Why do we always think about something that we don't want to think about?
Thanks for A2A.Our brain works 24×365 and sometimes we keep thinking even if we don't want to. I think following can be the reasons for unwanted thinking :Most of the times we think about something that happened which we didn't wanted. Then our mind keeps producing thoughts about it because it wants us to correct things if something is wrong.When some negative thought comes in our mind, we try to push it out. The more we push it, the stronger it gets.One of the main reason is fear. We overthink when we fear. We try to think every possible outcome and how we can handle it.Not doing something which needs to be done. Sometimes we avoid or try to ignore something which needs to be done.Sitting idle also leads to overthinking. If anyone is not doing anything and just sitting all day then the mind of the person will be flooded by many negative ideas.The major reason I think which causes unwanted thinking is negative thoughts because negative thoughts needs more thinking. One can't think about something positive all day, but the case is opposite in negative thinking. So, if anyone wants to stop thinking about things they don't want, they'll need to think positive as much as possible. Staying busy and not wasting time will also help.
Why do some girls always say that you don't love them, but you think you have tried your best, and know that they are not telling the truth?
They're plain needy and therefore are acting difficult, unless it's once in a while which can be attributed to hormonal changes or some tough phase in her life.If the case is not discountable, it's really really tough to bear that. They don't know what they really want out of the relationship. It's their internal sense of void that they're projecting onto you. It's like a never ending loop - they have fluctuating definitions of love. On some days it's taking them out on a drive. Other days, it's making them feel special on almost a weekly basis. What you can do is help her understand that it's tough for you as well to see things like this. Explain her and try to understand the real reason behind her discontent. Help her figure out contentment in her own life. At the end of the day, you're not responsible for her happiness - she herself is.
Why does she always say "You don't love me"?
EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE ARE DIFFERENT FROM GENDER'S POINT OF VIEW!!! From your perspective, you get up everyday and work like a dog to provide her a life that allows her to be happy and full of choices. For you, that daily sacrifice is the grandest display of love you can offer. From your wife's perspective, she wants something more simpler probably. things like saying you love her once and a while, or some romantic gesture out of the blue. Its really easy for people to overlook the things we do for love, becuase people tend to forget the DAILY displays of love. they just tend to take that for granted...like its just routine out of the day. People are stupid that way in my opinion. I suggest making it a point once a week to do something romantic for your wife's effects at home. It doesn't have to be big. Just something that says you are thinking about her. It could be flowers or just a "I'm thinking about you" email. It just has to be ANYTHING. Trust me. A little token of affection is cheaper than divorce costs.
Why does my friend think she is always right?
I have a friend whom I love dearly, but she seems to think that her opinion and perception of the world is the end all be all. She is incredibly sarcastic (which is why I love her), but if I say anything that doesn't line up with how she thinks or sees something, it's automatically wrong, and her tone suggests that I'm even stupid for thinking otherwise... A lot of this includes her giving people compliments and then continuously refusing to accept any that we give her in return, and acting like I'm lying to her if I say something good about her. It upsets me that she exerts so much energy trying to make other people feel good about themselves, but then completely neglects her own self esteem, which seems extremely hypocritical if you ask me, and it really hurts to see her be so selfless to everyone except herself.She often is critical of things that my other friends do or say, even if it is slightly insane, but we're teenagers. We are allowed to be kind of crazy... A lot of the time I get a feeling that she thinks she is more mature simply because she has a more subdued temperament. I just wish that I didn't have to constantly feel like I'm making her disappointed by what I say or think. I don't think she is intentionally doing this, but I really want to confront her about it but I don't know how.
I like a girl but I think I don't love her but I'm always thinking about her. What should I do?
We met online. I remember the first night we chatted on our phones over text. We talked about psychology. How people think and why they react the way they do.She was fascinating.After that we were connected, we were joined through our phones and we have been in constant contact ever since. The only time we don’t text is when work gets in the way but we know one another’s schedules and so we know when we can share a quick word or two.I live with her now and this is still our dynamic. Constant contact. It’s what works for us. Others may feel differently, it might look over the top from the outside but this is how we roll.Follow your instincts. If you want to text her then text her. If you want to call her then call her. If you want to ask her out then ask her out. Fear is the enemy of intimacy. If you don’t act then nothing will happen. If you like her and want to explore your relationship further then do so. If you don’t like her enough to move forward then don’t.You don’t have to fall instantly in love with someone. Sometimes it takes time, sometimes it doesn’t happen at all and then other times it happens all at once. Every relationship is different. What’s important is that you do what is true to you. Roll the dice, it’s fun to see what happens.
I think my gf is crazy? Why is she always screaming yelling and fighting?!? why can’t she just be chill!?!?
I don’t know what to do and i am ready to break up with my gf because I cannot take her drama anymore. The tough thing is we live together and now my best friend and roommate is moving out because he no longer wants to live in a toxic space. Constantly threatening me, threatening to leave, threatening the relationship always whenever i don’t do what she wants. She takes no responsibility for anything. My gf has been fighting with me screaming yelling etc when other people are in the house for 3 days straight. before I even wake up i’m being screamed and yelled and sworn at. She is mad at me over a relationship i was in 2 years ago! I never speak to this girl and when i do i am cordial and nice and that’s it. She wanted me to agree with her because i didn’t unfollow her and i told her she was wrong and wouldn’t accept her speaking to me like this. I love her so much but i’m afraid that it isn’t enough. She constantly is upset angry and mad no matter what or who! One minute she’s kind and nice and the other rest of the time it’s mierable being with her. It’s effecting my work and ability to make money. this has been going on for the past 5 months and i’m sick and tired. She constantly makes bad decisions about her life, i try to help her get a job and she doesn’t. I try so hard and I feel so tired and don’t know what her problem is. I can’t do it anymore. Advice?
My wife always thinks she is right?
don't get divorced...Marriage is a serious union:) It sounds like she has low self esteem...and for some women when they feel bad about themselves they will act like this...I know it sounds crazy but it is true! I say stick up for your self all of the time..let her talk and you should talk aswell Avoid yelling if you can and act out of love remember this is a woman you love and vowed through the good times and the bad...right.... Bad time... just reasure her that you love her everyday and you're there to stay by her...help her to build her self esteem.... care for her...be there for her....love eachother... you will grow together...
Why do i always think about fighting(but i don't fight or start fights)?
Could be the Testosterone kicking in. Or maybe you just love boxing.
My girlfriend doesn't trust me. She's always thinking that I'm cheating. When I might just be sleeping or working. How can I make her trust me?
Luis, I made a point of answering this question because I've had--and been married to--women like this in my life. This insecurity on their part will ruin your life. Trust me on this. If you ignore my advice, you will regret it for the rest of your life. At first, it's kind of flattering that this beautiful woman wants you and is overly-protective of you. For a few weeks, especially early in the relationship, it can make you feel like she really is really into you. And then reality starts setting in. What began as sort of flattering, gradually evolved into to us not even being able to have attractive female friends. No matter how great they were as people, if they were pretty, it wasn't going to happen. And that's the least of it. It got to the point that I had to avert my eyes whenever an attractive woman was in the area. If I so much as looked at her, a fight would ensue. She would even call me out in public, saying things like, "What did you do??" or "What are you looking at??" I once casually glanced at a woman walking through a restaurant for a c0uple of seconds. She made us leave the restaurant immediately without finishing and wouldn't talk to me for two days. When I got home from business trips, she would go through my wallet and Google wherever I went to make sure I wasn't cheating or going to a strip club. I had to keep her posted at all times as to what I was doing and where I was going. And this was my life. It was like living in hell.The irony? I wasn't cheating! All of this for nothing.I finally filed for divorce, but had to pay a LOT of money to escape it. I made a vow to never--EVER--be with a woman who was this insecure for even one minute. I kept that promise to myself and life is now worth living again. All I ask is, now that you know how this story turns out, that you don't make the mistake I did and move on. Trust me, this may be the best advice you ever get.