Anal sex is always unbearable?What is going wrong?
Try one finger then two and slowly increase, using lube and relaxing and breathing deeply. Try bearing down first before any finger or penis entry. Is it possible you just really don't want to do this? The anal sphincter can open pretty wide for feces to pass out, but there you have more control and most people can relax more easily. If this is building up to a big worry event for you, perhaps you can't relax. The point of sex is to feel good - if it doesn't, maybe this is not the technique for you. Does it seem like something you would like? If you have trouble imagining it feeling good, that may also be a tip off that this is not for you - at least not now. It's not a requirement. Many people live happy sex lives without anal penetration. The ********* idea might be a good one for you to try alone first - see how it goes when you have complete control of the situation. See if there's anything about it that feels good. Otherwise I think you should give it up for now.
If you had to write a letter to your future girlfriend/wife or boyfriend/husband, what would you write?
Hey there!This is me. Your girlfriend.Right now, when I am writing this, I have 40 days left for my 20th birthday. Yes, I counted. After that, I plunge into my twenties.Twenties- hopefully the decade in which I meet you.I wonder what are you doing right now?Are you in a relationship with someone else? I really hope she doesn't break your heart badly.Are you getting over a bad breakup? She was a b***h anyways.Or are you searching and waiting for me? Well, me too. Same pinch.I can't tell you how excited I am to meet you.I have no idea when or how will we meet, will we have that instant spark of attraction and flirt at first meet, go on a few dates and then one of us proposes, or will we hate each other at first, then become friends, stay in denial of our feelings so that it might not ruin our friendship, and then finally fess it up? Whichever way it is, it will be our story. The story of how we fell in love. And thus, by default, it will be amazing.Can I tell you a small truth? I suck at relationships. Try to love me anyways. I promise I will. I am blunt and honest, most of the times. I might not be able to pick up hundreds of gigantic hints you throw at me, I really beg that you just say it out loud. Less misunderstandings, better communication.I hope you will love me for all my quirks. I know I will love you for all of yours.Also, I love birthdays. I am kinda like Lily from HIMYM with regards to birthdays. And coffee. And beaches. But you must know all that by now.I wonder how long we will have to wait before we meet each other. I wish we meet soon. But again, I know the waiting will be worth it.When I show this diary entry to you, I would love to see your reactions. Can't wait!Your loving girlfriend <3
Is there anyone who got his/her ex back by using no contact rule?
Yes, there are, but not because no contact "works"i it’s because you cannot get the space you need to understand what you need to do to change and make things work for the better without no contact.I'm a relationship expert, and I've been doing this for years- prior to that, I worked as therapist for people of all ages, genders, and orientations.One of the biggest mistakes that I see people making is to go no contact with the hope that it will allow them to get their ex back, and unfortunately I see a lot of the so-called "gurus" (who, by the way, usually have no formal training other than having been in relationships) encouraging this. The point of no contact is to help you move on, to learn how to live without them- which is important to be sure that you want to get back together, but once again, it's not the point.A lot of couples get back together because they don't know what else to do. They breakup, it feels shitty, they didn't feel as shitty in the relationship, so they get back together. They didn't have the time to work through the issues that caused the breakup in the first place, to work on themselves and be happy solo (which is the best way to be happy in a relationship), so they end up right back where they were.Later, rinse, repeat, and that's how you end up with on again off again relationships.No contact is what gives you space to learn to be without them, to find out what YOU want outside of the partnership. Relationships are about sharing yourself, inviting that special someone into the life you love, that you have created- so after a breakup you really need that space to figure that out (without them in it). You have to let go in order to let in healthy, lasting love.So to answer your question, if getting back together is an option, and if you want to do it the right way, then yes, no contact is absolutely in order- and it still is, even if getting back together isn't.
Does suicide with pills hurt?
A friend of mine tried to commit suicide by saving up his prescription psychology drugs. He planned to take a handful which would indeed put one into a deep sleep to the point where the body would slow to the point of a shut down, basically he would simply quit breathing and never wake up. However, he made a critical miscalculation in his plan. He thought that if he downed all those pills with straight vodka he would pass out all the faster, a little insurance if you will to make sure he died as fast as possible with no chance of survival. Well, little did he know that all that vodka mixed with all those pills would trigger the body's immune system for which he began to vomit everything up and yet some of the pills had already dissolved and he is quickly going into a comma. Ironically, the apartment manager came by and found him on the floor, unresponsive. In the emergency room two doctors and three nurses worked against time to force charcoal down his throat to absorb the poisons. He was then placed on life support but the doctors did not know if he would make it or if he would have any brain damage. He was in as comma for a week, coming in and out, sitting up for a couple of seconds and yelling uncontrollably. On the seventh day he came out of the coma with no brain damage. The answer to your question is that it depends on what you take, how you take it, your body chemistry and the luck of the draw. Do it right and you will just go to sleep and feel nothing, do it wrong or be found before death and you could wake up a total vegetable wearing a diaper and being fed through a tube Finally, I will end by stating the obvious, suicide is risky and there are other options in life. Best Wishes.
How do i change my girlfriends mind and make her feel better about her self?
It's not hard to see that you love her. But you cannot help her. She needs to be willing to help herself. I don’t think that she is willing to help herself. I hate to say this, but your girlfriend should not even be in a relationship. She has too many issues that she needs to work on. You are her boyfriend, and not her therapist. And that is what she needs. Your girlfriend should be in counseling. Your girlfriend has been through a lot. But she is bringing her past into your relationship. If your girlfriend does not get the help that she needs then, she will never be able to hold to a relationship. The only way that you can help her is to encourage her to get professional help. Your relationship won't last if she doesn't get the help that she needs. As time goes by, you will start to get fed up, and you will no longer have the energy to continue to tell her how beautiful she is. The fact that she doesn’t believe anything that you tell her should be a sign that she is not willing to change her life around. Is that the kind of relationship that you want to be in? Getting involved with someone with issues that have not been dealt with is very risky. If she doesn’t want to go for the help that she needs then that should tell you that you will never have a healthy relationship with her. ***Edit*** It can no longer be just about her. You need to think about you also. She will take you down with her if she does not get the help that she needs. You are not in a healthy relationship because her ex is right in between the two of you. The fact that she could not leave the past in the past, and she carried her ex in your relationship should tell you that she needs helps. She will drain you out if she doesn’t change her life around. You need to tell her that if she doesn’t get the help that she needs that you don’t know how much longer you can go on this way.
My daughter's friend's mom spanked my daughter!!!?
Everyday after school, my 6 year old daughter goes over to her friends house for a play date. The mother is a good friend of mine and I've known her since our childhood. Today when my daughter came home she told me this (I will translate.) My daughter's friend has a little brother and he was playing outside in their sandbox. My daughter's friend (Nadia) went over to him and told him that the girls would be playing in there. Her brother said no, so Nadia started throwing sand on his head. My daughter joined in and got his in his eyes. When they were done, her brother was crying and screaming and ran into the house. He told his mom what happened, and she screamed out the window for the girls to come in. She sat them down and lectured down. Then she sat down on the couch put Nadia over her lap and spanked her ten times, then did the same with my daughter. What am I to do?