Is it bad to cheat on my girlfriend? Why?
Well, there is the "you are breaking your word" thingThe risk of STIs from contact with othersThe amount of angry your girlfriend will be - and this isn't just going to be a couple of hours, this is serious grudge material and she will do her best to punish you over time. You will get caught.The amount of jealousy you will endure - and if she decides to make you jealous you might have a really bad time. really bad.Odds are good she'll tell at least some of her girlfriends you are cheating on her, so you might take a social and / or reputational hit.The long-shot odds that she will be so angry that while you are sleeping she will cut off your penis and feed it to a duck (as they do in Thailand) or throw it in a corn field (America)You could just be upfront about it - "hey, I want to have an open relationship, is that something we could work out?" [google "polyamory" and "ethical non-monogamy" and "swinging"] And if she says "no" you politely end your relationship with her and be upfront with any future women you date. That's what grown-ups do.Basically what you are doing by cheating is decreasing the potential for intimacy in your current relationship in return for getting sex with others, you are also demonstrating in the most profound way that you don't give a shit about what your girlfriend wants. It's a strategy, it will work to a certain extent, I don't think it's an approach that will give you the best quality of life.
Is my girlfriend cheating on me?
You obviously had a feeling she was lying or else you wouldn't of snooped. Exhibiting the signs of a stalker? No he is exhibiting the signs of some one who could detect signs of lying conscious or subconsciously and when he investigated this feeling he found it to be true. She might not be physically cheating, but there's a very high chance she's emotionally cheating. I don't know about you but to me cheating is cheating. Why else would she lie? When my GF asks about who I'm talking to I don't hide any one. I let her get on my computer and talk to them if she wants, my friends are funny so she has a good time. No that counter argument strategy (controlling/stalker/ect) is the hallmark of a secretive and dishonest person. The truth is we can often just feel when some one is lying. As it was with the last girl I was with. I just got the feeling she was being dishonest, was really nervous about me seeing her FB ect. One day I came down from my bedroom and she left her FB up, guess what I see in an instant message window? When I confronted her about it she apologized and cried blah blah blah, yet she remained secretive and when I asked her to stop she said I was being controlling? Being controlling? REALLY? You're emotionally cheating and continue to use the thing you were doing it with, continue to be secretive, yet I'm the wrong one? lol Yet my girlfriend before that I never questioned anything she did. She never tried to hide anything from me or gave me a reason to distrust her, in her actions or body language. She'd go hang out with her ex and their shared friends all the time with or without me. Never once did I get the feeling she was cheating or lying to me. She's already lying, if she's not cheating now chances are she will be. She's a dishonest person. I'd say good bye.
My girlfriend let me cheat on her?
So 3 months ago a friend of mine asked me to come over, so I asked my gf if she wouldn't mind and told her that my friend wants to have sex with me so her response was "go ahead, it's just sex" so I went over the friends house... true enough I ended up getting buzzed and slept with her. A few weeks ago she said she just doesn't feel a spark anymore! We went out for almost 2 years! But I was wondering if you think her letting me sleep was a sign she didn't want to be together? But after that she asked me to come stay over and she wanted me to f*ck her... and then we dated again for like 3 days but she said there is no spark at a and she doesn't want to be friends either... I don't get why she wanted me over if she wanted me completely out of her life.
If your girlfriend cheated on you should you let her go or stay?
I and my ex where dating for 5 years. Our families knew about each other. We were even discussing about getting married. The month we were suppose to get engaged, his grandmother expired, so according to the traditions, we had to push the whole engagement for a year. I took it as a blessing because we were still not financially settled. As he was very close to his grandmother, it was a bigger shock for him. Understanding towards how difficult it was for him, I gave him his space.Few weeks passed by, he got back to his own self. One night, he came home to see me. The moment he saw me, he ran towards me, and gave a tight hug. I was little surprised and I asked him, what happened. He said, Some girl in his office, is hitting on him, and he is not sure what to do. I asked him, what does he want? He said he knows for sure about his feelings towards me, and he has mentioned it to that girl,but she has not back out. He doesnt want her, but he is feeling very guilty. So I told him to tell that girl to back off or I will come to do it for him. He said he will take care of it. Next day, Before going back home from work, He came at my place,just to tell me, I have nothing to worry. And i believed him. Few months went by, one evening, I was in a coffee shop near his house, to meet a very dear friend's friend. He asked me,if i visit the place often, I said ya one of my friend stays ahead. And he said, yes i know him, he just saw him with his girlfriend. I was so stunned. In the night, when I confronted him, he made a excuse saying, i will believe everyone other than him.That created a big argument, which led to lot of other things. We eventually called off, because I just couldnt look at him, the way I use too. I am glad, i found out when i did. Why would you want someone to take advantage of your trust? No one should take your right of knowing the truth. When you give someone space, that doesn't give them any right to cheat on you. It's not fair to you.
How can I tell if my girlfriend is cheating on me?
All of a sudden she is constantly surrounded by boys all the time ( this the sign she is hunting or she likes attention ).She gets boys over to her place without telling you, or justifying that the other guy is just a friend when you confront her. ( Clear sign she doesn’t respect you, she doesn’t know boundaries and she is a “tharki” ).Starts meeting random guys over the internet and chats with them. When you say that you do not trust other guy’s intention, she will ignore you and try to convince you otherwise.She becomes blind to all the small things you do for her.All things that she loved doing with you, becomes mundane according to her.Starts comparing your relationship with others ( This should be rule number 1 for successful relationship: stop comparing folks! Your relationship is beautiful in it’s own right and in no way others words should influence you ).Thinks she is too beautiful and that she will have enough folks lined up for her ( True, she might be very beautiful in literal sense. But beauty lies within and in your thinking. Guys will only like her for her looks and what she has to offer physically. She needs to understand it ).Sounds duplicitous in the way she talks ( She may say she values something, hates meaningless flings and casual sex, but her actions and rants during fights say some other story ).If she had a past relationship and you know of it, you will see how she has changed till now with you. This will surely give you an idea of how fast she can be moulded and get influenced.She hangs on to ( and remembers only ) the negatives that you say about your relationship ( Trust me, if you break up or she cheats, she will quote you telling all this about relationship and will turn the blame on you ). Everyone has negatives in their relationship and pointing it out is good to overcome the flaws consciously, but beware! your partner will use it against you every time.P.S: Jotted down these things from my personal experience… Got cheated on by a wh*re of person. The signs were all there but I was naive and failed to address it. If it helps you fix your relationship early or save yourself an sh*t load of pain and humiliation, well and good. If not, I really wish she doesn’t cheat on you. According to me, cheating is the worst feeling of pain you will suffer in a relationship.
Should I let my girlfriend go to a rave?
I understand your scared that she might cheat on you again, but wasn't that when she was drunk? Like everyone does messed up things when they're drunk. She told you she wasn't gonna drink, so why not trust her? and it's not really a good thing when her parents think that your controlling her. She hasn't gone out much by your description so just let her. I'm sure if anything did happen she would tell you because in march after that scene she told you that night only because she cared. If she was to cheat on you on purpose she wouldn't have told you.
Is it OK to slap your girlfriend if she cheats on you?
I have never put my hands on a female (except for elementary school) and I have never had any urges to do it. I've always thought a man wasn't a real man if he hit a woman. But last week I discovered my girlfriend was writing her ex-boyfriend in prison saying she loved him and was sending him pictures of herself clad in thongs and greased up in baby oil. Well I yelled alot and threw a lot of stuff. We had sex and then I told her it was over and I wouldnt talk to her or see her again. So she begged me back and in the end I guess we worked things out. But the guy she was writing in prison treated her like **** and punched and hit her. I am the total opposite. But I got to thinking, maybe I should have slapped her a few times since that is what her ex-boyfriend did, and it would have taught her a lesson. Any thoughts?
What should I do if my girlfriend cheated on me when she was drunk?
When someone gets drunk, gets behind the wheel of a car and kills an innocent, they are totally responsible for that death. They knew they were drunk, and they knew they were driving a lethal weapon - in an impaired state.Your girlfriend went out, got herself good and “impaired”, then put herself in a situation where she would get nailed. Now she (or you) wants it to be ok - because she was drunk!So... pretty soon, if she wants to bang the Dallas Cowboys, she will be forgiven as long as she gets drunk first./rolls eyes. Whatever bro… It’s your life. She’s just a “girlfriend”, no vows or rings going on here, I assume. But this kind of crap is an excellent indication of what kind of wife she might be.Keep it in mind.
Should I be worried that my girlfriend will cheat on me?
I have two-timed every single girlfriend I have ever had in some important way, usually it was just that sort of relationship. If you had told me back then that i would ever be monogamous, I would have laughed in your face: I’m poly-amorous - why would I give this up?And now I have been married for almost 20 years.Most of that time I have barely looked at another woman - I just wasn’t interested in that way.So here is the thing - you cannot make someone stay “faithful” or ever be totally sure that they will always remain that way. The best you can do is stay honest and hope they are honest with you. By revealing her past indiscretions she is showing you she would like to be honest with you. She is serious.This is possibly the hardest thing but if you want to be sure about her fidelity then you need to be honest right back and you need to reinforce her desire to remain honest with you.You can tell her that you are scared she will cheat on you … listen to what she says and be prepared to trust her. You can ask her to let you know of she is wanting to fool around at any stage because you are better off knowing than getting hurt later on. It does not mean you have to break up though - just that you have something to resolve.When you can get to that level of honesty between you, you will find that you do not need to be exclusive to show that you are faithful: those no longer mean the same thing.What you don’t need to do is worry about it.