How do you keep yourself disciplined?
During the Indian Police Service (IPS) training, our daily morning PT (physical training) used to start with a warmup run of four laps (total 1.6 KM). It felt super hard in week one. We thought it will become easier once we got used to it, maybe after a few months.Here is the surprise: It never got easier. Running the four warmup laps was always painful, even when we were fit enough to do a cross country of 16 KM.The path of discipline is not easy, and will never be easy. Period.Why is it so hard to stay disciplined?Because we allow our mind to interfere in the path of discipline. Why do we fail to get up early in the morning? Because the mind says, “You are so tired and sleep deprived. Just sleep for 5 minutes more and it will be fine”. Then 5 becomes 10, and it is all the way downhill after that.We allow the fallacy that we will get up early or eat healthy or study well or do the right thing when we get used to it and it becomes a little easier.But it will NEVER get easier. It will never be easy to get up at 5 am, every single day of the year. Not now, not after 10 years.So what should you do? The answer is trivially simple, but also very hard. You have to stop listening to your mind. Just stop. No concession to what your mind says.When you have to do something hard, you have to become a robot. It does not matter how you feel. Who cares? Just execute the plan like a machine. That is the only way.If you decide to go for a run, get up and run. You will feel groggy and your legs will hurt. The pain you feel is exactly the pain everybody else feels. The pain of discipline is the price of happiness.People who win are those who keep going, regardless of how much it hurts.
Is it possible that Jesus was actually in Paradise with the thief on the very day that Jesus died?
Sorry, but your assumption is old, not new. There is not a single example in all of the bible where anyone ever says, "I say this today..." You are obviously ignorant of Greek or you wouldn't have asked such a question. Do you know what the Greek word "paradise" is translated from? You should try studying before blurting out such rhetorical gibberish. Edit: "kind thoughtful and gracious people?" My God, have you ever opened a Bible? Jesus was not so "kind thoughtful and gracious" when he overturned the tables of the money exchangers! Or when He was calling the legalists "vipers," and "full of dead-men's bones." "Kindness" and "Graciousness" are coddling words for those who know nothing about the Bible, or the God who authored it. Mat 7:21 Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven. Mat 7:22 Many will say to me in that day, Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in thy name? and in thy name have cast out devils? and in thy name done many wonderful works? Mat 7:23 And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity.
Did you ever find out what the narcissist said about you to other people when they started a smear campaign against you and did you feel the need to defend yourself?
Hindsight is always 20/20. The seeds of the smear campaign are typically planted while everything still seems to be going great in the manipulationship. This is further evidence of how paranoid and dysfunctional Narcissists are.They’ll drop small hints that there’s trouble in paradise but you’ll likely never hear about any of it until it’s too late. They’ll tell friends or family how you’ve got a temper, or a drinking problem, you’re mentally unstable, that they’ve seen you talking to other potential partners, that you’ve lied to them, etc. again, you likely won’t see or hear about this but you may notice that their friends slowly start to act differently around you. Lots of triangulation going on as well. My ex told me all sorts of awful things about everyone she claimed to be friends with so that I wouldn’t want to hang out with them. Then she’d tell those same friends that I didn’t like them and didn’t want to be around them to compartmentalize her relationships and keep us from ever learning the truth. So now that those seeds of a smear campaign are planted unbeknownst to you, later on during the discard, they can simply remind others about when they voiced their concerns over you in the past and it makes their lies and half-truths seem more credible.So when the Narcissist rolls out the full smear campaign at the end of the manipulationship, most folks don’t know what the hell is going on. They’re traumatized, in shock, they’ve been gaslit to the point that they doubt themselves, and now all these horrendous claims are being made about them. It can be a very isolating and invalidating experience.Personally, I didn’t know what I didn’t know. I knew nothing of NPD or sociopathy. I didn’t know what a lack of empathy looks like in day-to-day life to see the signs. So at first I did try to defend myself and I reached out to friends we had in common. But they all suddenly acted as though I belonged in a mental institute and needed serious help. I’m sure I was raw and I can see how it must’ve looked but defending myself by trying to counter the smearing claims Didnt get me anywhere. In fact it seemed to further validate the ex-Narc fiancés claims as I mentally and emotionally imploded and she joyfully hopped immediately into her new manipulationship days after being engaged to me and all her friends/family seemed soo excited. It was like the twilight zone. Just insane.
I want to get my ex girlfriend back.but she love or like another guy?
in past time i love a girl.but she left me and now she love another guy.i want to get her back.she says that "she never love me" but according to me she is telling a lie.in past time she like and love me a lot.but now she like another boy.she called him daily but never answer my text messages.what i do.i can't live without her.i am in a painful situation.she spend a lot of time with me in past and many time she say "i love u' to me.but now she is saying that she not love me.what i do.?