How do I defend myself against a woman after she hits me?
After reading all those contributions, i just felt i needed to make this contribution: A woman can use physical violence, hit and hurt just as well as a man. That women are just weak defenseless creatures is BS enforced by thousand years of propaganda. Women just mobilize their strength differently and can use different tools. In terms of gender discrimination, the law has to recognize that women can be equal offenders when it comes to violence. Especially if there is alcohol involved. If a woman becomes physical, for me as a man i just want to walk away and avoid this confrontation. But i learned you sometimes can't. Sometimes you literally have your back against the wall. She does not stop and it takes all your strength as a man to overpower the situation where it can become really dangerous for both parties since a woman literally has no self control in these matters. I experienced a situation in a relationship with extreme violence once in my life. Since then i have learned in all my relationships the following that I communicate to a partner in the beginning when it comes to arguing and fighting: I will never hit you and i will defend you to the best of my abilities and even die for you to keep you safe. We might have serious fights and shout at one another. But as soon as the brain stops and you raise your hand against me, you do it at your own risk and it's over. If the time comes that you want to break up with me, do so. You can walk away whenever you want. The same goes for me. But don't ever raise your hand against me, nothing is worse when the brain stops and fists start talking. Violence is futile in this context and has no meaning.Women are interested to talk about everything in a relationship and strangely enough they understand the logic behind this when the rules are clear. Since then I never had a problem.
MY DAD IS CRAZY. PLEASE HELP ME!!! IM DESPERATE.?
im 17. and for the past 12 years i have experienced constand abuse from my dad and so have my sister and mother. he drinks EVERY single night and starts fights for small reasons. for example, he doesnt like my grandma from my moms side. one time she gave us leftover YOGURT. when my dad found out it was her, he destroyed the bowl full of yogurt and yelled so LOUD at all of us for being "disobedient bitches for talking to my mother's sick side of the family." we're not allowed to have jobs. when i turned 16 i applied for a job and when i told him (we were in the car) he kept on slamming his fists against the car, and screaming at the top of his lungs. we're not allowed to drive, not just till we're 18 but EVER. he didnt let my mom get her liscence till she was 35. he didn't allow her to have a job at first, and blamed her for our poor money problems. my mom isnt allowed to have friends, and were not allowed to date. dinner has to be ready for him when he's home or he will fight with us. believe when i say he's the most terrifying human being i know. he's called me fat and ugly and i am now in recovery for bulimia. he makes fun of my bestfriend who died two years ago and reminds me how "insane" i am every other night (ive been hospitalized twice for depression). his mother committed suicide because of him. were not allowed to visit family members because he doesnt like them. he once hit my hamster (who i love more than anything) and threatened to kill her . why? because i didn't ask him how his dinner was. he will not listen to anyone, theres no use in talking to an insane drunk. my sister has called the cops in him because he threatened to buy a gun, and we were all worried. my mom begged the police to arrest him but they didnt because we didnt have "proof." my friends have tried getting help as they are witnesses, but my father is a professional liar and therefore, nothing ever happens to him. he's a monster, hes capable of anything and everything. this isnt even 2% of what ive gone through. im terrified, i cant eat or sleep, and im angry. help me.
My mother's boyfriend hit on me and I don't know if I should tell my mom.?
My mother is dating and living with a man named, let's say Dave. Well, Dave has told me on numerous occations that he is not a one woman man, though he has yet to cheat on my mother, and last week he admitted to me that he's attracted to me and would like to have sex with me. I am married, which he knows, but that did not stop him from coming on to me. Well two days ago he asked me for my underwear so he can "get just one taste". I am appalled and discusted. I told my husband and we can not decide what to do about this. They both are supposed to come over for Christmas in three days. I don't really want him in our home and neither does my husband but he would let him if that's what I wanted. Should I tell my mother? Or should we just tell Dave that after Christmas he is never to come by or speak to me again? I need help. My mom has been divorced twice, is very dependant on men, is about to quit her job because Dave makes enough money to pay rent. She probably will not be abl
How can I tell my sister that her boyfriend is not welcome in our home?
A few weeks ago my sister brought home her new boyfriend for Thanksgiving. For some reason the guy have me a creepy feeling. When I found out she planned to bring him back for Christmas I decided to go online and see if I could find any info about him. Well, I entered his name into http://background-records.net/ and it turns out that he is a criminal! He has been convicted of sexual assault and felony drug possession. If my dad finds out he will be very angry. I don't know if my sister knows about this guys past but I do not want him in our home. What is the best way to get her to leave her boyfriend behind when she comes home this weekend? I would appreciate any advice because I don't know how to handle the situation. Thanks.
How to deal with a bitchy mother in law who you live with?
my soon to be husband our two kids and i live with his mother his stepfather and his 15 yr old sister. ive never had a problem with any of them except for his mom. She is a complete *****! i always pick up after myself and clean her house but because i don't have a job i guess she hates me. she always sits out in the living room and talks crap about me in anyway she can and when i defend myself she just gets an attitude and basically looks at me like im dumb. for example one day my fiance was going outside to smoke and he offered to take our older son and when he was going out there she said very loudly its not like she works or does anything she can take care of her kids so i went to say something she just did the norm looked at me dumb and told me to go take care of my son she does this to me everyday but never where he can actually hear, im to the point if she says one last thing im going to go off on the evil ***** and walk out, i just dont want to seem like im walking out on him. we are moving in a couple months so what do i do stick it out or tell her to f off and leave?
I shot and killed my brother when I was 7, is it my fault?
It was your choice to do this & you wil be forever paying! Take responsibility for your actions b/c you will never rest until...also you will try all your life to justify all your wrongs this way..it doesn't work! You must morn & own up to your actions & in ur heart of heart u or any one who has 1/2 a brain knows this.That's whats wrong w/this effing Country everyone wants to blame another. Fill your own shoes & clean up your own mess. I don't care how old u wre but if u think u can weigh this on anothers back,you will never change. It is you & your soul & the Spirit knows all,so much you need to learn & you won't w/this attitude. Deal w/this & go on you can't reverse this but u can fix whats broken. Stop blaming others it was your choice & action. Now you can kill another innocent one b/c u learned how to blame? I hear this shitt way to much to candy coat & i am sick of the victims having no voice only the ppl who knowingly commit crimes gets all the help & attention,this is why i answer & say as i do. Sorry for the whole mess it is for your family,but you can't heal this way. Best to you & esp yours..(mom/bf/others)
How to scare guys my sister brings home...?
my sister has been seeing some lame guys lately. as her brother, i want to protect her and make sure she doesnt get her heart broken. i been telling the guys shes been seeing "if you break her heart, ill kick your ***!". one time my older brother said "you have 10 minutes to get out of my house." i thought that was pretty cool. he didnt even know the guy. anyways anybody know anything i could say to tell the guys my sister is seeing to scare them and to make sure they dont do anything stupid to my sister???