How do I get my wife to stop spending money?
I've been married to my wife for 4 years and we have a 2-year-old daughter. My wife always liked 'nicer' things, but after our daughter was born she came obsessed. She only buys our daughter's clothes from GAP baby, The children's place, Gymboree, etc. Obviously it's very expensive.. I was with her last week and she bought our daughter a swim suit that cost close to $70. I tried explaining to her that by the time it's summer our daughter won't be able fit in it, but she just walked away and I didn't go after her because I didn't want to start an argument. Yesterday I went to Wal-Mart to get some diapers and I seen a really nice outfit that I knew my daughter would like and it was cheap, so I bought for her. Well when my wife seen it she liked it, but when I told her it came from Wal-Mart she was disgusted with me. My wife goes shopping almost every other day. She usually spends around 3,500 - 4,000 a month. That seems absolutely absurd to me, but then again I've never been the one to really care about what I'm wearing.. as long as it fits and it's not ripped, stained, etc. then it's fine. But I'm also not a women either, so I guess it's probably extremely tempting for a women to buy things (at least that's what I heard). I'm getting extremely frustrated with all the bills. She pays for some of it with her own money, but I'm usually stuck with the rest. My parents have been in debt for years because my mom was a shopaholic and I don't want to end up like them. I've tried talking to my wife about this, but she just gets pissed and doesn't talk to me for days. Today I lost it and told her to come into my daughters room, where I showed her all the clothes (with price tags still on them) piled everywhere. And I asked her if she really thinks our daughter needs more stuff and she said "You can never have too much stuff" and now she won't talk to me. How do I convince her to at least take a break from shopping, so we can catch up on the bills?
My wife takes money out of my wallet without telling me. What should I do?
A friend of mine had narrated an incident of his uncle and aunt.His aunt used to take money from his uncle’s wallet whenever he used to go to take bath. His uncle had a practice and habit to prepare his wallet for the day after calculating expenses that he might incur in travelling to his workplace and for his food expenditures there. Almost everyday he noticed the shortage of cash in his wallet. He then found out that it is his wife who has been taking this money from his wallet.Before screaming at the culprit, he just made an effort to learn the reason for which she is taking money. He learnt that she was buying stationery for her crafts work which she used to work on at her free time.Now comes the best part. Obeying her pass time habit, his uncle started calculating his expense along with the money his wife might take and keep extra amount for her in the wallet. After couple of months, his wife started earning with her crafts work which she had been doing. After that, she stopped taking money.His uncle has explained this incident to my friend and said that he understood the dependant vulnerable behaviour of his wife and he was empathetic towards it. He had said that he even felt that there was a disconnect between him and his wife that even after years of their togetherness, his wife didn’t have that comfort to ask him money for her expenses.Bottom line : If you know that your wife is really in need of money and if that is something which is for her recreation, enjoyment or well-being, allow her to take those money from your wallet. These kind of sweet secrets will bloom the bonding between you.
My wife wants to quit her job, but I'm afraid of not having any emergency money.?
I don't know what to do. Here's the situation, my wife has worked at her job for 3 years at a call center. She hates it, constantly getting cussed at & yelled at. It's gotten to a breaking point for her lately, she's very depressed & we're fighting a lot. I want her to be able to quit, but I'm afraid if she does she won't be able to find another job, or at least not one making as much. Let me also tell you that I make just enough to cover our bills, so if it was just me we would be basically living paycheck to paycheck. I hate the thought of having nothing to fall back on, but I want her to be happy again. Any suggestions?
How much pocket money should a husband give to his wife?
women are good at saving money......the whole pay check would do..... :P well ..whatever they both decide on
Why would a man get a vasectomy done in secret by not telling his wife about it?
Because he doesn't want anymore kids and he apparently he may not trust his wife enough to take care of business
Wife spends all money while deployed!?
i am currently deployed right now and my wife is just spending cash like crazy! back in november, i had an extra $1700 come in and i told her to pay off a debt in full (a $400 debt) and she didnt do it. she was supposed to pay off her speeding tickets worth $400 and she didnt do it. she spent all the cash on the kids and herself and gave me a big sob story over the phone how sorry she was. this month, i got an extra $1000 and it disappeared in 3 days? she decided to go overboard with xmas shopping and emptied my bank account. she goes to starbucks everyday and eats out regularly with the kids because she doesnt want to cook. its racking up so bad that one time, i almost couldnt pay my car payment due to her spending. i tried to talk to her about it but she gets upset with me everytime. now, my debt is on the verge of collections because she wont make a payment for me on it and didnt pay it in full for me when we had the money. im so stressed and i barely sleep at night over the past 3 months. to top things off, she racked up a $300 phone bill and we have no means to pay it off. i told her i am shutting down all mobile phone lines and getting a house phone and she went into a rage over it because she cant live without her mobile phone. we cannot afford day care so she stays home with the kids. she also planned a trip to disney land with my father and wants to use our tax returns to do it. i want to pull out because i need the money to get out of debt and survive the year. i dont know what to do and i am so burned out from all this stress.
When a wife gives money to her husband, what is it called?
I literally just wrote a check for 900USD bcause hubby wanted it. I had no choice.Not writing that check would have resulted in several consequences, not the least of which would mean I would have stop messing around on Quora all day.I also would have had to get dressed, drive to the bank, put money in and then drive home.I would then have to sit around for a few hours paying my own bills.Instead based on the household budget and our individual incomes, I provide my share to him, he takes care of it all from there. Leaving me so much more time to hang out in my robe, with my coffee, and Quora.I know what bills we have and review our budget and how we spend or save. But dear hubby enjoys doing it. We are a team. We share or funds but giving him my share and letting him deal with it is sure nice. It's called being partners.Oh, gotta go. Time for another cup of coffee!
Why do wives get half your money when they divorce you?
“Why do men have to give up half their money and possessions in divorce settlements?Perhaps in the “old days” when women couldn’t really do anything without men, provisions needed to be made for them in the event of a divorce (this is speculation). But now, since women can easily work and care for themselves, why are the laws so intensely punishing to men? It seems unnecessary.”I think your argument holds water concerning alimony. I think that there may often need to be some financial support for a few years to help a woman get her feet under her, if she has not been working for a paycheck for a number of years. But if she has been salaried all along, she should live on her salary into the future.But “possessions” is a different issue.Let us assume a couple has been married for 10 or 20 years, the husband being the only one with an income. Everything the family owns was purchased with that one paycheck.Did the wife not contribute? Did she not make it possible for her husband to do the work he did? If she were totally worthless and without value, why are they just now getting a divorce?The dawning recognition is that a life a family built together is a common life. One economic entente, with varying functions within that one thing. It is not that the husband owns everything (including perhaps his wife), but that the family owns everything, and the husband in wife in partnership.Thus, the things (including money savings) accumulated by the family belong to the family, not to the husband. Should the marriage end, they are to be divided between the two. The man does not give up half his money, he keeps his half of the family money, and she keeps HER half of the family money.But for alimony, you have a much better case.
Will I have access to my husbands money while he's in boot camp for the Marines?
The Recruiter is correct. The Marines do it differently in that they are required to set up a new account at a credit union which is at the location they cannot have it go into an account already set up. The pay is also held until a certain week. Just like their Boot is 13 weeks and they get 10 days of leave afterwards before going to training. All other branches it is shorter and they go directly to training when done. What he will have to do is request an advance on pay to be sent to your own individual or a joint account so you will then have access to it. You will also not be able to get an ID card until he is finished. The Marine spouse you spoke to is incorrect as now he did not go through MCRD when they were married most likely.