Would You Be Angry With Me If You Were My Mom

My mom and dad are angry at me, what can I do?

We need more details. What kind of people are they,and do you believe they love you and why, or if not, then why do you believe that. Do they get angry at you often, or at others very often? Are  they under a lot of stress, and is that and an anger response to life's  challenges pretty normal for them, or do they handle life's challenges  with aplomb (keeping cool and just dealing with it, not even letting it  affect their good mood. Also, what you did that they responded in anger  rather than say, a kiss or "that's ok, or I don't mind. Also, what do they do to punish you, and what did they do this time,and if you did something they believe is wrong, did they make the rules clear so you knew what the consequences would be? Do you know why they made the rule? And  last but not least, are you able to have discussions with them about  this or anything else concerning negative consequences? There's  a lot going on in most instances of anger. If the situation is serious -  especially if it involves their striking you in anger, but also simply  striking you as so called "punishment" - I would take matters into my own  hands and go to some adult whom you know, without a doubt, that they  will not do anything without your permission. Discuss options. Maybe  moving out of home. Or if you are too young, then into a friend's home -  whom you can trust, of course. If there are counselors you can trust,  use them. If the country or province or state in which you live has laws  against parental abuse, go to the top administrator, and/or get someone  to speak for you to that person. Do not be afraid to act. In a serious  situation - and many people make excuses for someone's abusive behavior -  you must stand up for yourself, no matter what is the fallout, so long  as you serve your highest well being. It might help to love yourself, as  you might love an infant. See then what options you might take. If you  cannot love yourself, then the situation is magnitudes worse, as you  will have lost judgment in addition to being abused. Physical abuse is very serious, so here is one more thing you can do if you have been struck by either parent: If you are enrolled in a health plan, see a doctor and do not tell your parents- neither of them. In the U.S., at least in California, hospital staff are required by law to report evidence or ask you about abuse if they see bruises. Even one, if you say a parent struck you, or stangled you, etc.  Do your best.

My mom is really angry with me, what should I do?

Hmmm... the no dating rule is a tricky one. There are plenty of legitimate concerns that a parent can have about their kids dating, but mostly it'a about the parents being afraid for you. First apologize to them for breaking their rule. It's irrelevant if the rule was stupid or not, if you want them to respect you you have to respect them so own up to disobeying them. Then talk to them about their concerns. Why don't they want you to date?What makes 18 better than 17? Why doesn't your mom trust you?Find out what the concerns are, and address them. Your parents are trying to restrict teenage love which in reality is about as practical has holding water in your hands. find a way to help them not worry so much, make concessions to them so that they will make concessions to you. But the entire time you do this you need to be mature and calm. If you lose your temper you'll reinforce the idea that you're not ready for dating. If you need to show displeasure with their behavior , show it in the form of disappointment, not in anger.

When I was a child, when my mom was angry at me, I would be submissive, but why do other people revolt and anger back when I anger at them, why don't they become submissive when I anger at them?

Why are you so angry at others? And who are these others? Are they your children, or are they just random people?You probably became submissive to your mom because she was your mom, and you either respected her or feared her. Do these people on whom you are releasing your ire have reason to respect you? Do you have some sort of authority over them? If not, that is one reason they might not put up with your anger. Do they fear you? Should they fear you? Again, if not, you can't blame them for calling you on your behavior.If anger is your way of dealing with others, I think you need to talk with someone about this. If you don't, one of these days things could escalate, and someone could get hurt.

When I was a child, when my mom was angry at me, I would fear her, I would not revolt, I would be submissive, isn’t anger useful? So can I anger at a person whom I dislike?

When you r angry you are angry.. It is not so much the question can I be angry? What do you do with your anger? If you dislike person you can simply walk away and if not.. It is your anger and so you have to deal with that energy.. That is only there to tell you something.. And that want to be felt.. Supressing your anger is not going to work.. Hurting someone with your anger Also won’t help.. Expres sing it in a health way.. Yes

When did you get angry on your parents?

A2AInitially i felt like not to answer this question but then i thought that by answering this i will be more at ease.I get angry on my parents, I shout on them whenever :they ask me to sleep at 9 pm sharp. ( C’mon, i not a baby)they ask me to get up at 4 am sharp.( C’mon, i am not a saint)they ask me to stay indoors 24*7. ( C’mon, i am human not furniture)they ask me to eat a lumpsome of food in one go. (C’mon i am at my home not in a typical Indian wedding)they ask me to keep mum when i am in full motion of talking.they ask me to speak when i dont even want to utter a single word.They blame my cellphone for the malfunction of each and every cell of my body and for every possible discomfort.Yes, they do all these things. Yes, i shout out.Yes, i still respect their deeds at the end of the day. Yes, i do all these things but only when i am done shouting. Yes, i still love them a lot.Yes, they are always right. Yes, i am always wrong to act like that.I must say : I am the crankiest daughter.They are the loveliest parents.Pardon!

What are some tips to cool my mother down when she is angry on me?

You have a lot to lose when your mother is angry. Whether it was your fault or hers, no problem will be solved when your mother is agitated. Helping your mother calm down will make it easier to troubleshoot the situation and find ways to fix it. You can help your mother de-escalate her emotions with patience, understanding and accountability.Step 1Give your mother some time to calm down. Keep in mind that when a person is angry, the body goes into fight/flight mode. This response diminishes a person's ability to reason, and it will take about 20 minutes for the person to fully recover, explains John R. Schafer, who served as a behavioral analyst for the FBI, in his article "Controlling Angry People" for "Psychology Today." Postpone the conversation until later. Revisit the subject once your mother is visibly more calm and collected.Step 2Allow your mother to vent and talk about what is bothering her. Actively listen to what she has to say without interrupting or judging her. "Once angry people vent their frustrations, they become more open to solutions because they think more clearly when they are not angry," explains Schafer.Step 3Do your best to understand why your mother is angry. Was she worried because you came home past your curfew? Did she feel hurt that you forgot her birthday? Acknowledge and empathize with her feelings. Help your mother identify the feelings causing her anger by naming them. Use statements such as "I understand that you were worried because I didn't answer my phone."Step 4Stay calm and collected. Take a deep breath and relax before you continue with the conversation. In his article "Ten Keys to Handling Unreasonable and Difficult People" for "Psychology Today," Preston Ni, a professor of communication studies, recommends counting to 10. He says,"by the time you reach 10, you would have figured out a better way of communicating the issue, so that you can reduce, instead of escalate the problem."Step 5Take accountability for your role in the situation. Analyze how you could have done things differently to avoid this situation. Apologize to your mother for making her upset. Often, the angry person just needs to hear that the other person is taking responsibility for her actions. Ask what you can do to make reparations or fix the situation.Hope these steps helps you, Thank you