Is it bad to tell someone to stay safe?
SO this guy i use to go to school with just got shot and killed and well i texted the guy i liked and was like Me: Can you do me a favor? please.. Him: Yea whats up Me: Stay SAFE out there. There is to much going on. But i just needed to let you know that even tho i noe u are not dum. But still tho i don't want **** to 2 u k? (forgot the happen Him: Whos dis (he always does that! even tho he has my number in his phone! He does it on purpose) Me: (Nick name he gave Me) and then he didnt text back anymore! Im so confused did he take it badly.. Me and him are koo.. But he can act like a pain in the a** sometimes.. What do you think?? Its been about 30-40 minutues now.. and i feel dumb! did i do something bad?
Is it dumb to stay with someone after they cheated on you? (Even if it has only happened once)
Yes. Once one is betrayed the trust between the parties is broken. The cheated individual will never truly be able to trust the other again, and it generally leads to resentment as well. It is better to cut your losses and start again with someone else who has not betrayed you. Can you ever really be sure it was only once? Can you ever be sure that it will never happen again?I also feel that it is incredibly insulting to stay in a relationship after an event like that because, the partner actually thought that they were more intelligent than you, and that you would never be able to catch in their deception. How could one live in a relationship where clearly your partner has so little respect for you?
Would you stay with someone who cheated on you?
No, Trust is basically the main foundation in a relationship. Like a house, if you don't have the foundation, the house isn't going to stay up.
Should i stay home and take care of baby?
You may want to see your doctor and tell him how you feel. You actually sound OK but I'm a little worried that your flipping the topic from the baby to money is a sign of Postpartum depression. You are a new mother and your feelings may be mixed up. My wife went through this and I didn't handle it very well. I tried to be purely rational about it and that was the wrong thing to do. Take your husband with you if you go so that he understands what is going on. I basically ended up becoming the primary caregiver to my son because of it. I got to enjoy the best of my sons infancy but I know my wife suffered and I was not much help to her. I could have done a better job and I'm sorry that you feel so unsure. Good luck.
Would you stay with someone who won't have sex with you?
For me personally, sex is too important in a relationship to have to forego it. Without sex, we'd just be friends. And as for the second part of your question, without it there never would be a couple.I think your question is more about sexual compatibility though. Would you have a relationship with someone who wanted to have sex every day? As you say yourself, your sex drive is very low. Imagine you would fall in love with someone who has a very high sex drive. What would you do?When sex drives and therefor expectations of a couple's sex life are very different, problems will arise. The one with the higher sex drive feels frustrated, the one with the lower sex drive feels pressured and likely objectified. It puts a huge strain on the relationship which is very hard to deal with.
Why do we stay in love with people who hurt us?
I have a pretty good answer for this. I was madly in love with a guy who really really hurt me everyday. And I was in a relationship with him for almost 8 years.He was madly in love with me from the beginning to the end. Crazy love. And because of that I grew crazy in love with him too. But he was an extremely possessive guy. I won't go into details but it just became crazier and crazier and he demanded a lot of crazy things to prove my love for him. I was crazy about him then and I would really do anything to prove my love. He would reciprocate with the craziest things for me as well. It just grew and grew everyday. Keeping up with this became tougher and tougher for me.Everyone around me saw a change in my personality. I was a fiercely independent girl. but towards him I became very dependent. Everyone around me told me to leave him. I couldn't; I was madly in love.One fine day out of the blue I just couldn't do it anymore. I was crazy in love with him even though he was hurting me everyday. Waking up with swollen eyes everyday was tiresome. That day after 8 years I seriously thought there is something wrong with this relationship. I couldn't understand myself. Why do I love a person so deeply who hurts me everyday?I scheduled an appointment with a psychologist. I poured my heart out. I told her something is wrong with me. I told her I didn't want to leave even though my brain says I'm too hurt to keep continuing. What my psychologist said really opened my mind. She said every couple set a pattern to their relationship within the first 6–8 years. It kind of sets a routine of behaviors that's hard to break out of.She told me I could stay in the relationship and keep fighting through this. He and I would need counseling though. OR I could leave the relationship.I did leave the relationship. It was a blur. I still didn't feel like it's happening even when I said it to him.Anyways so the answer to your question is it has nothing to do with love or hurt. It's the PATTERN cycle love then hurt again love then hurt. It's difficult to get out of that similar to any addiction. That's why we stay in it even though we are hurt.
Is it bad to beg for love?
I told him that i like him but he doesn't feel the same way too.? i told him that i like him but he likes my sister and my sister doesn't like him and i just told him that i'll wait for him and i said that " you don't like me? " he said "no, i'm sorry." and i answer again "even just a little?" and he said "no, i'm sorry .. so sorry .." so i burst into tears and told him that "it's okay ... maybe one day you'll like me and i'll wait for that day .. even if it takes forever .. i love you .. though you don't like me ... even just a little .." i hugged him but he pulled away and i asked him to let me do it for just 5 minutes then i say just 3 minutes .. then he let me .. and he sai afterwards "stop it, you're beautiful .. you're nice and lovable .. you know, you're perfect .. go and find someone else .. " i answered back saying "you said i'm perfect?? does it mean you don't like perfect? tell me i'll do anything so that you'll love me even just a little .. i'm not asking for too much .. is it too embarrassing? i like him so much ..
Is it worth staying with someone just because s/he loves you?
I’ve been there and done that … I thought staying with the person that loves me would be a good deal for me …but overtime, she was happy and I was not happy and I felt like used and that she has taken advantage of me in every way …. she got what she wanted but not me …. I felt like a failure after that ..Those kind of people also used manipulation to get what they need from you …. beware of girls / guys that overwhelm you with love .. it is sometimes fake love ..it’s not a good reason … there are thousands of girls or guys who loved you before too but you are not with them …. if that would be the case, you have been with the maid, with the poor girl down the streets, with the whore at the coffee bar, with stripper , etc ..etc …. they all love you like crazy but you are not with them … why would that person be different from those ? … That is called letting someone choose you to serve their own needs.You should be with someone that you love first and then who loves you back .. Don’t go for less , look until you find that … in that way, it’s satisfying relationship .. a win win situation .. and that way if it doesn’t work out or you end having a kid with him / her then at the end you won’t have anything to regret … I telling you the harsh truth dude … I made that mistake 7 years ago and i deeply regret it till today …