How should I deal with negative people?
Complainers and negative people are bad news because they wallow in their problems and fail to focus on solutions. They want people to join their pity party so that they can feel better about themselves.People often feel pressure to listen to complainers because they don’t want to be seen as callous or rude, but there’s a fine line between lending a sympathetic ear and getting sucked into their negative emotional spirals. You can avoid getting drawn in only by setting limits and distancing yourself when necessary.Think of it this way: If a person were smoking, would you sit there all afternoon inhaling the second-hand smoke? You’d distance yourself, and you should do the same with negative people.A great way to set limits is to ask them how they intend to fix their problems. The complainer will then either quiet down or redirect the conversation in a productive direction.You should strive to surround yourself with people who inspire you, people who make you want to be better, and you probably do. But what about the people who drag you down? Why do you allow them to be a part of your life? Anyone who makes you feel worthless, anxious, or uninspired is wasting your time and, quite possibly, making you more like them.Life is too short to associate with people like this. Cut them loose.To learn more from me, check out my award-winning book that’s a #1 best seller.
Why do I feel drained around certain people?
Some people will drain you and believe me you should learn how to protect yourself. One of elders advised me once, if you get to the rain without an umbrella; prepared to be wet.They are called vampires or energy drainers(I don’t think I like this label). They will have all the negative idea about everything and act as victims. Such as nagging things down. If you are positive, you will try to help them out, and might make you feel good for sometime. That’s the trap you can fall on.The problem is, after long they don’t change. And you might.why you feel drained? One analogy I read from a book was, you can think ofas this wheel, it continues to spin if you are aligned to your goals and get things done. Your habits and your ways of life are like that, they have affinity towards the people that you surround with. If they are positive, it will continue to spin and you have the pot or expression of yourself to the best you can. If it is negative, you might end up with something else. The wheel might even stop at one point.I am introvert and I have limited energy. So it is a lifestyle that works for me, where I guard my energy(You choose where you spend your time, so I spend less time with these people.). I am ready to spend for people, who I think is worth it. I am not a saint to help everyone and I don’t have infinite time and resources.(But it is simply a choice you choose and these are just some guidelines I follow, to keep me protected.)