WHY does my mom hate me so much?
*Virtual HUG* This made me upset reading this and I can relate so much. There's not much I can say but just keep hanging in there, and you will grow into tough skin and come out stronger. Just know that it really isn't your fault and I've learned to use my friends as my family so it would be good to open up to your friends about this. Your step dad has NO right to hit you and its good that you reported him! <3
My mom hates me. Does that make me a bad person?
Hi, I doubt very seriously your mom hates you. If she did it would be very, very unusual.I don't know your age or your name for that matter, but I'm guessing your a teen. Not only is this a hard time for you, but its a really hard time for moms. Which may make us come across very hateful sometimes.But one thing you need to try to remember is the reason moms seem to turn into a monster is because when you start becoming independent we suddenly get terrified.You start to be out with friends, you start to talk about driving, or getting ready to drive, you talk about when you are grown and gone, etc.We (moms) have had you around since your first breath. Not to mention nine months before that. Losing you to an accident, or violence scares us beyond belief. So sometimes we might yell when we don't mean to. Ground you when it seems unfair. Take things from you, like your phone or TV, or your time on the computer. and some moms may take a swing at you but does it really hurt? My mom ran me all over the house growing up but I never felt the swats, although I screamed like she was killing me.But the last thing a mom does is hate you even though we may appear that we do.I know you've probably heard all this before but one day it will all make sense. But in the mean time when you and your mom are not in an argument over something that seems silly to you, ask her if she has time to talk to you. Now don't ask when she's cooking or heading out the door. But then simply ask her why she seems to hate you, at least in your eyes. Explain why you feel that way. Tell her what she says that hurts your feelings. Odds are you will find out her behavior is all because she loves you and only wants to protect what she still sees as her little one growing up and she's just overwhelmed with worry for you.If you find this not to be the case, then send me a message and I'll be glad to talk to you.Good luck, I have a feeling after you talk to your mom your going to feel alot better. Mom will probably shed some tears, even though you may never see them.Enjoy these years, you will miss them once your chasing after your own kids. Joy
Why does my Mom Hate me?
Each child has their own needs. Your brother might be emotionally less mature or have other issues that make it a better fit for him to stay at home. Maybe your mom likes the company, or the help. Maybe your brother likes the familiarity and security of living at home. There's nothing wrong with it--it's very common in other cultures, and owing to the economy, more common in the US nowadays, too. Just because your mother is fine with this arrangement doesn't mean she loves you LESS. It seems like you got more help than your brother when you were a young adult--your brother wasn't afforded the same opportunities, now, was he? Perhaps your parents had a reason for this. You also need to realize that you inserted yourself into the present family dynamic by moving home after being gone for ten years. Time doesn't stand still. Like it or not, you're a guest in a home that is shared by your brother and mother. Also--does your brother pay any of the bills at home? If you say no, are you sure? If you have continued issues with your brother, you need to take them up with HIM. Right now, you're letting your mother be the referee and the bearer of bad tidings. If your brother is saying one thing to you, and another thing to your mother, you need to have a "family round table" with the lot of you present and clear the air--CALMLY and like ADULTS, which you all are. Skip that "He said/she said" nonsense. It's not always easy when the family dynamic changes--you need to be mature and address issues without any drama or flouncing or complaining--put those childhood rivalries behind you.
Why does my mom believe that I hate her?
Well, exactly - WHY?From what behavior you draw that conclusion or.. did she actually tell you that you must hate her?Q: did you do something specific to make her think that?or...You FEEL, she thinks you hate her simply because you have grown, started to live your life, YOUR way, formed your OWN opinions on things which may vary from hers, do not want to spend time with her but with your friends (so completely normal!), set healthy boundaries, hence - she lost control over you (which you might have not realized in the first place that she actually HAD CONTROL over you).Summarizing - your question is very vague. But...... Something maybe, just MAYBE worth exploring: do you think your mother might be a narcissist and she plays on your feelings in order to draw you closer (so you can prove that you do NOT hate her). It might be a "control tool".Try reading very harsh (yet to the point!) summary by Chris. It sure DID HELP me on my path to healing when I started reading about narcissistic mothers 4 weeks ago. I am 56. It is never too late :).It might seem like a judgemental/harsh advice because I do not know your mom, but I am writing this in case, that this is the case and the sooner one reads about it, the lesser damage and chance for joyful life without a guilt trip.https://sites.google.com/site/ha...
My mom hates me for being bisexual; what do I do?
I'm a 17 year old girl; I turn 18 in November. I'm the youngest of three and I'm going to college in August. Two months ago my mom read my journal and found out I was interested in women. She gave me the Jesus speech and that was it. Ever since then I've had my journal with me at all times. I slipped up this weekend when I went to my sister's house (who is gay, 25, and lives with her gf). I left it at home. My mom called me Friday night telling me to come home for a job interview on Saturday. I didn't. When I got home Sunday night my mom didn't say a word to me; I thought she was mad because I didn't come home on Friday. She decided to pounce when I was eating dinner. She found my journal and read it AGAIN! (It was fairly well hidden, so I know she searched for it). The things I wrote was about how I can't wait to go to college, so I can live my life with whoever I want to girl or guy. I wrote that I was still a little confused about my sexuality and I need experiences (I wasn't really talking about sex, just relationship wise) with women to figure it out. I wrote about how I came out to three of my friends and they accept me. My mom yelled at me for a good thirty minutes about how disgusting I am and that she is not paying for anything for me to go to college if I'm going there to hook up with women. She said I'm not leaving with my phone and she is going to return my laptop (which was a graduation present). She called two of my Aunts and my older brother,19, and read them what I wrote in my journal. She says she will call my roommate's mother and tell her because she doesn't want me corrupting other people's children (so, I might not have the same roommate in the fall). She said she regret having me and my sister. I'm no longer allowed to see my sister. She said I was a disgrace and nasty and that she's not afraid to disown me because I'm not her child, I must have been switched at birth. That's not even the worst of what she said. I just don't know what to do? I'm trying to get a job so I can pay for my stuff to go to college. Do I stand up to her or just let it go? She has my journal, so I don't know who she is showing it to. I'm just so frustrated! Any advice will help.
His mom walked in on us and now she hates me. What can I do to make things better?
my boyfriend and i have been together for about a year and four months now. we're both 15. yesterday i was at his house and we were in the other room away from everyone, and i started giving him a hand job. then, his mom walked by and saw us. she talked to him tonight and said she was ashamed, that she didn't believe we were really in love, and that she didn't like either of us all that much. and she wants us to break up. and because he won't break up with me she's taking away his door, music, internet, and social life. i really do love him. and he loves me. it isn't just some sexual relationship, we really care about each other. and i really don't want his mom to hate me, or hate us being together. what can i do to make things better?
Why does my mom hate me an love my lil brother?
My mom hates me. Im 15 and my mom is always treating my lil 7 year old brother like hes a king. Every time he does something to me and i tell my mom she makes it my fault. The other day i was eating pizza and he took one of my slices and i told my mom and she said "well thats what happens when you take his pizza". But i never took his pizza in my life. She just makes every little thing about me. As soon as he starts crying she yells at me even though she doesnt know why hes crying. He gets in trouble with my step-dad and gets yelled at and runs to his room crying and she runs up behind him and babies him. But when he yells at me she just yells more. Im sick and tired of being treated like the court jester and he gets treated like the king. can anyone tell me how to get my mom to love me again? (NOTE: i have tried being a good kid and listening to her but it dont work. she just yells at me and tells me to stop being a kiss ***)
My mom hates me, and I just wanna die?
that was difficult to read , no paragraphs and it runs on . It sounds like your mom said something in anger that hurt and you cannot take that to mean she does not love you. There is a lot of frustration going around these days, and she just lost her job, which is no excuse. She sounds like she needs to pick better healthier males as well, and showing you porn was against the law so you could report him. Can yu and your grandma stay together? Your mom obviously has problems and picks bad companions. your life has been unsettled and you are not getting the emotional suppor tyou need enough, probably because she does not have it to give. That does not mean you are not loved. I can see how you might feel emotionally dead though. You will come back to life when you meet loving people , bring healthy adults into your life and you can ask your grandma to help you find some healthy mentors, adults that are successful in their areas of interests that are the same as yours. Ask them to mentor you, to advise and guide you . Someone will say yes, if youkeep asking. go here and see if you can get a bbbs.org, that would help you a lot also. Of course she would care, she was just tired and frustrated. go here and learn the free version, learn the 'basic recipe' and the 'resistance' section and apply it to all yoour pain, every line of this that you have written. It doesn't take long to learn and apply and it would clear out all the pain you just wrote about. Then you would have more energy, a free mind and emotions to move forward, think clearer and see what you need to do to bring more love into your life. emofree.com, If you do that, it will be the best thing you could do right now for yourself an dyou could clear each and every pain and line you wrote here, once and for all. Find some school counselors, or church counselors a church somewhere, and go talk to them also and ask for support. Lots of people grow up to be very successful even with painin their pasts. I am sorry she said those things to you, it hurt you and she should not have said them. Parents are imperfect humans. Forgive her, and know you are loved. Ask your angels to help you, everyone has angels that will help them if they ask. get a hug from your grandma. ask your mom for a hug and let her know that her words hurt you a lot.
Can it be true that my mom hates me because she loves some guy (please read the description)?
I'm sympathetic to your mother's situation, though I agree she is handling it very badly. She must be absolutely miserable in her marriage to be acting out so badly. Please try to be kind to her if at all possible.I was in a similar situation to your mother. My daughter was 17 at the time. I was going along in much the same way, happy when the guy was there, miserable when he wasn't. My daughter finally wrote me a long letter wherein she told me clearly how much I was hurting her and the rest of the family. She told me I had to make a choice between her dad and the new guy - the middle ground I was trying to hold was not sustainable. I was making everyone miserable which was not fair. She was right. I was fighting not to make a decision, but finally I had to decide one or the other. Which I did. And things got better. Slowly but they did get better.Your mother may not respond positively, but you should try. Tell her you love her but that her behavior is not acceptable. She needs to be with your dad or she needs to leave. She can't stay in this destructive limbo. Good luck, sweetie! This stuff is hard but it is worth it.