ever feel. It is the best of all.Hope it helps!:)
Scared of divorce.....is anyone actually happy with their marriage?
I dated my wife for two years, we were engaged for one year, and we have been married now for 15 years. I can honestly tell you that each year of our life together has gotten better. Are we perfect? No. You occasionally say something the wrong way, hurt a feeling or two, but that heals in a few days. It is important that your spouse is also your friend and someone that you enjoy being with... Sure, you get on each others nerves from time to time... but that is why you have to share the love and trust that allows you not to be joined at the hip all of the time. My wife and I share many mutual friends but we each have our own circles, go out without one another, and even take trips apart sometimes. My wife will go to Hawaii with girlfriends... I have gone to the Rock N Roll Hall of Fame with some bros... you know. We are very happily married... and if we ever feel that "sick of each other" vibe, we give each other some space. There is a lot of passion in our marriage and a few days apart just fans the flames.
Is there such thing as a happy couple?!?
my theory is that humans are like any mammals we find a mate breed and then are on our way. but in society we have been forced to marry and stick to one person. now its normal for people to think that becoming a couple is normal but if our ancestors looked at us they would think were a crazy bunch. women have been treated poorly by men throughout history because someone has to be dominant in a marriage and men are physically stronger then women. these days we cant have a dominant person and divorce is becoming more and more popular because a male and female cant get along. yes there are some that are together for a long time and happy but that may because they are more friends then lovers. also now people get married because of the financial bonus's. but i think rather than marriage there should be a buddy system where to close friends live with eachother and get the same bonus's as a married couple. just a thought. so to answer your question you are right there are very few happy couples and yes marriage and couples do not fit our modern society with all the rules. good question and i hope i helped you out alittle bit good luck with your answer.