How can I stop being insecure in my relationship?
You need to be stronger in yourself. You need to lose the fear that is behind your insecurity. You are a better partner in a relationship if you are strong and able to stand on your own two feet. If you are insecure and clingy, this will start to affect your relationship and she will feel like she is propping you up and that your relationship is hard work. You need to love her without being in fear of losing her. A man has to be able to stand on his own two feet in this world and not be afraid. I promise you that the human heart can in time heal massive losses and pains, I know, I have done it, so do not fear.
Why am I so insecure all of a sudden?
I don't know what's wrong with me! I've been with my partner 2 years now and I really do love him to bits we had a really hard year last year after having a miscarriage and two ectopics. I had to get my right tube removed and due to the other one which was twins my left was so badly damaged they thought I wouldn't be able to conceive naturally. This put a lot of strain and heartache on to the relationship but in November I got the all clear and things started looking up. Iv felt so low lately and I feel angry all the time. I keep shouting at him and arguing with him but then bursting into tears. I feel fat and ugly and very insecure about myself. Iv always been the loud joker type of person with a really hard exterior but all of a sudden I'm this big bubbling baby. I'm on a diet at the moment and I'm forcing myself to stick to it because I know that the only person that can sort my weight out is me. But I'm scared if I keep going with my moods and my emoticons I'm going to loose him. He's my best friend and my world and I'd be lost without him but I can't even explain what's going on in my head because I don't understand it myself? I think im actually going to have some sort of breakdown
Why is my boyfriend so insecure all of a sudden?
@maddie- a few reasons he is probably fishing for compliments and yes men do like to receive compliments more than you think but typically from women they find attractive it makes it way better. Boost the ego of a guy and our ego's tend to be large anyways. He probably thinks your to good for him because he either lacks in experience lacks in experience with other girls who are as equal looking or say perhaps more attractive than you He has trust issues Maybe he has never been accepted maybe he has had very little success in his life or success in what he has wanted and thus failure to ever accomplish or reach his goals have left him with a detest for himself and he is insecure for failing at whatever it is. Thus he needs constant reassurance from you to prop up his ego and make him feel good. or maybe its a combo of all of those.
Is he deflecting or am I really being controlling and insecure?
When my bf and I first start dating I found out that he was also seeing the same girl that my best friend was sleeping with. I told him I was uncomfortable with situation and that if he was going to continue to see her then I couldn't continue to see him. He assured me that he was done with her. Yet, she still calls him. He still calls her and they still hang out at the same places. He is never on time. He always leaving me waiting hours for him to show up and hours for him to return a call sometimes. Whenever I say something about it he claims that I can be controlling sometimes and I just need to be cool. When he left me at 6 a.m. this morning I saw him ride pass me in his car with his phone to his ear. I text him and said, "I saw you. You just couldn't wait to get on the phone". I really was just joking with him because he IS always on the phone. He told me that it seems like I have an insecurity issue and I really need to stop it and just be cool. I told him I was just messing with him but my bad, I'll stop. He lives only 5 blocks from me and has never invited me over to his place. I know he doesn't live with anyone because he spends several nights with me and I talk to him all the time while he's at home. My friends say he's on b.s. and I shouldn't take him seriously. Is he just deflecting or am I really being controlling and insecure?
How can I avoid feeling insecure and jealous when I see my boyfriend talking to other girls?
If your boyfriend has ever shown you signs that he is open to cheating on you or otherwise deliberately upsetting you by his behaviour with other girls, why are you still with him?If you are uncertain about your boyfriend, even though he has never given you cause to suspect him, then you have a conversation, sharing your lack of confidence and asking for his understanding. He may give you reassurances, which you accept with an open heart, because you are an adult.If you know already that your boyfriend would not stray or deliberately hurt you, then it is your problem and not his (except in the sense that you make the relationship unpleasant). Jealously is a giant flashing alert that all is not well with your self-esteem, and that it’s time to deal with it, preferably with a professional counsellor or therapist.
I’ve become really insecure and possessive when my girlfriend talks to other men or goes out to meet them. I trust her and know she won’t betray me. The problem is with me. How do I stop being insecure and possessive with my girlfriend?
Hi Rohan! Firstly I appreciate the honesty with which you've accepted the weakness in your behaviour. (Few guys do that). Your problem is genuine it happens with a lot of people (trust me even girls are very possessive about their girlfriends). The good thing is you want to rectify.Now, coming to the solution. The only way you can overcome this problem is to let go of this sick possessive idea from your mind. And you can do it if you try. At first, look at the bigger picture. You trust her and you know she's not going to betray you. Don't bother yourself if she talks to other guys as long as she's being loyal to you.Secondly, look for reality. Do you really think its possible for her not to make friends with any guys around. In today's date its just not possible. Even you must be having female friends, how do you expect her not making friends with any guys?Thirdly, try to control your mind. The moment you start feeling insecure tell yourself its a mistaken idea. Try to relax yourself and take it casually. Each time try to get a little better. Confess to her that you are letting go of your fault slowly. Tell her again and again that you trust her and are trying your best. Ask her to appreciate you in this. It will really help.And lastly, value her. You already told you guys had had good fight over this issue and still you're together. It means she must have endured various blames knowing the fault is entirely yours. I personally say this, its hard to find such level- headed girls these days. If you guys have good tuning, do not waste this relation. I hope you don't want to lose her just for a sick idea.There is a fine line between protective and insecure. Try not to cross it. If you need any futher help feel free to talk.Good luck. :)
My insecurity/jealousy is rubbing off on my boyfriend? please help :( ?
I kinda feel like I've been in a similar situation to you guys. My girlfriend once kinda chewed me out for giving this girl a ride home from work pretty much every day. She said that was a 'boyfriend thing to do' I said that I really didn't feel that way, but I could understand how she could see it that way, and said that I would tell her I had to stop doing that. The girl from work understood, and kinda felt bad, but agreed to get a ride with another coworker. After that, though, i felt like my girlfriend had drawn very clear boundaries on what was and was not acceptable in our relationship. I got a bit peeved with her several weeks later when I learned that she had regularly been going out to lunch with 2 guys from work. She argued that it was a matter of convenience, so they could discuss work things as they ate, but I said it was unfair to make that distinction when she wouldn't hear it from me. I think what it comes down to is that it's a good thing to be open if you feel jealous, but you can't let that jealousy hurt your trust. Your partner is going to encounter a lot of people out there, but they also encountered a lot of people and still eound up with you, so there's clearly something that draws them to you that nobody else had.