Is my mom being a little too dramatic?
It sounds like she is stressed out. With everything there is to do this time of year, it takes a toll on people. And to top it off, she wasn't getting anywhere with you while shopping. I agree she shouldn't have yelled across the store or said Christmas is over. She is aggravated,, frustrated, tired, and too busy. It would be a great idea if she had some help to get things done. I don't know what your living situation is ao any of the chores you may have at home, but if you have extra time at home, try to do something that needs to be done. There is always dishes, vacuuming, mopping, laundry, dusting, taking out the garbage etc.. I think you get it. It would be one less thing your mom has to do, which would make her grateful she didn't have to do it and she probably will chill out. She won't feel so overwhelmed like she is now. You may think this won't workk, but trust me, I'm a mom too, I know it will. You can also do more than just one thing to help around the house without having to be asked or told to. I assure you, it will benefit you by not having to be afraid to say the wrong thing, and by not having to listen to all of the yelling. If you have brothers or sisters that can help, tell them what I am telling you and hopefully they will help also. If your mom is having trouble buying for you, why not make a list of some things you would like to have. It would be easier than going to the store with her and going through again, what you went through, not to mantion, you wouldn't be getting embarrased. Just to top it off, she is OVERWHELMED and stressed and it comes out of her as anger.
How can I get my mom to not get mad at me for every little thing?
When I was 12, I began to runaway from home because I could not handle my mother’s very highly critical nature. As an adult, I still notice myself being one who is highly critical of pretty much everything, which creates a barrier before gratefulness - inhibiting happiness.This has led me to believe that our parents’ actions carry down, and especially when these actions are on you directly. This seems obvious… so why do we remain hooked on our parents’ opinions of ourselves? I believe that one reaches an age when they can use their judgement to know whether it is healthy lessons being taught.My mother - much like yours I assume - simply became critical to avoid any mistakes. But this isn't healthy, because mistakes are okay. What this said to me was that it was time to become independent, and appreciate that she worries and cares for you from afar. Now, you might not be able to be independent at an early age financially and so on, so my advice to you is to find independence somehow otherwise, if not by leaving.What I mean is appreciate that your mother loves you and wants you to be perfect, but that it is not healthy whatsoever to be criticized all the time. She is insecure, believe it or not - as any adult can be.Maybe talk to her about this, but most parents don't accept their children’s criticisms when they are the ones used to giving them. Nevertheless, she needs to know somehow.Also, I should add that we did not speak for a number of years, but then she understood. It got considerably better then (our relationship), but of course, I miss not having ever spent enough time with my parents before their deaths. Those are all serious things to consider.Good luck
How can I stop crying over every little thing?
I'm a very sensitive person and I'm quick to get emotional during both positive and negative situations. I will sometimes cry when in a serious argument. Or when I don't cry, my throat gets the knotted feeling and my ears get hot and I will raise my voice which will then sound shaky. People usually stop the argument for the sake of my reactions because they soon feel bad like they were the ones that made me upset. It's usually the fact that I'm a part of an argument that makes me upset. I get overly excited over things as well and become annoyingly talkative according to my parents- sometimes it's so intense that I can't sit still. I cry over things so easily that sometimes it's embarrassing. One time, a documentary on the Holocaust was being shown in my history class and an elderly woman was telling her story of her survival and I was the only one crying. Of course people thought it was sad, but they were concerned why I was pouring down tears. Sometimes my episodes of crying leave me with a headache or an unmotivated mood. I then have this blank, hostile look on my face that is completely involuntary and makes people wary of me. I took a math test today and didn't think I did well. So when my mom picked me up, I was really down. She kept asking me what as wrong but I didn't want to talk about it. (continued...)
My mom gets mad at every little thing?
my mom gets mad at every little thing, she has anxiety and depression and takes pills for it, if you dont do something right away and when you say wait she will scream her head off and say ok wait when u ask me something and screams and slams plates and doors for like 30 minutes. when i say something, nothing bad, she gets mad and makes a little scene in front of people in public, i always help her everytime and i love her but she wasnt like this before, she went thorugh a lot but i dont see why she puts it on our family, it really hurts us when she causes fights for nothing out of nowere, shes always yelling and if, it seems like she doesnt care when she screams her head off and i tell her please top crying and everything and she continues on my dad over a little things, ex: he didnt make her a drink and wines saying nobody cares about me, then later a day or 2 acts normal again and says sorry but it cant last for a week or 2, if you ask her mommy can u make me a plate a pasta, ' NO F OFF LEAVE ME ALONE EAT SOMETHING ELSE eat cereals, ? i mean cereals for lunch, her serene-tin is very low and shes crazy, but i know she loves me she pays for my tutor and does stuff for the house, but its just these mood swings our incredible and its uncontrollable no matter if u cry shout to stop, nothing, she is so curious what other people do in their lives and talks about there problems.She then talks about my neibour saying shes nozy and she says 'FU she doesnt wanna look at me the B*** me too then i hate her, shes a lil baby and inamture and goes crazy and just insults and talks about it for 30 min and says she doesnt care about her but yet continues to talk like that. If i say mom serious who cares about that person talk about something else, and says ' F OFF leave me the F alone i can talk about wheter i want '' get out of here dont talk to me leave me alone'' shes always yelling for dumn reasons, can you help what is it just mood swings explain this please thanks
Why do I over think stuff even little things?
Okay so I'm always over thinking stuff like every little thing that I think is bad I over think it and think about for a whole day and even weeks Im also worrying about everthing like what if Ima die or get a diese or something like that and It starting to effect my daily life and school I'm always scared because of this and I'm failing school? The most things I over think about is about me dieing or getting cancer I always check my self for any signs of deises and I'm tired of this please help I just want to be like I used to be when I was 13 and now I'm 14 with this what do I I'm tired of this and I'm never happy because then It comes back I get sad What do I have?
Why do i worry and stress out so much over little things??
Part of it is obviously learned behavior. I heard this about worry: "Worry is like paying the interest on a loan you did not take out." No one would do this, right? So likewise, to worry about something that MIGHT happen is unnecessary. It take energy to do this. it takes away your attention from real things. Worry is the OPPOSITE of faith. You cannot express faith and worry about the same thing at the same time because worry cancels out any faith you show. You already know, then, that worry is unhealthy. Worry is different than concern. Worry is much more serious and stressful than concern. What about things we all SHOULD be concerned about? Once you have taken care of them, that should be the end of it. let's say you worry that all the doors are locked for the night. Once you have gone around and locked the, that should be the end of your concern for that day, right? if it isn't the end and you go on worrying, it is unhealthy. Your own decision and attitude should direct you in this. remember your mind should be in control. it is there inside your head, on top, out front, where your five senses can operate to give it information you need to make decisions, choices and be IN CONTROL. If your mind is working in ways that you do not direct it, take control and make it obey you. YOU are the master of your own destiny and life. YOUR CHOICES form and results in what you will some day look back on as your life. YOU are responsible. I hope SOMETHING I wrote here will help you, encourage you and can be of real USE to you. Good luck.
Why do I always worry about things?
A few months back I was waiting at a red light, beneath a flyover.I saw a group of people sitting in the shade.Looking at the sight, I could easily guess that those people could barely afford food of two times.Temperatures were soaring and the heat was almost unbearable because of the extreme pollution.All I could see was sadness and frustration on their faces.But there was still some amazing thing about that sight!A few month old baby was laughing and cheerfully playing in his mothers lap without any worries.The smile on his face and glow in his eyes was not less than that of a prosperous human being.I felt a rush of sadness and happiness looking at the same time looking at that kid.Why was that baby (or other small children) unaffected by the miseries of this life?Because they are unaware.They don't keep thinking about their miseries.They don't know that it's bad to be poor.They don't evaluate themselves.They don't know that high temperature may affect their body.They don't know that torn clothes are a sign of misery.They don't worry about other people watching them.They don't think that they may not get sufficient food in near future.Why do adults or even grown up kids worry?Awareness, realization, comparison, evaluation and the mother of all “over thinking”.A few tips to lead a worry free life-Think about sleep when your sleep, appreciate rest, feel nothingness, observe your muscles calming down.Think about food when you eat, look at the plate, focus on chewing well, enjoy eradication of hunger.Think about bathing when you bathe, appreciate your body being cleaned, focus on the cold water energizing your dull body, feel the freshness.Listen to music when you drive, focus on reaching destination.Think only about the task in hand when you work, don't think about promotion, bonus, warning, probation, competition.Fill empty gaps in your life by reading, writing, playing games, exercising, cooking or anything relevant, so that thinking is not initiated.Don't discuss your problems with negative or pessimistic people as they will always discourage you increasing worries.Don't assume failures, don't expect success.Don't do comparative analysis of your achievements with every other person.Practice spirituality as a source of motivation, and hope and strengthen your belief in the ultimate fate.Kids are the best teachers in life, we all can learn the true meaning of life from them!
Why do I feel worried sometimes even though there is nothing to worry about?
I think everyone in the world worries, whether we’ve anxiety or not, because we all know there’s such thing as perfection. That means yes there’s always something to fix or it’s not complete. This causes us to instinctively fix it and make it perfect ourselves even though sometimes it’s not possible to completely fix it, like a germaphobe constantly washing themselves even though the shower water itself has germs in it. However, just because there’s a problem or something that’s not perfect doesn’t mean we’ve to worry about it. Some problems you do have to worry about and fix but we can’t do that all of the time everytime, like I said there’s no such thing as perfect. So even if we don’t perceive a problem at the moment and everything appears fine, we know it’s not logically but you’ve to accept at some point that we shouldn’t fixate on it or constantly think about it. If you’ve anxiety then seek professional help and do breathing exercises. If you don’t have anxiety but the little stresses continue to pile or you’ve that feeling in your head and you don’t know why. Then it’s a problem that doesn’t go away but it can be managed or put to focus on something else. I think we worry about literally everything in the world and the best we can do is prioritize our lives and not worry about saving the world.They found in a study on depression that it affects your cognition due to brooding about the same sad things over and over. So if your worrying gets out of control you will lose focus and have shorter memory. Just another reason to stop that sad train thought and get on a productive one.
Why do people make such a huge deal over little things?
There are a lot of reasons, but one of the first could be that they think it’s a big deal. We all don’t think the same, so what you might find minuscule, someone else might find horrendous. They are coming from a different backgrounds, and sometimes, we all need to get out of our own head-space and into someone else’s, if only to better understand and get along.That being said, that doesn’t mean that there isn’t a range of appropriate actions when in a given situation. If I forgot to take out the trash, and you decide the only way that that should be handled is to crack me over the head with a baseball bat, clearly there is more going on than a “disconnect between two people”. But that does come from a different background. Not necessarily one where its ok to beat people up with baseball bats, but one where the use of violence can get you what you want. How we grow up weighs heavily on how we turn out and how we react to certain stimuli. If a person stepped on your foot in a restaurant, and you grew up in a safe, caring environment, you would be inclined to take it as a “small deal”, forgive that person and move on. But growing up in a place where anyone thinking your weak means you might not make it home, you take that person stepping on your foot as a personal offence (a “big deal”), because that style of living worked in the past.I think that most of the people you run into would most likely be the first thing. Just someone who sees the issue in a different light, and you just changing your perspective can help to solve this issue. But if its the second one, and you’re dealing with someone who grew up dealing with issues by overreacting, I think it’s best to remember that that person is doing what worked for them in the past, and they aren’t just “evil” or “douchebags”. And while do think that can taught out of you, If you run into that kind of a person, and you find yourself worried about how they will react, distancing yourself might be the best option.
Why do I worry about my parents dying when they are alive?
I actually kind of do this too.I’m assuming you don’t have any known anxiety disorders, or else you would have mentioned it. But based on this question, you’re probably on the anxiety spectrum.If your worries are impeding on your day to day life (i.e. you can’t focus, you can’t concentrate, you find yourself feeling ‘depressed’ because of your thoughts, etc) or if you think it would be helpful to talk these worries out, then you should definitely talk to a trusted adult (this may be a teacher, school counselor, friend’s parent, whatever) or ask your parents to find you a therapist if you’re in a financial situation where you can do so.Therapists are really helpful in general; you don’t have to have a ‘disorder’ or anything to talk to one. I believe all human beings would benefit from having a therapist.But I think being afraid of your parents dying isn’t a sign of some deep-seated psychological issue. You’re probably more introspective and insightful than some people, causing you to think more about the things that could potentially happen. That’s okay. It’s a normal fear.In my opinion, there’s no way to really ‘overcome’ this fear. Your parents will die someday, but that’s okay. Death is normal. Your parents have lived long, full lives. You’ll grieve because you love them, but it will be okay. Everyone experiences loss. It’s a fundamentally human feeling. When the time comes, you will be able to get through it. Even if you fight with your parents now, make sure to tell them that you love them. Talk to them, find out about their life, how they grew up, what their childhood was like. Try to connect with them. Kids seem to forget that their parents are people too, people with lives and fears and motivations and hopes. Talking to them, getting to know them, and telling them you love them will help with the feelings of regret.